Not eating a lot

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I'm 9 weeks pregnant now and my eating habits have not been the best. I have not always been having breakfast. Some days lunch snd tea is late. This is due to some financial issues the past 2 months. I'm so worried

We’re not being nosey, you posted on a public forum and we’re concerned for you and your baby.
Buying food each day will work out much more expensive than going and doing a weekly shop and meal planning.
Can you do this online to have it delivered so you don’t have to go shopping if this triggers your anxiety?
Are you living together?

Hi OP this is a very confusing post. So your first few posts say that you don’t have the money to buy food but have just said in your last post that you do have the money but it’s ‘locked’ away.

I don’t see what the problem is- dip into your savings, surely food is something you would dip into your savings for instead of starving yourself? Also, you can order food weekly and have it delivered or you can prepare ahead and ask your partner to pick up food on the way home.

So I’m not sure where your post is going/what advice you are asking for. If it’s food you need, then buy it

OP what does your boyfriend take home in the evening? Your baby will be fine at my 12 week scan I had asked as I wasn't eating much and lost a bit of weight due to sickness and was worried and the midwife told me not to worry the baby or in my case babies take what they need from me anyways. I'm just asking if your boyfriend takes home takeaways or such it can be quite expensive and if your anxiety is too much to go out to do a shop or anything get a home order or click and collect with the money used to take things home every night! I think people are just concerned but please don't be ashamed if use are struggling while going through this blip to use a foodbank if needed, there is no shame there to help when people are going through blips. But your baby will be fine just make sure your looking after yourself aswell

God if you’ve got anxiety already only buying food for one day/one meal at a time is one sure fire way to make it worse.

Plan. Batchcook.

Id feel anxious having to go and get my next bloody meal every time too

“I’m so worried”

“within the next 2 weeks there will be nothing to worry about”

Which is it? Any sensible person would know that a baby isn’t going to stop growing because you’ve not eaten breakfast for two weeks. And by shopping daily you’re making your own bed really, not wanting to go out isn’t an excuse, you can get weekly deliveries in saver slots for £1 from some supermarkets.

Were you hoping posters would take pity and offer financial assistance OP?

No one single poster suggested you get rid of your baby and it’s frankly insulting to the posters who tried to help you, to imply that they did.

Does your midwife know about your anxiety and how much it is impacting your day to day life? You could ask for a referral to the antenatal mental health team. It is common for anxiety to ramp up in pregnancy but there is support available.

Hi OP hope you're OK but your posts are really confusing so it might be good to clarify what you mean. Nobody is suggesting you get rid of your baby, but it's alarming to hear that you eat nothing during the day until you get bought your evening meal so naturally this will raise questions about your financial situation.

When you say 'we usually just get food on the day' do you mean convenience/takeaway stuff, every day? Because that's at least 10x more expensive than buying a few basics for the week so if there's money issues maybe look at reviewing this. Rather than your partner getting convenience food on the way home for just the evening meal, can he not just stop at a supermarket instead and get things like milk, bread, eggs, cheese, cereal, fruit and veg? At the very least you could have enough in to have a bowl of cereal for breakfast and sandwich for lunch. Do you have a fridge?

OP you need to get help for your anxiety if it stops you leaving the house to feed yourself. That is a basic need. You will have days with a newborn where you need to go out and get things, even if you don't feel like leaving the house. You should start putting yourself first and that means eating nutritionally and making sure there is food in the house. This may mean going to a food bank. As PP have said, not eating breakfast won't harm your baby, but it's not a good habit to get into. I would argue that actually babies aren't very expensive. You can buy a pack of nappies from tesco for 90p, pack of wipes for 52p which will last you around a week and breast feeding is free. It's in the long term and other activities that mean children do cost a lot of money. You will drive yourself mad if you're stuck inside with a baby and don't get out of the house.

Maybe slightly exaggerating that they might last a week, but a couple of packs of nappies and wipes will.

Whybon earth would youbhave to wait for your bf to come home every lunch and dinner time before you get fed? What are you buying that only lasts one meal at a time?

Wow there are so many unkind comments on here! There are a lot nice ways to say what a lot of people on here are saying. OP, from the other comments sounds like baby will be just fine :) think about all the women who have morning sickness and can’t keep anything down! However I do agree with the sentiment that it’s obviously not ideal as you won’t be getting all the nutrients you need - I believe if you get in touch with the midwife they can prescribe you free multivitamins. You’ve said the situation is short term but do try and see if there’s anything you can do like other commenters have said, getting to the food bank, buying some cheap items like pasta which would last a week rather than just buying day-to-day so you don’t get yourself into a situation where you’re hungry. Also, for my my nausea was always worse when I was hungry so I’d be trying to avoid going hungry for that reason too. Maybe you could look up some cheap easy meals and meal plan a bit for the week ahead so baby is getting all the nutrients it needs xx