Don't know how to tell my work I'm pregnant

[indigo27]

Terrified to tell my work I'm pregnant
I've been there since September and I'm a leader of the unit- before I started it had been really unsettled there lots of staff leaving etc so they've all said how much they've liked having me there as consistency. I've really bonded with my team and I've put lots in place for the next school year and I just feel so full of guilt that I'll be on maternity leave. I don't know how to tell my team as they've had so much unsettled ness over the last couple years and they finally feel better about working there and now I feel I've let them down too.
I haven't told my boss yet as I just don't know how to- I feel so incredibly guilty about this. I love my job.
The children I teach are all very vulnerable and I feel terrible for leaving them- for anyone who says why did you get pregnant then, it wasn't planned (failed contraception)
I am 13 weeks pregnant and feel like the guilt and worry of letting everyone at work down is really taking away the happiness I should be feeling about this.
Don't really know what advice I want- just feel really upset at the moment x

I felt exactly like this!
I start a new job on Monday but with the same company. It's a three year project role so I'll be off for over a year from September. Since finding out I was pregnant, I've been absolutely dreading telling my new manager and feel so guilty about it. I had a chat with him this week and he was so lovely about it, it really felt like a weight had been lifted. You will feel so much better once it's out the way.
We had decided to put TTC on hold after I'd been offered my new job, but less than two weeks later I found out I was pregnant after 9+ months trying.

I was in this position, I moved to a new team who had been really struggling. It took about 2 months from them deciding I was switching roles to me starting, 3 days before I started my new role I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant with a very unplanned baby🙈 I felt so guilty, everyone was saying how lovely it was to have a fresh face and how different the unit felt, i told one of my colleagues as I had awful sickness and then told management after my scan and they couldn’t have been kinder! I was so worried to tell them as I felt I had wasted their time as the process of me starting took so long but they couldn’t have been nicer.

I felt exactly the same! I accepted a job back at a company I'd worked at before and to make matters worse it was a feeder role for something else in 6m to a year and as I wasn't working I agreed to start in approx 2 weeks. In those 2 weeks I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant. I felt so awful that they'd think I got pregnant on purpose because I had taken the role or I took the role because I knew I was pregnant! Neither of which were the case. The anxiety was so bad and on the day I told them I felt physically sick. They were, of course, absolutely lovelt about it and you just have to remember that it's ok to be selfish in these situations. Being a woman and therefore being able to carry a child should not be something you should make sacrifices for or be apologetic for. Ever.

Also- if it makes you feel better which I'm sure it will, don't feel bad about telling them it was somewhat unplanned but very much wanted!

Thanks girls- that's how I feel just full of anxiety and sick to my stomach and worried like mad they won't honour occupational maternity pay or something. I know I'm being irrational I just feel so bloody guilty!! And also a little worried and jealous that someone will be filling in for me lol.
Were you able to resume your role after maternity?? Xx

I haven't gone on maternity yet so can't say but really, really try not to worry (I can barely talk considering how much of a state I got into myself) but it will be nowhere as bad as you're expecting. Everyone will be happy for you! When are you due?

You sound like a lovely line manager, and they will be happy for you! My manager told us the same news a few weeks ago and I was thrilled for her. However much I’ll miss her as a manager, it is a job, and having a child is so much more than that (I say that as someone who is child free by choice). Congratulations OP and sure you’ll feel much better once you’ve told people.