7weeks+1 weeks pregnant after 4 losses, anxious

[Gemma2021986]

Hi all,
Yesterday at 7 weeks pregnant I had a little bit of what looked like old blood when I went to the toilet. I called the epu as was assured I would be looked after due to having 4 losses so far and I must say our epu unit really lacks compassion and are totally unsympathetic. I was told ‘if you’re having a miscarriage then there is nothing we can do anyway’ and ‘there is a queue, you are the same as everyone else’ which of course I know I’m not special but reassurance would have been so welcomed. They booked me in for a scan tomorrow but I’m dreading it as every time we have been there it’s always been bad news and they have never been nice or caring; I’m not asking for special treatment at all, I’m just asking for compassion, am I wrong to expect this?

I was prescribed progesterone when we went to the recurrent miscarriage clinic back in 2019 after me demanding it because of the prism trial so have decided to start taking but not sure whether I should do it vaginally (I remember getting so much leakage this way) or through the rectum; is there a difference?

Sorry for the looonnng rant; I’m just so worried and trying to stay calm. We have never heard a heartbeat so it really would be a miracle tomorrow if we did.

Sorry you're going through this.

I have found EPU are never very sympathetic. I'm not sure if it's because they deal with the same thing day in day out or what.
But I completely agree with you.

I had 2 miscarriages before my babies and have had brown and pink spotting between 5 and 7 weeks with all of them.
Had a scan with a few of them and they've said it's leftover blood from implantation.

Hope everything goes well ❤️

@Gemma2021986 I’m also getting brown blood and went to EPU on Tuesday and had a scan. I was told it’s very common to have discharge. Doesn’t stop us from worrying. I’m going back to the EPU in 11 days as my CRL (crown to rump length) was smaller than expected for the gestation period and feels like I’m counting down the hours till the next scan.

I’m so sorry you are going through this, they really should be more compassionate. This does seem to happen so often and is not really acceptable.

I have had a couple of early losses and so I paid privately to get progesterone. I’m 7 weeks too. The specialist said I could take it vaginally or rectally, I went for rectally as it doesn’t leak out and therefore more is absorbed.

I’m also taking low dose aspirin, are you? Xx

@Gemma2021986 - I feel you! I am 7 weeks pregnant following IVF after recurrent miscarriage and I've been in full on tears today because my nausea seems to have gone from yesterday and the day before. I'm so sorry you didn't get more support from the EPU. As @SnooperTrooper12345 says I think they deal with this all the time and unless there's heavy bleeding or cramping they're not interested!

I am struggling with my anxiety big time and don't have a scan booked until next Thursday. Just wanted to let you know you weren't alone!

So sorry you are going through this. With regard to the progesterone - I don't think it makes any difference to take it vaginally or rectally - mine says take either way on the box. I personally take it vaginally and just put a panteliner in for 20-30 mins after to pick up the leakage... (this is for cyclogest)

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow. It really is horrible isn't it

Sorry for your losses! I have always found most midwifes lacking compassion, they are over stretched and it’s like they are in a loop of seeing the next person without actually seeing the person. More physical needs than any emotional. Not a bash on midwifes it’s hard job and there are a few that stick out in my mind for being lovely.

I hope it all goes well tomorrow and the baby is growing well! Good luck x

Hi all, they had a cancellation this morning so we managed to go, thankfully my husband was allowed in as well. They said everything is ok, it looks like I’m just earlier than I think (despite counting from 1st day of last period) because my cycles are around 32 days (about 2 cycles ago it was 40 days) so they want me back in 2 weeks to check everything is moving well, but it’s in the right place and we saw a flicker of a heartbeat.

I’m really hoping that we might be able to hear the heartbeat in 2 weeks.

I asked about progesterone and the nurse said no harm in taking it and either way is fine as it all gets absorbed into the blood stream.

My relief is huge; nurse said no exercise, no baths and to just relax so I’m going to move my laptop to the sofa each afternoon whilst working, get the morning done and then I can relax a bit in the afternoon. Thank god for working from home at the moment!
Thank you everyone for your good wishes, I’ll keep you updated; these next 2 weeks are going to be tricky although we do have a private scan booked in for next week.xx