Just found out I’m pregnant help

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Hi everyone ,

Wondering if I can get some advice, I have yesterday found out I’m pregnant and can’t stop crying this most definitely was not planned and has been the biggest shock ever. I just don’t know what to do I am 23 I have my own home with partner I’ve been with for four years.. however for me the time just doesn’t feel right. I feel awful the fact that I’m not happy and over the moon as most people are when they find out - I feel so low and can’t stop crying. Is it true that when you know the times right you feel it yourself and know?
Has anybody been in my situation and gone ahead with it even though you couldn’t stop crying when you found out ?

Thanks

Hi op. If you're not ready you're under no obligation to have a baby or be happy about it! Plenty of women on Mumsnet will have sought a termination when younger and gone on to have much wanted babies years later. Plenty of women your age will have been happy to get pregnant and have babies younger.
It's absolutely your choice.
Have you spoken to your partner?
I had a termination in my late teens and it wasn't scary and didn't hurt and I've never regretted it. I wasnt ready for a baby so I chose not to have one. You have choices - do what is right for you.

If you want an abortion you could call Marie Stopes. They'll be able to tell you what they could do for you or whether you need to see your GP.

I have not been on your position but wanted you to know that you have no obligation to be over the moon. I tried to get pregnant for over a year so very much planned and wanted and then when it happened felt all sorts of emotions, positive and negative. It's such a complicated thing with no 'right' reaction.

You have options. You don't have to make decisions today. You will be ok.

'Is it true that when you know the times right you feel it yourself and know?'

Nope. Loads of people react like this when they find out. If you decide to go through with it you may come around. But you don't have to continue the pregnancy if you don't want to! There's absolutely no reason why you should.

I was similar to you in that I got pregnant at 24, having been with my partner for a few years. It wasn't planned and it just felt so wrong. I was in tear for a good week before I realised that this wasn't what I wanted. I booked in and had a termination.

A few years later at 27, I realised it was the right time for me to have a baby and we have gone on to have 2 little girls.

I think I would give it a week or 2 and see if you feel any different before making any decisions. How does your partner feel about having a baby?

Aww hun if your not ready then your not ready. No one can decide what you want to do or how you feel. Either way it will work itself out and maybe it's ment to be. It's a big decision having a baby and your life does change but I've never regretted having our little boy and wanting my old life back. All I will say is you are young and you have plenty of time to have children. I'm 32 and I tell all my younger friends at work just enjoy yourself xxx

Thankyou so much you’ve all really helped it’s nice to get some advice from people other than my mum and partner. He said he will support me either way and would be happy to go ahead but also understands mentally I’m not ready. I just feel so confused I have taken about 8 tests hoping for a negative and that it’s not real.
On paper people would think I should go ahead as I have my own house been in my job a few years and my boyfriend for 4years but I just don’t feel like it’s for me right now.
I want to enjoy my life a bit more and become successful within my career and then maybe have a baby and hopefully I’d be happy about it then. I feel so selfish and guilty for thinking that when I’ve got myself in this situation.
I know it’s not right for me -but I’m scared I will regret it forever and constantly beat myself up about it xx