Two miscarriages in a row

[Hannahcats]

I've just had my second missed miscarriage in six months and I'm feeling so devastated. Both I've only had pink stained mucus and cramping that I didn't know if it was normal or not as I've never had a successful pregnancy. Both detected at scans in EPAU units at 8 weeks. I desperately want a family but I don't know if I'll be able to go through this again. Even before I found out about this miscarriage I was questioning whether or not I could handle a pregnancy due to high levels of anxiety, but I just don't feel supported by the health service - after the last MC I asked my GP for support and I didn't even get an appointment - they just texted me the NHS page on miscarriage. It feels so cruel. Once was awful but two feels like a pattern and the emotional pain is unbearable. I don't know how to begin to get through this and look to the future. I have mild hypothyroidism, treated and levels looked fine when I got tested at 6 weeks. I'm 34 so feels like time could be running out.

Hey, sorry for your losses. I have had two mc too which started with very light brown/pink discharge and lots of people told me not to worry about it - but then I miscarried.

This time I’m taking aspirin (150mg) and progesterone- I haven’t been tested for anything as I’ve only had two but my midwife doesn’t mind me taking the aspirin and I got the progesterone privately. They’re both on a ‘can’t hurt, might help basis’. I feel so much better feeling like I’ve done something that could help this time around.

I’m 9 weeks now and haven’t bled yet which is a record for me. We won’t know what’s going on until 12 weeks as we’ve chosen not to have an early scan unless I start bleeding or something. So I’m just hoping for the best and I feel like it’s a good sign.

My husband also takes vitamins to improve his sperm quality.

It’s really hard - after my mcs I thought maybe it’s never going to happen for me, but once you try again and do get pregnant you just really want it to work out! It is so hard and it’s such a long slog each time - after the initial shock and sadness of a mc you have to wait weeks to stop bleeding, then there’s the two week wait after ovulating, and then there’s the wait until 12 weeks. It’s all such an anxious time.

I’m 33 and also feel like I really want it to happen - I know I’m still relatively young but I’m just really hoping this time it works out. Going through loss is just so draining and sad xxx

Happened to me as in two losses in a row.

When I got pregnant again (7 weeks after my ERPC following the miscarriage) I took 150mg of aspirin every day.

It might not make you feel any better but my third pregnancy was successful so there is some hope. Take care of yourself.

@Mummyof2Terrors I see a lot of aspirin success stories and it really gives me hope 💕 it seems to help so many women xx

Hi - I am sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages in a row and it is so cruel. We nearly didn't try again. My partner said to try one more time and we did and now we have a beautiful son.

I find Nhs care really lacking for miscarriage support. With my first we found out at a private scan that the heart had stopped. My epu couldn't see me for a week.

It's a tough decision and once the initial grief lifts hopefully you can make a decision. This last pregnancy - I took week by week and didn't look too far to the future.

[quote Cafeaulait27]@Mummyof2Terrors I see a lot of aspirin success stories and it really gives me hope 💕 it seems to help so many women xx[/quote]
80p a box from Wilko, b&m or homebargains. It's the low dose stuff. As I never had investigations I can't sit and claim it's the reason why I have my DS but I truly believe it is. I'm pregnant again and took aspirin from bfp and I'm now 24 weeks. Either I was hideously unlucky with the miscarriages or the aspirin was needed.

Thanks for your reply and I really hope it works out for you this time. Really interesting to hear about the aspirin. I think I definitely need a few months off - it is really draining and I feel like it's ruined my memories of the last 8 months (including my wedding when I thought I was pregnant and then...) and I feel like I need to have some carefree time, although it's hard to feel carefree with this hanging over me. The idea of not being able to have kids is so massive and awful. Sending positive thoughts to you!

Thanks so much everyone. It's comforting to hear some hope. Xx

I’m so sorry for your loss. It is truly devastating. I had 2 MC last year back to back. It took sometimes for my body to get back to normal and I’m now in my 3rd trimester. Sending you positive thoughts and big hugs xx

My heart goes out to you. I just fell pregnant after my missed miscarriage in December and it's so hard to feel calm about this one. I'm only 4 weeks 2 and had the lightest pink on wiping, one occasion only, last week. Didn't happen in the previous pregnancy. I do wonder if it meant anything.... Fingers crossed we'll get our rainbow babies. I wish you all the best xx

Hi there OP
I also had two early miscarriages in a row, started taking aspirin as others have mentioned and this was immediately after BFP. I've just given birth to a perfect gorgeous baby girl two weeks ago! Don't give up hope, although I know you will feel it isn't going to happen for you there are lots of amazing positive stories xx

@Hannahcats
So sorry to hear about your losses, I've had a similar experience and am also feeling quite battered and bruised from it all. MMC in November and CP in February. We conceived on our first try and felt very lucky and now 5 months later we've been through so much and are no closer to a baby.

Do you know that some clinics will allow you to be referred for tests and treatment after two losses? I'm on an NHS waiting list now, with my first appointment in early June. I also saw a private consultant last week who has prescribed me progesterone and high dose folic acid without doing any tests. She said they're given as standard with IVF as they help support early pregnancy. Progesterone is particularly good because when you're very anxious (as I was with both pregnancies) your body doesn't produce it as well. I've also started taking low-dose aspirin (75mg) because research seems to show 'it won't hurt' and can help the formation of blood supply in the early stages. The consultant I saw didn't recommend taking aspirin but, like the other ladies on here, I've read research on Google Scholar and it seems like it's worth a try.

My LH surge was back to normal two weeks after my CP, whereas it took two months to be back up to a high level after the MMC, hopefully that means my body is recovering quickly because it was an earlier loss.

For me, getting on a waiting list and having medication to try during our next pregnancy is helping me to keep positive. But it's hard for it not to become all you think about. Best of luck. I'm sure we will get our rainbow babies eventually x

I'm the same as @Mummyof2Terrors. My first two pregnancies ended in miscarriages but my third pregnancy was successful. I also took aspirin in that pregnancy, although it was a lower dose (75mg). Speak to your GP, mine basically said I had nothing to lose taking it. As for the anxiety, I found counselling helped although I only got that after my third miscarriage. I wish I'd got it sooner. Mindfulness techniques as a distraction when you're laying in bed awake worrying are also good. Distraction can really help. I hope that your next pregnancy is successful, in the meantime take care of yourself.

@Hannahcats I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had miscarriages. They’re truly heartbreaking.

I’m 38 and in the last 12 months suffered 4 miscarriages. One at 9 weeks, the others at 6 weeks.

After the last one I decided to start myself on 150mg aspirin from ovulation.

I’m currently 13+2 and so far things are going well.

I was also put on progesterone by the EPU which I’m to stay on until 16 weeks.

I’d honestly all but given up hope. Assumed my eggs were just too old now and poor quality.

Feel blessed to be where I am now but certainly not feeling out of the woods yet.

Don’t lose hope though. Take a break if you need to, I don’t think I realised how much the losses had affected me until this pregnancy and as a result I’ve been overly anxious and had almost weekly scans from 5+4 until last week!

Good luck x