I can't cope with pregnancy sickness, regretting planning another pregnancy

[mummymamamomo]

I am so ill. Week 9, I have been sick from the minute I open my eyes for the past 5 weeks now. It lasts all day, I can't bare the thought of eating. Having an empty stomach makes it so much worse. Often sick as soon as I do eat. Can keep down water ok so I'm not worried about dehydration. I am so utterly miserable. I have been in bed majority of every day for over a month now. My husband is doing all the cooking/cleaning and I feel so sorry on our daughter 5.

I have tried ginger biscuits
Ice lollies
Soups
Toast
Crackers

I have gone from being an absolute foodie, real enjoyment from food, cooking and eating to being constantly starving but often sick at even the thought of having to eat.

So far have been prescribed- metoclopramide, prochlorperazine and another type that came in a little brown bottle... none have helped at all.

My pregnancy with my daughter was NOTHING like this...

Huge sympathy OP. It’s awful.

@Earlybirdcatches

Huge sympathy OP. It’s awful.

Never ever again... I can't bare the thought at having another potentially 10 or so weeks of feeling like this. I'm utterly useless... my husband goes away to work for 3 months in 2 weeks time and I'm panicking about how I will manage on my own

Have you considered going into hospital briefly? You'd be amazed what a few bags of fluid can do and they may give you better meds too. You wouldn't have to stay in long but just enough to break to cycle (not being able to eat, being sicker...) and get a bit of relief?

@MumOfThreeToBe2021

Have you considered going into hospital briefly? You'd be amazed what a few bags of fluid can do and they may give you better meds too. You wouldn't have to stay in long but just enough to break to cycle (not being able to eat, being sicker...) and get a bit of relief?

Really keen to avoid but maybe it's an option before my husband goes away to work... I have another prescription of a new tablet to pick up tomorrow but I just don't feel hopeful going on the fact none of the previous 3 have helped at all.

I don't have family near by and friends all have their own family, how am I going to manage with a 5 year old and dogs when I can't get out of bed.

Get ondansetron prescribed. It’s a miracle drug for many people suffering from severe sickness. My first pregnancy was horrendous and I wouldn’t have got pregnant again without the promise of access.

Get onto pregnancy sickness support and got to the GP armed with evidence.

Sounds like hyperemesjs.

I had it with both. By the time I was onto baby number 2 I wasn't going to fobbed off on rubbish meds that didn't work. Ondansatron worked best for me. Didn't stop the nausea but stopped the non stop vomiting (I could be sick every 10 minutes all day without it).

Hang on in there. Mine passed by about 20 weeks and is now a distant memory.

Have they tested your urine when going to the doctors for ketones? Yes you might be getting enough water but if you are losing weight it’s not good.

I was exactly the same and ended up being admitted to hospital as I started to throw up water.

Eat what ever you fancy, I loved Burger King. Can’t stand it normally but it was better than not eating.

Keep an eye on your weight and it might worth speaking to your GP again. They may test your urine and if it’s got certain levels of ketones or proteins they might send you for some injections and a bag of fluids at the hospital.

Sorry it’s so rough! Sending hugs!

@Freezeboy

Have they tested your urine when going to the doctors for ketones? Yes you might be getting enough water but if you are losing weight it’s not good.

I was exactly the same and ended up being admitted to hospital as I started to throw up water.

Eat what ever you fancy, I loved Burger King. Can’t stand it normally but it was better than not eating.

Keep an eye on your weight and it might worth speaking to your GP again. They may test your urine and if it’s got certain levels of ketones or proteins they might send you for some injections and a bag of fluids at the hospital.

Sorry it’s so rough! Sending hugs!

Thanks for the replies. The suggestions of meds is really helpful!! I honestly wish I was tube fed, I can't bare the thought of eating ANYTHING, I feel like I hate food at the moment which is so far from what I normally am. Everything makes me feel sick. I thought ready salted french fries (the crisps) were ok for half a day but the nutritional value is absolutely none and they don't fill me up at all so it seemed pointless even eating them as they didn't fill me up enough to help the sicky feeling I get from hunger.

I am a bit embarrassed to say I have avoided going into the doctors and only ever spoken to them over the phone, I physically don't feel like I can get out of my bed.

Feel really bad on my husband, he's doing everything in the house and I can tell he is sick of my persistent moaning (can't blame him... I would be too) think I just needed new people to moan to about it 😭😭

You can get ketostix from the chemist to check your ketones. That might prompt them into prescribing something stronger as I'm sure you'll have them in your urine if you're not eating.

And don't worry about the nutritional value of food. I survived on mashed potato and coke between 6 and 14 weeks and baby was just gone.

