41 and want to conceive

[Mumsykate]

Hi
So firstly I would like to apologise for the huge paragraph I am about to write.
So I am 41 just turned very healthy for my age, I have two amazing children both boy and girl with a big age gap (15 years) I have finally met the perfect man who doesn't have any children but really wants to become a dad, however I am really worried I can't give him a child, I am 41 and we have only been trying for 6 months, the past two weeks I have suffered mild head aches everyday and only yesterday I had some pink discharge (sorry) I have never had regular periods but my last one after stopping the pill began on the 08/02/2021 I am hoping this pink show could be implantation.
Anyway what I am asking is are there any 40+ people out there that have conceived and what symptoms did you have as I am wondering if being older the symptoms could be different than my previous pregnancies when I was younger.

35 weeks pregnant with DC4, 19 years after DC1. My AMH and AFC were practically non existent but that made little difference. My TSH was 4.5 so I started levo and its now 1.5. I concieved first try once TSH was stable.

Very light pink spotting was my only early symptom!

I read 2nd Ed It Starts with the Egg and took some of those supplements.

Good luck! I feel great, much less tired than 10 years ago.

ps am 41!

I turned 41 2 weeks ago and found out I was pregnant on my birthday

Still early days do hoping it works out

Ive ttc for last 2 years and have had 2 misses

I also have 2 children and youngest is 6

There's quite a few over 40s on the conception boards. I'm TTC over 40. Had two early losses last year. Really hoping for a pregnancy that sticks soon.

I was 43 when I conceived. I already had an 8 year old so knew straightaway I was pregnant before I even did the test. I just knew. Did a test and was positive think this was week 5. Followed by horrendous morning sickness weeks 7-13.
Exactly the same symptoms as previous pregnancy. Also the exhaustion in the beginning was massive. Was having an afternoon sleep. Luckily this subsided once halfway through

I turn 41 in 2 days. I have a 12 month old and am 9 weeks pregnant. I thought I was pregnant before I even took a test, I got the same type of dreams I did with all of my previous pregnancies (had 2 MCs and 1 rainbow baby), which is what prompted me to test. My cycles hadn't settled down and gone back to normal since having DC.

Good luck, hoping you do get a BFP and sticky bean!

I'm 40, 10 weeks pregnant, will be 41 when baby is here if all goes to plan.

I took prenacare supplements; doesn't work for everyone and some say their periods are knocked off so hard for fertility planning - I had none of that though and fell quickly.

Had a very faint bleed on the 1st day my period should have been; 1st symptom.
Breasts grew (they were already huge and I'm a little overweight, eurgh) and were itchy? sensitive? don't know how to describe it.
Then about week 4/5 weeks food aversion & nausea, bloating, tiredness, constipation, skin breakouts - all kicked in

Those were my symptoms personally.

Good luck!!

Is this the right place to question what you are doing? From the way you have worded your post this is all about him and what he wants. How will another child impact you and your two other children? Can you afford the cost (emotionally, physically and financially) of becoming a single mother if it comes to that? If a child was high on his list of priorities do you think there is a reason he pursued a relationship with someone older in the fertility window and with two children? Don't have a child to "give him" a child fgs!

@CherryDocsInYrBalls

Is this the right place to question what you are doing? From the way you have worded your post this is all about him and what he wants. How will another child impact you and your two other children? Can you afford the cost (emotionally, physically and financially) of becoming a single mother if it comes to that? If a child was high on his list of priorities do you think there is a reason he pursued a relationship with someone older in the fertility window and with two children? Don't have a child to "give him" a child fgs!

You can't do that on MN. Has to all be stories about how it goes off without a hitch and people have loads of kids in their 40s.

I agree with you, however.

‘I am worried I can’t give him a child’.

Why, is that a condition of the relationship?
Most couples ‘have a child’ not give them as a kind of gift?

We both work full time and have good jobs we have a very large house , my oldest has her own place my son would love to be a big brother, we have both talked about this and it's what We BOTH want and who said he was younger ? so your opinion is a bit pointless really as why would I post or even consider wanting another if this wasn't thought about seriously.

I never said this would hinder are relationship it's just something we both want and if it happens it happens if it dsnt then I am more than blessed with my two children I only asked for peoples experiences not their opinions thank you

Shocked by the last few messages on this thread (not OPs). What gives you the right @CherryDocsInYrBalls to question someone's reasons for conceiving a child? Would you say something like that to a stranger face to face?

There's nothing in @Mumsykate's post that is concerning anyway. Families come in all different shapes and forms.

Also 'give him a child' is just a turn of phrase. Bizarre how people think they can just comment on other people's lives on here. So rude!

@Mumsykate You can't ask any questions in here and mention your DH's thoughts or feelings without someone telling you how oppressed and stupid you are.

Sorry you've had it, it happens quite a lot under the banner of feminism, which it's not.

I’m 41 had my first child just before my 40th birthday. Have been trying for rainbow baby No.2 since sadly three miscarriages later and no luck but that won’t stop me trying.
Good luck I’ve read many posts on here of women well in their 40’s having successful pregnancies xx

Thank you for the heads up, my very first time posting and I get people like this, guess it's bound to happen. Xx

So sorry but also good luck 🤞🏼 I just feel more ready and more prepared being older xx I wish you all the luck in the world 🌎 x

I was never pregnant before I turning 40 so have nothing to compare it to. I definitely felt implantation pain with my first, and was nauseous for almost all of it. Very strong positive line. Had him at 41. My next one I was unsure, positive line was faint, did it again, still faint, finally had a scan (I'm type 1 diabetic so had to go to hospital throughout pregnancy) at ten weeks snd there she was. Had her at 43. Both conceived after trying for four months. Now 15 and 17! I've been a widow since they were 4 and 6 so all this talk of age and so on is stupid- you never know what will happen and when.