Pregnancy after multiple miscarriage

[Lizzwizz85]

Hi all

I'm just coming off of the tail end of the weekend from hell after suffering a miscarriage at 7 weeks pregnant, my second early miscarriage in 11 weeks

Weve been ttc for 4 years, first pregnancy in November was a result of a frozen embryo transfer and I miscarried and then we amazingly got pregnant naturally but unfortunately lost that too.

I'm so terrified this means that I can't carry a baby, the emotional load at the moment is way too much for me to deal with. I guess any positive stories about conceiving after miscarriage is what I'm after.

Hi OP, so sorry you're going through this. I know it's really horrible

I had 2 miscarriages in 2019/2020, one at 6 weeks and the second at 11 weeks, all within 6 months.

I completely understand where you are coming from. I would often have thoughts and worries that I would be unable to carry a baby to full term for some reason.

I promise you that despite having two miscarriages this doesn't always mean there is something wrong or that you are unable to carry a baby. I conceive again 2 months after my 2nd mc and I was so terrified and anxious, but my rainbow baby is currently 6 weeks old and sleeping in his moses basket.

If I can pass on any advice, I'd say just make sure you are mentally, emotionally and physically ready to start trying to conceive again. It's a horrible thing that no woman should ever have to go through, but making sure you're in a good place before trying again can make all the difference for what happens next.

Best wishes and big hugs

I already have a 10 year old son who was conceived very easily and I foolishly though it would be the same second time round despite the large age gap. My journey goes like this:

Jan 19 - Blighted Ovum (miscarried at 7 weeks)
Oct 19 - Early miscarriage 6 weeks
June 20 - Early miscarriage 6 weeks
September 20 - Early miscarriage 5 weeks
October 20 - Pregnant currently 22 weeks

I started to think I could no longer carry a baby or that my eggs where no longer good due to my age (39) but here we are there is no explanation as to why all the early miscarriages occurred. It's not easy but all I can say it you are not alone.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's awful I know. We were TTC for 3 years before falling PG in November 2019 and we thought we finally had our miracle. We lost our baby at 8wks. Then got PG again 2 cycles later and lost that baby at 9wks (discovered heartbeat had stopped at 2nd reassurance scan). It's made so much harder because you've been going through the process with all the hopes and dreams and heartache for such a long time.

I was told this a lot and didn't believe it but struggling to conceive is completely different to whether you can carry a baby. The fact that you got pregnant naturally the second time is fantastic news. I was the same - 3 years for the first and then fell again quickly. Sadly IVF isn't always successful and MC from natural conception is more common than we like to think and usually is just chance.

I was lucky enough to get PG again 3 cycles after my second loss and am now 36 weeks. I'm also nearly 38 years old so age wasn't on my side. I still worry that something will be wrong but there's absolutely nothing to back that up - on paper I've had a textbook pregnancy this time around and probably just was one of the unlucky ones.