2 or 3 kids?

[Pokerface12]

Really struggling with this feeling I’m not done with babies.

We have a big enough house but would need a new car. I do have age on my side just I’m 33/34. Two older children are girl and boy ( so not just trying for a certain sex). We can afford it but it’s all the extra cost I think about that puts me off, if we go on holiday it’s 1k per person say that’s 4K vs 5k etc

I’m thinking about environmental impact too, should we have more than 2 children in general?

But I keep coming back to I would love another child (I’m not the biggest fan of the baby stage).

I worry if I have enough attention and love to spread round 3. But we would have 3/4 age gaps between all kids so they would be at preschool / school.

Anyone else really over think this? Did you know you were done?

@Pokerface12 yes I did and now I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my third. We would go through stages where we would say either yes let's do it or no 2 is the right number for us but it boiled down to what we would regret more. So would you regret not having a third or having a third and thinking we should have stuck at 2? Not that you would love that child any less if that makes sense. For me I had a dull ache in my heart that just wouldn't go away at the thought of not trying again, so knew I would always have a feeling like part of our jigsaw is missing x

I think I would regret it but I’m not sure my OH would. You are right, we don’t have to decide right now we have another 6 months etc

@Pokerface12 hopefully you can both agree on the best option but it does need to be down to you. Good luck x

Also pregnant with my third. Didn’t feel “done” after 2, always wanted 3, I know this will be us complete. We will have age gaps of 7 and 5 years with older 2 and 3 but I feel really comfortable with that, they’ll be in school and settled and much more “involved” with their sibling than if they’d still been say toddlers! Cost of holidays is a factor sure but it’s just about better saving/ budgets. If you stay in a villa as opposed to hotels accommodation doesn’t necessarily have to rise, it’s just flights. So another £250-£400 for Europe which isn’t too bad.

Like @DollyParton2 I’m also pregnant with my 3rd. I just didn’t feel done after 2 and we always knew we’d like a big family. We initially used to say 4 kids but once we had two we realised how much hard work it is. I 100% feel done already with this one and feels so peaceful to know that. We also will have a 7 and 5 year age gap between the older two and the baby and I think that will be a nice gap for them and for me as I found the 2 year gap so bloody hard. Older two will be at school and I’ll be able to focus on the baby.

I always told myself if I’m constantly thinking of “should I have another” it means I’ll regret it if I don’t. Sometimes you just have to listen to what your heart says.

I did get super nervous and worried I made the wrong choice when I found out I was pregnant with 3rd but I think it was just shock and hormones as now I am so excited and happy.

Good luck