6 months pregnant - a rant

[abeanbaked]

I'll just start by saying that our baby is very much wanted and loved ❤️ this post is in no way an expression of no longer wanting this, pregnancy has just become bloody difficult!

I'm 6 months pregnant and I feel like in the last few weeks I've become slow and just useless in general. I'm still working, I do 12 hours shifts and by the time I'm finished my feet are swollen and sore. I'm grumpy and hormonal. A shop assistant the other day asked me when I was due and looked at me with real pity and said 'what a shame, having to give birth and do all this in lockdown' she genuinely felt sorry for me. I've suffered with heart burn and thrush since about 14 weeks, the thrush is relentless, i don't have sex with my partner anymore because it's just painful and inflamed. This morning was the final straw and I've cried on and off all morning because I just feel useless, clumsy and fat. I know my body is doing an amazing thing and I can't wait to have our baby here with us, it's just a bit miserable some days isn't it?

*I don't feel this bad all the time, on the whole I've had a good pregnancy so far. It's just a bit shitty sometimes.

and yes, I knew what pregnancy entailed a long time before we found out we were expecting!

Don't worry OP I think we all go through this in pregnancy at some stage! My twin pregnancy after 7 losses and 5 rounds of IVF was much fought for but there were still days I sat and cried!

The thing to focus on is that you are nearly there! Pregnancy doesn't last forever and the crap days will be a distant memory when baby arrives!

Try coconut oil on the thrush. It was the only thing that gave me any relief during pregnancy. Good luck

Oh god, poor you, I remember the thrush not to mention the nausea, heartburn, fatigue, tearfulness. It's such a treat isn't it.

The good thing is that your body WILL go back to normal! Some things go back to normal straight away, others take a little while, but you will be yourself again one day!

And remember that no one else will think you look fat. They will just think you look pregnant. I remember one guy at work who always used to say "are you sure you've only got one in there?!" every time he saw me. I wanted to throttle him!

Well for a start lockdown will hopefully have significantly eased by the time you give birth and all restrictions should be lifted shortly after. I’m pregnant too (7months) and actually think it has been timed quite well- the world is rubbish, there is nothing to do so I haven’t had to go to any social events while pregnant and be sober and fat.

I know it feels rubbish and that you are falling apart but the moment you have that baby in your arms it won’t matter. The pregnancy symptoms will go away, the weight will go and you’ll be allowed to take your lovely little baby to meet family and friends.

Thank you ladies for being understanding, I'm having a wobble today for sure! I can't get comfy because I swear baby's head is right underneath my ribs and my thrush is so bad 😬 I also get 'how's bump?' All the time. As a greeting. It's never 'how are you?' Or 'how are you guys?' I feel people just see me as 'the bump' 😂😂

@ivfbeenbusy bless you and thank you for recognising that even the hardest fought for pregnancies can be tough! I name changed as I thought I might get a lot of responses calling me ungrateful

Excuse me for how crass this will sound, but natural yogurt inside your vagina may help you with the thrush. I did this during pregnancy and it helped me no end

I feel you op!

I'm also six months and i feel fucking huge! Constantly on the toilet and feeling exhausted. I'm also snappy, grumpy and teary, not a fan if pregnancy 😂

Oh sweetheart. It’s beyond shit, my daughter was born in August last year and it looks like pretty much my whole pregnancy and mat leave will be during the pandemic.

All I can say is, once baby is here, think of yourself as being in a ‘bubble’ (much as we hate the word nowadays!), just you and your partner and your beautiful newborn baby. Turn off the news. Speak only to the people who make you happy. Pretend the rest of the world doesn’t exist for a little while and just soak up that incredible little human you literally made just the two of you. I know it’s less than brilliant and I’ve had a hard winter of lockdown and PND, it’s really not fun. But I think the secret is just adjusting your expectations, let everything else and everyone else get to fuck and just focus on becoming a mummy. Once you finish work things will be much easier too, and as others have said things may well be easier when you give birth. But yeah - just you, your partner and your baby. Fuck covid. Fuck anyone else. Just let it roll off you as far as you reasonably can. Lots of hugs. X

@Itsjustaride8w737

I feel you op!

I'm also six months and i feel fucking huge! Constantly on the toilet and feeling exhausted. I'm also snappy, grumpy and teary, not a fan if pregnancy 😂

Yeah I think this is part of the problem, getting up 3 times in the night is no fun!