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Very pregnant bride

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kent1991 · 03/03/2021 05:05

I am getting married in August. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant but will be 33 weeks on the date of the wedding. Wedding 4th august/due date approx 26th sept.
We were supposed to marry last August which was obviously postponed due to covid.
After the last year of lockdowns i feel like I'd like to go ahead and im not going to regret marrying my husband.
However ive never been pregnant before and don't want to regret this decision.

Im not too fussed on the drinking and obviously know ill need to get a maternity wedding dress.

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nancywhitehead · 03/03/2021 05:46

Is there a question OP or are you just sharing your situation?

If you just want thoughts, I sympathise, our wedding has been postponed twice (originally April 2020, then 2021, now April 2022!) We are now TTC as it seemed pointless to put that on hold too, and I'm worried I will be in this position or have a very small baby by 2022.

I think the idea of a pregnant bride is lovely though.

It's not going to be as you planned it originally but it will still be a really special day. Just enjoy it and your pregnancy, you are very lucky :)

Sceptre86 · 03/03/2021 06:19

Unless you are religious or have family that are is there any issues with being a pregnant bride? You night be a little more tired than the average bride but I am sure adrenaline and excitement will get you through. Hope you have a lovely wedding x

Livingmagicallyagain · 03/03/2021 06:43

I was a pregnant bride, around 28 weeks, and it was beautiful! My maternity dress was stunning, it was a wonderful day!

MooreLew · 03/03/2021 07:23

I'm getting married at nearly 37 weeks in April! We postponed twice because of covid. I'm not again!

BikeRunSki · 03/03/2021 07:32

Just do it!!! Get married whilst you can! You might be like me.... I was absolutely buzzing and blooming from around 30 weeks in both pg. (I was due on 26 Sept once, but ds arrived on 7th).,
I hope the wedding and the pregnancy go well for you.

JemimaTiggywinkle · 03/03/2021 07:49

I’m 34 weeks now and feel absolutely fine in terms of physical health/ energy etc. Not sleeping as well as usual because it’s hard to get comfy, but I’m not exhausted. Is that what you’re worried about?

user1493413286 · 03/03/2021 07:55

I would do it; I got married when my baby was 11 months and although it was lovely I think it would have been easier to get married while pregnant rather than worrying about the baby a lot of the day and I didn’t drink much anyway.

DoubleHelix79 · 03/03/2021 08:02

I'm pretty tired at 35 weeks with DC2 now but would still rather get married now than with a baby. They have a habit of absorbing every spare moment (and energy) you'd probably be equally or more tired than if you were heavily pregnant. I'd keep it relatively relaxed though, with plenty of opportunity to sit down and chat and recharge. Hope you enjoy the day!

Teakind · 03/03/2021 08:20

You could do a gender reveal when you cut your wedding cake : )

33 weeks would be hard for me because I have SPD but many other women would be fine.

AlwaysNapTime · 03/03/2021 08:23

I got married at 34 weeks. No regrets whatsoever, it was perfect!

sylbunny · 03/03/2021 08:26

I'm 33 weeks and I'm uncomfortable sure but I still have plenty of energy! I'd say try and not make too much work for yourself on the day as I struggle to bend down, lift things and walk any distance so I'd probably avoid too much DIY on the day.

AuntieStella · 03/03/2021 08:29

You need a splendid dress

And make sure there are plenty of comfy places where you can sit down just in case you tire easily. But on those dates, chances are you'll be absolutely fine

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kent1991 · 03/03/2021 08:30

Thanks so much for your advice. Yes @nancywhitehead sorry i wasnt clear. I wanted to check if people thought I was making a mistake.

I mainly worry if ill be too tired. I have found first trimester tiredness a lotb(lots of naps) this is now improving but u still don't generally sleep past 4am. Im sure tge excitement of the day will carry me through.

Thanks for the lovely dress suggestions @livingmagicallyagain. Id briefly looked at this site. Did you get your prepregnancy size? How late did you buy your dress? I dont want to leave to the last minute but seems silly trying on when I dont have a bump yet.

Thanks for all your support and lovely suggestions

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kent1991 · 03/03/2021 08:45

@nancywhitehead i feek for you too. Depending on your situation id advise just going for it. We knew, in short, we might have issues conceiving due to a loss last summer and I wasnt prepared to wait.

