Don't know what to do

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So I've just found out I'm pregnant again, probably around the 4/5 week mark. I have a one year old so there would be a 19 month again gap. This baby wasn't at all planned and big shock..
I'm due to start a new job next week so I won't qualify for much maternity pay. On top of this we only have a 2 bed house and were due to try and move to a bigger house this year which won't be able to happen now. My partner is quite against it all.
There's a lot of things screaming NO this really isn't the right time and it'll be hell of a lot of stress but I know we could make it work if we tried.
I don't know what to do!!!

If you want to have the baby then you can and will make it work. Small age gaps are actually pretty nice, we have 16.5mth between our 2nd & 3rd, was easier than twins (4&5 for us).
A 2 bed house is perfectly fine for 2 children even if they are girl/boy, they can share in the early years. We have a 3 bed with 5 kids and another due Aug, granted it's a tight squeeze but it's fine. We plan on moving when my husband retires from his military career in 4 years.

Congratulations and good luck.

When I found out I was pregnant with my second child my daughter was 8 months old. I remember being really hysterical because I was so tired from looking after just one! It wasn't planned, we were doing ok, but another one would have stretched the purse strings as I wasn't working at this point. My partner just laughed and smiled and said it would be a play mate for our first. That reaction put me more at ease but it was still scary - if you're partner isn't keen that must make it harder for you but in all honesty it was the best decision. They are 18months apart, are so different but play together so wonderfully and have been great companions for each other since they've been together. We are doing better financially. We made do for a while until we outgrew our house and we are doing better financially. Sometimes you just have to stay calm and trust that everything will be ok - which it will! But ultimately it's your decision. Take care xx

Sort repeated the financial part - got distracted with home schooling 2 children 😂 x

Sorry* too early 🙄

@FayLivvie thank you that was really reassuring to read. I know we'd be in for a bumpy ride to behind with but it'll work out if we tried. My main concern is the financial side of it.
Can I even start this job now I'm pregnant?! And if I can't claim maternity pay is there anything else to help?
It's all a lot to take in. I think I want to keep the baby.. Just have a lot of figuring out to do!! 🤯

Look in to maternity allowance.
You can start your new job, they don't have to be told about your pregnancy until you are 15 weeks from your due date. If you feel you need to tell them earlier due to needing risk assessment that is up to you.

Finances can be very tough. I was made redundant when pregnant with our 2nd but qualified for maternity allowance. Once MA was coming to an end I was pregnant with the 3rd and so we decided it was more financially viable for me to become a sahm. You get very financially savvy when you have a tight budget, also very good at saying "NO" to things you don't really need.