Name suggestions from others

[Chelyanne]

Anyone else find it a bit annoying when people throw in name suggestions for baby?

Maybe I'm I just a grump lol

Not just you! DP's family keep "suggesting" names and seem genuinely miffed that we know the gender but haven't told them what we've chosen. And my family keep chipping in with "well I hope you don't choose X. That was your auntie's ex-husband's son's name and we all know how he turned out". Just as annoying!

Yes - hate it. We now tell DPs family a different name each time they ask - something ridiculous but believable and enjoy their reaction. This came about after we initially did tell them a few names we liked and they said they were all awful (they’re not - pretty mainstream tbh), and “would never name a child that”. Fun!

My friend told me years ago when she was expecting, not to mention names you like to anyone until baby was here and it was too late for opinions. Everyone will have an opinion but nobody (or at least, nobody decent) will share any negative ones when it's already a done deal.

I have either just said "oh, we've not really thought yet" or outright said "we're not discussing names with anyone" depending on who asks. My mum is desperate to know, but as she's the one who most likes to have opinions on everything (eg: "you can't walk down the aisle to [perfectly lovely classical music], it was used in a cigarette advert in the 60s!") I just repeat as above.

If someone suggested a name to use it would probably cross it off the list for me to be honest 😂 don't think I could deal with the "I picked the name!" Nonsense!

Yes! When I was about to give birth to my son I told a lady at work (who I didn't know too well at all) the name we were going to use and had been settled on for weeks and she said "oh that's absolutely awful, I can't stand it. You still have time to change your mind" and walked out the break room. I couldn't believe it! We did use the name and I haven't seen her since 😂

Never tell names until they’re born! And just smile and say you’re still deciding when people make suggestions.

Just smile and nod and make a hmm that's interesting non committal kind of sound when anybody suggests anything.

Definitely keep your own suggestions to yourself. When people ask me/DH we just say we have a shortlist and will decide when she's here.

Nooo I need all the help naming the baby as I can get! I'm too fussy so the more ideas, the better.

Well it seems I'm not alone.

My SIL has got far too excited about our baby and went from barely speaking to me to messaging me all the time. She suggested her middle name as a name for baby... I just said it doesn't fit in with our naming theme lol.

My MIL sent me a whole list of names they liked and said that DH had asked her to (He didn't) she then sent me a baby name book from the 70's, I just smiled and said thanks and that was it. She was insistent that we had the name decided before the due date so she could do some embroidery and we refused to confirm our choice until she was born

So annoying! I'm really struggling to find a name I like so people keep trying to help but we've gone through thousands so yes we've already thought of Thomas thanks! I know people are trying to help but some get so offended if you don't like the name they thought of that you have to make up all sorts of reasons for not wanting the name.

DH has one in mind that I don't hate and made the mistake of mentioning it to my dad who responded with "you can't call him that, he'll get the shit kicked out of him". It's taken 6 months to find a name I don't hate and your response is to ruin it, thanks.

@Tarantallegra

So annoying! I'm really struggling to find a name I like so people keep trying to help but we've gone through thousands so yes we've already thought of Thomas thanks! I know people are trying to help but some get so offended if you don't like the name they thought of that you have to make up all sorts of reasons for not wanting the name.

DH has one in mind that I don't hate and made the mistake of mentioning it to my dad who responded with "you can't call him that, he'll get the shit kicked out of him". It's taken 6 months to find a name I don't hate and your response is to ruin it, thanks.

Argh, that’s annoying! It’s so bloody difficult naming a real life human.

We’ve got a shortlist and will decide when she’s born.

Boys names are so difficult. It took us forever to decide on a name for DS.

My MIL suggested some names at the start! My other half also slipped up and said the name we are set on and she keeps ringing him asking if the name we have chosen is a joke? It’s not even unusual! No idea why people have to interfere, I’d never dream of it!

Thankfully nobody suggested names. It would ruin it for me.
However my mum started giving her opinion ("i really don't see why people love names ending with A. There are so many beautiful names out there, blah blah blah" - well our chosen name ends in A) even though we said we would not discuss the name and would just let them know when she is here 🙄
Then we have the family members who keep asking and recently had my twin brother literally phoning me to tell me in a nice way that he would really like to know her name. I took pity on him and told him as we are very close. He said the name was awesome 👌 but not telling anyone else.

I just give out random names in a non committal way. I avoid mentioning our top picks though.

Yes it's doing my head in. We made the mistake of telling DP's family the two names we're deciding between and they have repeatedly told us they don't like them and keep suggesting alternatives. It's rude and it's taking the fun out of choosing the name. We've decided not to discuss it with anyone anymore.

@SlovenlyUnwedMother

Yes it's doing my head in. We made the mistake of telling DP's family the two names we're deciding between and they have repeatedly told us they don't like them and keep suggesting alternatives. It's rude and it's taking the fun out of choosing the name. We've decided not to discuss it with anyone anymore.

We’ve told no one. We have a shortlist of 3 and we alone will decide on the final name once she’s here.

People are so bloody entitled and rude when it comes to names! Like, we don’t like what YOU have chosen for YOUR child🙄 I don’t give a fuck if you don’t like it. It’s nothing to do with you.

I've been lucky and not had that. People have asked about the name but we've just kept quiet and they've moved on. Some have said names they like but I don't think it was meant as suggestions - all my family members have quite different taste.