Pet Loss whilst pregnant

[ClaudiaRoseAitken]

Hello. I'm 33+1 and on Friday my dog died, I'm absolutely devestated I haven't stopped crying since.. Couldn't stomach food yesterday I'm just completely heartbroken. He suffered from pancreatits and unfortunately his little body couldn't cope with it and it started too shut down.. I'm grieving so bad it keeps coming in waves everytime I go too a different part too my house I break down hysterically too a point I started seeing shapes this morning and liquid came out off me (had a smell and smelt off urine) so wasn't my waters but im so scared I'm harming my baby and now my anxiety is through the roof that they say it comes in 3s that somethings going too go wrong with my baby or the birth... Has anyone else had this happen too them

Sorry you're feeling this way. It won't harm the baby.

I had a similar thing when I was 38 weeks pregnant with my last child.
My dog didn't die but both my dogs were stolen from my garden.
I was devastated as they were my life.
I spent every day crying!
I ended up going in a few days later for reduced movement but I don't think they were linked.

Sorry yours going through a pet death but it won't affect your baby ❤️

@ClaudiaRoseAitken so sorry for your loss, please don't add this worry to your sadness. Snooper is right.

Can you contact the doctor or midwife at all to see if you have any wellness/anxiety support for pregnancy? We have a service here in Bedfordshire that you get priority for if you're pregnant. Just someone to talk through your worries and your bereavement?

@SnooperTrooper12345 that's awful, so sorry for what happened to you too.

Pets are family, I can't imagine the pain. Dread the days my boys leave me xxxx

So sorry to hear of your loss :( it's as hard as losing a family member.

www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement-and-pet-loss

The blue Cross have a support phone line for pet bereavement which I would recommend.

As a veterinary nurse I've seen countless dogs with pancreatitis and its such a hard condition to manage and treat.

It hasnt happened to me but im so sorry for the loss of your dog. If something happened to my dog I know I would be heartbroken and would react the exact same way. So sorry

My mum died in my arms while I was 32 weeks pregnant all I did was cry for 7weeks until baby came , baby was happy and healthy , I think it’s worse if you try and hold it in you will just break let it out and allow yourself to feel and bad things come in 3 is a lot of rubbish take time to greave for you dog

I’m pregnant with #3 and my dog died when I was about 7 weeks pregnant. He was 10 years old and had a bad heart so it wasn’t a shock but I was devastated. He was my dads dog really but my dad passed away nearly 4 years ago and I used to feel closer to him knowing the dog was still around. Think I cried more at the dog dying than my dad dying truth be told! Anyway, I’m now almost 36 weeks and everything is fine.
I worry about things coming in 3s too, I’m a very anxious person though and usually in my life it doesn’t rain it pours. Usually the most stressful things happen to me when I’m pregnant it seems. In my first pregnancy my dad was diagnosed with cancer and there were 3 occasions we were called to the hospital after procedures went wrong and they thought he’d wouldn’t make it. Honestly I wondered how my baby would survive with the stress levels. I found myself thinking “what else could go wrong” and that terrified me into thinking something would go wrong with my pregnancy. Said baby is fine though, he’s 5 years old, testing my patience but perfectly healthy.

Give yourself time to grieve, dogs are more than just pets. If your mind wanders into thinking thoughts about anything else bad happening have a plan in place to distract you. I was quite bad with anxious thoughts so decided I would always have my cupboards stocked with baking things and on days I’d have thoughts like that I’d get up and bake to take my mind off it. Now I’m what feels like a million stone heavier but my mind feels healthier.

Good luck!