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Feeling low

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Summersun12 · 27/02/2021 19:00

Hello, im currently pregnant with 3rd. Very much planned, something ive I wanted since i had my 2dc. Im 7 weeks but dew days ago the tiredness and nausea hit with that a overwhelming sense of worry. Worrying im going to feel like this rest of pregnancy, worrying that 3dcs is too much. Im waking up in morning and counting down the hours until i can go back to bed.

I know this part is hard, i had terrible sickness with my first that lasted full 9months. My second wasnt too bad but i suffered a breavement during that pregnancy so i was very distracted.

I have a horrible feeling ive made a mistake and that 2 would have been perfect. I know its hormoes andi know how lucky i am to have fallen pregnant so with these thoughts is a massive sense of guilt. I was fine up until i hit 6weeks 4 days.

Anyone felt similar? Will it pass.
Anyway i feel its good just to put it out there x

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Stressingabtstress · 27/02/2021 21:32

Hi, you haven't made a mistake, everything will be OK. 7 weeks was the hardest point for my mood in both my pregnancies, I think this is very normal, hormones are all over the place. Focus on the here and now, just one day at a time. You've got this!

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Summersun12 · 27/02/2021 21:38

@Stressingabtstress thanks for replying. Youre right one day at a time.
Hormones have alot to answer for.

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Aozora13 · 27/02/2021 21:45

Hormones are a bastard. I’m 9 weeks pregnant with DC3 and have been sick as a dog and exhausted since about week 6. I’m also wondering what the hell I was thinking when I have 2 perfectly acceptable DC already that I’m barely engaging with. My DH thinks it’s hilarious that in all my pregnancies I’ve been “never again” throughout the first trimester of doom but then somehow my brain gets wiped and I want another one! This is defo my last though, never again! We’ll get through.

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Summersun12 · 27/02/2021 21:54

@Aozora13 thats exactly how im feeling 😂

Hope you get some energy back soon x

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Summersun12 · 01/03/2021 10:25

Still feeling crap. I wish it would leave. Its the nausea, tiredness and overwhelming feeling of worry and regret. Never would have imagined i would have felt like this

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Aozora13 · 01/03/2021 11:17

I’m sorry to hear that @Summersun12

I’m still feeling appalling - like what’s the point of sleeping other than as a way to pass the time? I go to bed knackered and wake up knackered! But was able to spend more time playing w DC this weekend which helped assuage some guilt.

Have you had your booking appt yet? Could raise how you’re feeling with the midwife, or failing that talk to the GP? And in the meantime just take it a day/hour at a time and remember that while it feels like an eternity when you’re in it, it’s just a small amount of time in the grand scheme of things. Or at least that’s what I keep trying to convince myself...

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Summersun12 · 01/03/2021 11:47

@Aozora13 thanks for that. I think ill do that at my booking appointment in 2 weeks time.

Posting on here is just to get my thoughts out my head. You know what its like when you feel poorly you think you will feel like this forever.

I hope you feel better soon too. X

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JustStopFightingPlease · 01/03/2021 13:26

OP I came on here to post an identical thread. I'm 7weeks with my 3rd DC and feeling pretty low.

My first 2 DC were both IVF babies and we were told we would struggle to every conceive naturally. I haven't used contraception for 10 years. I got the shock of my life a few weeks ago when my period didn't arrive and lo and behold I was pregnant with with a huge surprise no 3. We had been discussing the possibility of a 3rd as we have frozen embryos but it was very much at the mulling it over stage.

Now that I'm pregnant with a complete miracle, defying all the odds, I just feel like utter crap. I feel sick all day long and honestly I'm just dreading when the baby comes. I've got demanding little terrors already (plus DH!) and I felt like I was just getting my life back together, wearing nice clothes and feeling fit and healthy again. I can't believe I'm giving up my body, boobs, mind, sleep, career, nights out (whenever they happen) all over again.

I can't picture anything good about this baby and I feel so guilty. We had an early scan on Saturday and DH was over the moon to see a beautiful little bean with a strong heart beating away. I just felt resigned 'ok so this is happening then...'

I feel so, so guilty on top of exhausted and nauseous and we're not telling anyone so I have no one to talk to about it at all (except MN!)

JustStopFightingPlease · 01/03/2021 13:31

And to top it off, we will have to move house at some point, so spending every minute that I can face it trying to declutter and do jobs around the house. I know moving is going to be incredibly expensive and stressful and the thought of it is overwhelming beyond belief.

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Summersun12 · 01/03/2021 13:47

@JustStopFightingPlease that really is so positive you fell pregnant without having to go through ivf. I completely get how you are feeling, im mirroring it. Its overwhelming. 6 weeks ago i was doing ovulation tests and poor dh was struggling keeping up with trying for a baby - i feel like a totally different person now the worry and feeling so regretful is massive.

Hoping you feel better soon nausea is the worst coupled with no energy!

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Summersun12 · 01/03/2021 13:53

Totally get what you mean about body, sleep, career and nights out. Friends are already starting to make plans post 21st june and all i want to do is stay in bed 😂

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Aozora13 · 02/03/2021 18:55

@Summersun12 @JustStopFightingPlease how are you both feeling today? I’ve taken to my bed after work and making DH order a Chinese for our tea! The kids are currently screaming at each other in the bath and I’m slightly questioning my life choices still...

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Summersun12 · 02/03/2021 19:26

@Aozora13 feeling slightly better, the sickness has been slightly less so thats defintely having impact.

Has your sickness still as bad? Have an early night. that will help. Its so much harder with other dc. Dinnertime and bath time ive turned into a miltary operation all so i can be in bed by 7!

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JustStopFightingPlease · 02/03/2021 21:48

Thanks - I'm feeling very slightly better after a quiet day. I finished work at lunchtime and in-between playing with the toddler I lay on the sofa watching TV which is something I never really do during the day. I think it helped as I feel okish now.

I'm not filled with total dread today, but definitely not excited. DH is talking about booking more scans etc and I'm feeling quite apathetic about it all. We have our booking in appointment next Monday and they give us the date for the 12 week scan at that so I suppose that gives me a focus.

Screaming at one another in the bath sounds familiar - my username is a clue as to how well my two get along most of the time...

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