9weeks pregnant, no sex

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Hi all, I'm 9weeks today and not had sex since bfp!

I work 40+ hours a week, hubby just under, we moved house 4 weeks ago, I have nausea on and off, always knackered.

A combination of time, low energy and I think a worry about causing bleeding/damage is stopping us.

Anyone else in the same position?

We definitely are for exactly the same reasons as you list - In all honesty, I’d probably end up vomiting if we tried to have sex at the mo, I’m 9+3 today

My OH has been super understanding and hasn’t so much hinted at it. I’m hoping once the second trimester rolls around, I’ll feel a bit more up for it. Feel a bit bad for him! From what I’ve read, this is perfectly normal though so don’t worry about it, you definitely won’t be alone!

Yes - 11 weeks and might have done it 2/3 times, can’t say I really enjoyed it as I have severe nausea so even kissing was off limits as it makes me wretch x

I'm 37+2. Haven't had sex since July 10, when this little guy was conceived. Dh feels weird about it and I can't be asked/ feel like a whale/ was sick/ have pgp!!!

Didn't have sex during dd's pregnancy either. Sex life never did get back to normal after her birth and this one was a total surprise (dd was ivf after infertility so I think we were a bit shagged out after two and a half years ttc!!).

Change things if you're bothered by it. Otherwise, just go with the flow!

I don’t feel sexy at all (other than one night a few weeks ago where I woke up and jumped my husband!) and I’m also worried about bleeding as I had that in my last pregnancy after sex. I feel very fragile and worried about my baby getting squished even though I’m only 9 weeks.

We do still have sex because we feel it’s important for our relationship but we tend to do other things and I actually don’t let him put it all the way in (sorry tmi) as I’m so worried about bleeding or irritating my cervix xxx

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Hi all, I'm 9weeks today and not had sex since bfp!

I work 40+ hours a week, hubby just under, we moved house 4 weeks ago, I have nausea on and off, always knackered.

A combination of time, low energy and I think a worry about causing bleeding/damage is stopping us.

Anyone else in the same position?

Me and husband didn't from conception to 6 weeks post birth ds1 as he didn't like the idea of it. I was annoyed but we survived. 24 weeks with this one and did it once at 10 weeks and he's not been keen since.

I think I had sex twice in total during my pregnancy. I felt horrendously nauseous until week 17 and just had no sex drive after that.

My twins are 2 months old we havent had sex since before they were conceived ( no not a miracle birth!....these were frozen ivf embryos!)

25 weeks here and nothing going on in that department for us. I go right off it and it's painful when pregnant for me. DH would but understands and having been the same when pregnant with DD he knows I'll get my mojo back when my periods return PP. In the grand scheme of things pregnancy and the newborn stage are a short period of time we've years ahead to catch up. Hopefully at 9 weeks you might only be a few weeks off your nausea passing, mine did at about 14 weeks.

13 weeks on Monday and we’ve only done it twice since finding out and even then I’ve initiated it because I felt a like I missed the connection more than because I was feeling like it. I have been feeling so dreadful with sickness and vomiting. He’s been super understanding and hasn’t initiated anything which I appreciate it because it would even consume too much energy to say no or push him off. I’ve been in bed most nights from 8pm with fatigue. Luckily he’s been hooked on a Netflix show with a gazillion episodes so that’s keeping him busy.

28 weeks for me and none since conception, DH finds it too weird and I have had no sex drive so I'm not bothered

Why do you think guys find it weird to have sex with their pregnant partners? (For those partners who do find it weird)
My OH did find it weird at first too..

First trimester I did feel too tired but after that I still had my sex drive.
Both pregnancies, have been having sex when I could but as I get bigger it’s harder and more uncomfortable 😩

Btw, I’ve always wondered.. when you get the membrane sweep (or when I did) the midwife said she could feel the baby’s head and she had a lot of hair. So I’m thinking if you’re having sex.. is there a possibility that the penis would be poking the baby?! Is that a stupid question?? 😬

I was off it too. The one time I did feel like it was at 14wk, I had spotting after so that put me off again.

I’m really surprised to hear that peoples partners are finding it weird. My husband keeps saying he’s really turned on by it all, and it’s me who feels really anxious about it! Xx

Some men are really turned on about pregnant women. It's an ancient thing to do with knowing a woman is fertile so more desirable.

Lots of men don't like it. Worried about hurting baby or partner, the thought of the baby being there can be a turn off etc. All reactions normal.

I too am the same and I am 8+3, feeling sick in the evenings but so so tired that I am in bed every night from 9 or before! Poor DH!

Nah absolutely no chance. I’ll either vomit or it’ll be shit.

I will probably start again in the 2nd tri but when I got huge last time we didn’t bother.

I felt a little bad because DP didn’t stop looking at me like he fancied me but I just wasn’t interested at all 😂.

I recall in my 2nd pregnancy being off sex from weeks 7 to 13 (when I felt generally shite) and then there was an upswing in libido which continued until close to the end. Not just a higher libido but also changes like (much) easier orgasm. My partner was keen too, but he went off it from when I was 32/33 weeks. He said it was because he could feel the baby moving.

39 weeks today and haven't since we conceived.
Felt pretty crap first trimester, lots of pain and tired 2nd, then as bump developed my DP fell into the feeling weird camp.
I'm not so bothered...still lots of cuddles and he's affectionate towards bump too.
Just hope we find time was bump is here.

I'm 10+2 and we've not dtd since finding out... I'm more anxious to get to the 12wk scan and announcing to our families for our peace of mind/relief.

Actually missing the intimacy with hubby right now, but the combination of our different shift work, flailing energy levels from me, hubby working overtime has nixayed the action right now....

😴

We haven't had sex since we got the BFP. I want to but I'm scared that it could cause spotting and then it'll bring me anxiety. I hear a few ladies say "it's normal to bleed a little or spot after sex" but if it happens I'll panic and want to get checked out!

Has anyone had any bleeding or spotting after sex?

We've had sex twice. The first time was early on and I got some bleeding a few days later. The other was at about 12 weeks. I'm now 24 weeks. DH feels weird DTD when he can feel baby wriggling around. Frankly my back hurts too much to care.

I can really recommend pregnant sex. I’m in the third trimester and we haven’t let up at all other than maybe a few times in the first trimester when I felt sick. It’s well known that female orgasms in the second and third trimester are off the charts good! I can vouch for that if you can get over the hurdles. 🥴

@DoveGreylove I did at 14wk and it was terrifying as this baby follows 2 miscarriages and some chemicals. Never had spotting after sex in my other term pregnancies though.