Can arguments hurt my baby? So worried

[Biooilandcarbs]

I’m really panicking. I’ve just had an horrible argument with my husband tonight and I was shouting so so loud for about 30 minutes so much I’ve lost my voice and I was shaking in rage. I’m so scared I’ve done something to baby - I'm 22 weeks pregnant.

I screamed at my fella more times while pregnant. My healthy baby is now 6 months old. But I don’t want to use survivor bias.
Stress isn’t good, avoid if you can. But please take care of yourself and if you’re worried; tell partner shut the fuck up until this baby is out. Sending lots of love

I would think arguing will raise your blood pressure however I very much doubt this has caused any harm to your baby as it wasnt prolonged.

What is worrying is that you shouted so hard for 30 minutes you have lost your voice! Thats not right for anyone pregnant or not OP.

Shouting till you lose your voice and shaking with rage isn’t good for anyone. Why were you so angry? Was he shouting back? Being born into an abusive shouty home and family isn’t good for a baby. You know that.

I screamed at my fella more times while pregnant

Have you stopped screaming now?

I shouted so loud at my husband while pregnant that my neighbour texted me to see if I was OK, she thought I had gone into labour. My baby is totally fine, please don't worry. I agree with the previous poster, tell your partern not to argue with you and that you are always right (even when you're wrong lol).

Shouting because fed up of being second fiddle to a PlayStation. Spent the whole weekend in our house on my own whilst he played the console Friday and Saturday for hours and hours and kept me up until 2am last night because we live in a small house and he shouts his head off when he plays it. We've had discussions and even previous arguments about how it's affecting our relationship and today after i washed our clothes, cleaned the house and feeling shattered I asked him if it was too much of an ask for him to maybe want to spend the evening with me and if would be nice if from time to time he couldn't make me a drink and not the other way around - but he turned around and said "stop telling me what to do treating me like a child I can play my games when I want". It just sent me in to rage. 4 hours sleep, I have HG and carpal tunnel and doing everything myself, I just saw breaking point. I didn't want to get this mad but I'm really struggling to do it all now. But right now all I care about is if my baby is OK

Baby will be okay. The stress is not good for either of you so best avoided as much as possible.
Your husband needs to get his priorities straight and agree to less game time, the loud play can not continue once you have a newborn to think about. The problem you have is you need to approach this when you are calm of mind and not feeling shattered and emotional about it. I would talk to him once you've had chance for a good rest and hopefully he will listen, not always easy so good luck.

My husband doesn't like to feel like he is being "told what to do", it's really annoying.

@Biooilandcarbs I wouldn't be able to put up with that in all honesty.

Flippin' heck! OP I'm sorry but he sounds like a nightmare.

"stop telling me what to do treating me like a child I can play my games when I want" (Yet acts like a child screaming at people on the PS?)

I hope he grows up a long time before baby actually arrives.

Baby will be fine, but do you have some honey? A spoonful of honey might make your throat feel better

Roo you want to bring your baby into this home with a Dad who's not interested? If she's isn't good for baby now, imagine when you've had even less sleep and the baby is awake because Daddy is screaming at the game. Please consider your options whilst there's only one of you to pack up and move

The playstation is a source of tension in my house too, not quite as bad as yours but I somewhat know the frustration you feel. An argument here or there is fine. Its if your feeling prolonged worry, stress, tension and anxiety is when you need to make a change. Hope he wises up OP pregnancy is a tough old slog and it only gets harder once baby is here.

I wouldn't worry about the one incident of stress affecting the baby. I was a bit argumentative with my husband in my first pregnancy and this time I'm finding working at home whilst home-schooling and being heavily pregnant is a recipe for semi-regular complete breakdowns!

However you shouldn't be doing all the house work even when not pregnant and it sounds like you are having a difficult pregnancy so he should be taking care of you and trying to make sure you get enough rest. My husband loves PC gaming but keeps it in check and does far more than his fair share of the chores and prioritises family time and keeping the house clean during the day at the weekends.

@SleepingStandingUp

Roo you want to bring your baby into this home with a Dad who's not interested? If she's isn't good for baby now, imagine when you've had even less sleep and the baby is awake because Daddy is screaming at the game. Please consider your options whilst there's only one of you to pack up and move

Really?

Healthy children are born in war zones, and that's prolonged stress. Prolonged stress isn't ideal, but one row with your partner won't impact one the foetus's brain development.
When I was pregnant I remember my emotions not feeling like they were there, except for anger, which was working double time! My kids are healthy, bright, and emotionally stable and resilient. I decided to get angry at my boss instead of my partner though, and she obviously wasn't responsible for the pregnancy!

...fed up of being second fiddle to a PlayStation... kept me up until 2am last night because ...he shouts his head off when he plays it. ... it's affecting our relationship
*today after i [DID ALL THE HOUSEWORK] I asked him.. to spend the evening with me ...he... said "stop telling me what to do treating me like a child I can play my games when I want".

Yes, really @LST. He already ignores op and keeps her awake all night being a 14 to boy whilst expecting her to do all the housework. And that's without a screaming newborn, several months of no sex, poor sleep all round.

Op may come back and say no he's normally great, it's been a bad week etc. But if my partner cared so little about my wellbeing esp when I was pregnant I'd be reconsidering my future.