OH nearly 40

[RetroCatapillar]

Hi guys,

There is a 12 year age gap between my OH & I - I am 28 he is 40 in August.

We've been TTC for a few months- he has no children and I am so desperate for a second. It has taken us a while to conceive but I got my BFP this week pretty early.

Obviously prior to trying we researched everything, risks, likely hood of conceiving all that stuff. But it isn't until now, when I'm actually pregnant that the anxiety of it has locked in and the what ifs and buts have started to creep through. He is excited, rightly so it's his first.. I am too.. but also trying to be super tenuous about letting myself be excited due to what might happen and how common pregnancy losses are.

I know I shouldn't and that I need to temper both my anxiety and my excitement due to it being so early.

Are any others in the same boat? Am I being ridiculous (you can say yes I won't be offended!) How many other hopeful fathers to be are in their late 30s early 40s? x

My partner is 41 (42 this week), we have an 18yr age gap and this baby is our first. I'm 9 weeks so far everything looking fine and baby is growing at a good rate! It's got two legs, two arms and fingers and toes.

Unless I am totally oblivious I always thought of the father was older the risks weren't as bad as if the mother was older, I know sperm quality can decrease but we conceived naturally on our first month of trying which we know were extremely lucky but I'm pretty sure men can have kids up into their 50s/60s

We started ttc when dh was 36 (I was 32). Took until dh was 38 for us to have a successful pregnancy.

We're now expecting number 2. Dh turns 41 in a few weeks (likely before this one is born).

And? What else is there to it? Sure, we're older than we wanted to be for all this, but shit happens.

My DH was 41, 43 & 47 with ours. There is also an age gap (I am early 30s). It’s not ideal but they have one younger parent & (typical I know) DH is fit & healthy.
Lots of men father children in their 40s now - so do women! It’ll be fine