We basically kept ttc although we did think about dates and i did stop for 1 month to ensure i wasnt in labour on the big day which im glad of

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BakedBeeeen · 03/03/2021 08:51

Generally the tiredness is worse in the first trimester. At the end you’re more knackered and aching from carrying the extra weight of a baby. Yes you will have to sit down a lot - and I wouldn’t schedule hours of photography. I would definitely go ahead - believe me it would be much easier to do it whilst you don’t have a baby!!

Pbbananabagel · 03/03/2021 08:57

I was about 32wks pregnant at my wedding- it was lovely! I remember so much more of the day then I would have if I was drinking!
It also meant that our photos doubled as a maternity shoot Smile just make the necessary adjustments you need I.e get some wedge heeled trainers or flip flops to wear- no one will see them under your dress anyway or wear fancy shoes then change into something more comfortable later.
Get yourself some really special non alcoholic drinks to enjoy (and definitely allow yourself one glass of fizz for your toasts- it won’t hurt). And make sure your bridal suite is really lovely to return to, I ended up in the bath at midnight on my wedding being fed cake by my new husband. It was magic. Congratulations and good luck!

maryberryslayers · 03/03/2021 13:30

Personally I wouldn't do it. I got married when my son was 11 months and it was perfect. SIL was responsible for him on the day with help from PILS, rather than me so couldn't have done it without them.
Personally by 33 weeks this pregnancy I was barely able to walk with SPD and covered in pregnancy rash (think hives over your whole body), not sleeping, puffy and miserable. I would not want this as my wedding memories or photos.
By 11 month pp I'd lost all the weight and more, was relaxed as still on mat leave and had loads of time to plan and sort the little details and attend fittings etc without worrying about work commitments.
You just never know how pregnancy will affect you later on so I wouldn't risk it, you could be beautiful and glowing or a complete wreck!

BlueberryPancake21 · 03/03/2021 14:20

I'm not sure which way I'd go to be honest. At 33wks I was feeling pretty good. But I did end up in hospital overnight with suspected premature labour! It depends how much you're spending and how much you are set on the being the "perfect day" vs possibly being a bit flexible with it if you need to. Overall it's unlikely that anything will happen at that point and the energy of the day will get you through just try to minimise how much you have to do yourself on the day and in the run up to it. I have friends that were visibly PG in their wedding photos and it's lovely for them to be able to tell their LO that they were there on the day and point to their bump.

Livingmagicallyagain · 03/03/2021 14:47

Serephine have great customer service so you can ask them for advice, pretty sure I got my pre pregnancy size.

I already had a child, much older, and so definitely preferred not to have my baby/young child at the wedding. I had bags of energy, it really was a magical day!

Parkandride · 03/03/2021 15:15

Another one who's around 33 week and I'd be fine with a wedding, little tired and achy but the excitement of the day will mean you're on great form. Would still be up for the wedding night too Grin it'll be something lovely to look forward to, enjoy!

Dollywilde · 03/03/2021 15:24

I’d have been fine at 33 weeks, but as someone who was heavily pregnant last summer I’d make sure you have fans EVERYWHERE or air con as at that stage I was boiling all the time!

Actually looking back at photos I was really glowy at that stage and my bump was really nicely defined, it was 36 weeks onwards where I just looked like a whale and didn’t want to move at all Grin I’d have looked pretty damn good if I’d married then I reckon!

AtLeastThreeDrinks · 06/03/2021 12:48

I'm getting married at 36 weeks! But it's a registry office with just our families and a meal rather than a big party, so minimal standing around/socialising. We reasoned that if we can't find time before we're unlikely to afterwards. I am struggling to find something to wear, it's hard to know how big I'll be!

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kent1991 · 06/03/2021 13:27

@atleastthreedrinks completely agree about something to wear. I am hoping to order a few bits off tiffanyrose bridal and seraphine and try on/return ones i dont want.

I thought there was most choice on tiffany rose bridal.

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jellybean13419 · 06/03/2021 15:33

I'm getting married at 28 weeks in July! Exactly the same situation as you, postponed due to Covid. Didn't fully expect it to happen this year either and thought we'd have to move it to July 2022. Then we fell pregnant and 4 weeks later Boris says June everything will (should..!) be back to normal! Like you, I don't want to wait any longer either and we have decided to go ahead as planned. And I don't think we will regret it at all 😊 funnily enough, the dress I'm thinking of getting is the exact one @Livingmagicallyagain has sent the link for. I'm happy to read that you found it perfect and beautiful on your special day too. Good luck with your pregnancy and wedding! X

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