Did you tell family later than 12 weeks

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Had my 12 week scan over a week ago and baby is healthy. We're delighted and I can't wait to tell my family but somehow I can't bring myself to! I feel like it will jinx things somehow, is that weird?
Anyone else waited longer to tell people? I am tired of only my husband and I knowing. Will definitely wait longer to tell work, as I did with my first , but I should probably at least tell my parents. What's wrong with me!

I waited till after 12 weeks to tell the parents, we didn’t wait too long but I wanted to know everything was ok first.

I think it’s a bit awkward over the phone rather in person which you can’t do right now with bloody Covid.

I was more nervous 2nd time round, i was more aware of what I could loose and issues with pregnancy than I was a with my first.

Hey! Personally I told my family straight away as ultimately if the worst was to happen id tell them anyway.

I wouldn't worry about jinxing yourself as realistically, that's not a thing but do whatever you and your partner are comfortable with.

I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow and cannot wait to tell friends and extended family z

We told immediate family after the dating scan at 13wk, well my husband did because he can't hold his own water. I waited until yesterday to tell my closest friend after finding out gender, I'm now 16+6wk. A bit reluctant to do a wider announcement, did that pretty quickly after dating scan with our others. Not sure why but I quite like keeping this little one on the quiet side, number 6 for us but follows 2 mc's and had a lot of worry.

@Freezeboy, yes that is me exactly. I can't believe how carefree I was with my first. So hyperaware of everything that could go wrong this time :( it's just been an anxious year in general which doesn't help.

@beckyBP congrats, enjoy your scan tomorrow! You are right, realistically jinxing isn't a thing. I'll wait for the results of the combined test and tell everyone !

I told no one other than DH and my line manager till I was 19 weeks.

@Chelyanne sorry you had a difficult journey and congrats on this LO. Its quite nice to see I'm not the only one who's being a bit quiet about it. My DH actually wants to wait even longer to tell his family which is probably contributing to me feeling i shouldnt tell mine yet.

I told my parents as soon as, but nobody else. With our last baby, we waited until after the 20-week scan because of our history, but that's unusual, I am aware.

I know a few people who have waited until after the 2nd scan. I guess it depends on your family really.

We told immediate family at 12 weeks.
Close family i.e. close aunts and uncles etc, and very close friends at around 14 weeks, also told my manager then.
Told other work colleagues and other friends after 20 weeks.

I told my family almost as soon as we knew I was pregnant. Mostly because having experienced losses that necessitated treatment and hospitalisation, my family would be the biggest support if the outcome wasn't good.

Who you tell is up to you as is the timing. Covid isolation makes everything harder too.

Do what feels right for you. You won't jinx anything, but I can understand the feeling, and it's a lot easier to not tell people at the moment. I don't think women had the option before! I definitely didn't want to make an "announcement" after previous losses and get really uncomfortable with other people's excitement. We told my mum, my boss and one close friend really early (4wks) and then DP's family, my brother etc after 20wk scan. Told my colleagues at about 28/29 weeks and some of DP's friends this week (now 36 weeks) because we realised we still hadn't told them and they were trying to arrange a meet up when lockdown eases. Fortunately all of our friends and family have been really understanding and nobody is miffed that we didn't tell them early and I've definitely found it easier having occasional congratulation messages rather than a deluge of them all at once before I was ready. I'm aware we left it a lot later than most but that felt right for us and still feels right tbh. It did help having my Mum and one friend know early so I could speak to them.

I told my mum the minute I peed on the stick. I couldn’t wait to share it with her but I’m probably more chill that a lot of people. I was of the mindset that if something bad happened there was nothing I could do to stop it.

I’m 12 weeks now and only husband and work know.

I’ve had a premature baby who died and want to get past a certain stage (5/6 months) and will tell
Family then.

Yours is a different situation so tell them whenever you feel you are ready. For our other pregnancies I told close family before 12 weeks.

@Analysethat it’s got nothing to do with being ‘more chill’ than others.

I told family at 17 weeks this time

@Analysethat

I told my mum the minute I peed on the stick. I couldn’t wait to share it with her but I’m probably more chill that a lot of people. I was of the mindset that if something bad happened there was nothing I could do to stop it.

Nothing to do with 'chill' here. I had a lot of other stuff going on, including a huge research project that was the culmination of ten years' work, and didn't have the bandwidth for other people's responses. Miscarrying didn't factor in my decision to keep schtum.

I told my family as soon as we found out. Apparently, my sister was also pregnant at the same time and preferred to tell us when she was in 21-22 week of pregnancy. Apparently, our due dates are 1 week apart and my parents were over the moon both times. Later or earlier, families are there and happy for us regardless. It is your decision to tell them whenever you feel comfortable.

Thank you all, it makes me feel a lot more normal for not telling everyone yet. I definitely know they won't mind when we tell them which is nice, just wish I knew myself what I wanted!!

With my first and last I was about 16 weeks or so before telling anyone.

I understand OP. I told my close family just after the 12 week scan and have just started telling a few close friends now at 16 weeks. I’m not one for big announcements and probably won’t bother telling a lot of people until he or she arrives!
Oh, and I’m super chilled about the whole thing so I don’t think that has much relevance. This is my second and I think lots of people have other things going on at the minute so it doesn’t seem a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

waited until 25 weeks for the last one.

I told my parents and In laws as soon as I tested positive with dd. With my ds I told my mum straight away but waited to tell other immediate family until 7 weeks. This time around, my work colleagues know as there is no mistaking my bump at 14 weeks with baby no.3. I would like to tell family in person but who knows when lockdown will end? I will probably announce after the 20 week scan.

We told my partners family at 16 weeks and my family at 17 weeks.

I had to tell work straight away due to my job and we told friends after the anomaly scan.

I waited until my sister had her baby and my parents first grandchild. I was over 6 months ( we live abroad)
Sister has never forgiven me for getting married the same year as she did ,so just wanted to keep the peace

First time I did immediately after I peed on the stick. One of the biggest mistakes of my life when I then went on to have an early MC and had to tell everyone.

Second time was after the scan. My sister had done the same announcing her pregnancy, so I knew it would be fine.

Colleagues found out early both times. First time, we had an infectious case that they advised anyone pregnant wasn't in on. Second time, the morning sickness was hard to miss.

Good luck telling your family OP.