There's a really useful hyperemesjs thread always running on here. Lots of useful advice about what people find helps e.g. the liquid from cans of tinned fruit.

It's horrific - I've just had my second baby and was so ill from week 6 to week 14. In that time my husband and mother did almost everything- I also felt so guilty about my 3year old. I would say if you're husband is going away you need to take drastic action- you need help. Either he doesn't go or one of your mothers moves in or you hire help. Screw COVID - sickness like you describe is so debilitating - you need help lined up!

Genuinely don't try and manage alone!

I’m so sorry to read you’re feeling so grotty.
It will pass and there are medications that you can take that are safe in pregnancy. Have you tried calling your GP and trying to get some anti sickness tablets?
I’ve also found that crystallised ginger was much more effective than ginger biscuits. It’s a bit strong but definitely did the trick. Hoping you’re feeling better soon!

@BergamotMouse

You can get ketostix from the chemist to check your ketones. That might prompt them into prescribing something stronger as I'm sure you'll have them in your urine if you're not eating.

And don't worry about the nutritional value of food. I survived on mashed potato and coke between 6 and 14 weeks and baby was just gone.

There's a really useful hyperemesjs thread always running on here. Lots of useful advice about what people find helps e.g. the liquid from cans of tinned fruit.

I will get my husband to get the ketostix along with my presecption from the chemist tomorrow or do you need to give them sample and test it there and then?

Also going to go look for the board on here. Thank you!

@GlennRheeismyfavourite

It's horrific - I've just had my second baby and was so ill from week 6 to week 14. In that time my husband and mother did almost everything- I also felt so guilty about my 3year old. I would say if you're husband is going away you need to take drastic action- you need help. Either he doesn't go or one of your mothers moves in or you hire help. Screw COVID - sickness like you describe is so debilitating - you need help lined up!

No parents near by but maybe an option to look at hiring in help. Did you find anything worked for you in helping? I know week 6-14 doesn't sound long but 8 weeks of debilitating illness for someone usually healthy feels like a life time

I survived off burger kings and chip sticks for 9months, try not to worry about nutrition value.

And when I say chip sticks probably 6-10 bags a day 🤣😂🙈

I completely feel your pain. I'm currently 10 weeks and could have written your post!! Also on my third lot of meds. And feel completely debilitated.

Have no advice as such but complete empathy. I must admit mine got so bad last week that I have moved in with my mum so she can look after DD, and I literally just lie in bed. Sitting up makes me feel so sick, even just walking to bathroom is such an effort! Could you move in with family for a little while? Or your mum move in with you?

I'm living on rice Krispies at the moment, and sips of milk. Can't stomach anything else at all.

My DD will have her first birthday next week and I'm gutted I won't be able to enjoy it.

All that keeps me going is that it can't last forever!

Feeling like death 24hours a day for weeks on end is enough to break anyone. The HG thread on here is very supportive and they know everything about drugs and treatments.

I survived my first trimester on tinned fruit literally just a single slice of peach frequently through out the day.
I hope you find something that helps. My sickness initially got better around 9 weeks although it did return in the third trimester.

Don't forget to stress the emotional and mental toll it is taking on you. Its not just your physical health that takes a battering, it might make them more receptive to the medication suggestions others have given you.

I agree with a pp ondansetron is a very effective antiemetic. I would speak to gp again.

Speak with your Gp and get anti sickness meds prescribed, I took them with all 4 of my pregnancies. The last pregnancy I took them from the minute I got a positive test, as I knew I would need them anyway!

I'm afraid for me nothing helped - and believe me I know how long 8 weeks feels - it feels like a lifetime. I remember thinking that I'd forgotten what it felt like to feel normal and that I'd never feel well again. For me, I suppose it helped that my mum and sister all suffered with it so I had a lot of people who really understood what I was going through and for me it really tailed off at about 14-16 weeks. With my first baby making myself sick brought a few hours relief, with my second baby it didn't help at all. I ate whatever I felt like (not much!) pot noodle for one week then couldn't stand them, marmite sandwiches for another week, plain crisps - basically salty stuff. It's truly awful. You can stick it out. Sleep/lie down as much as you can!

@Appzy

I completely feel your pain. I'm currently 10 weeks and could have written your post!! Also on my third lot of meds. And feel completely debilitated.

Have no advice as such but complete empathy. I must admit mine got so bad last week that I have moved in with my mum so she can look after DD, and I literally just lie in bed. Sitting up makes me feel so sick, even just walking to bathroom is such an effort! Could you move in with family for a little while? Or your mum move in with you?

I'm living on rice Krispies at the moment, and sips of milk. Can't stomach anything else at all.

My DD will have her first birthday next week and I'm gutted I won't be able to enjoy it.

All that keeps me going is that it can't last forever!

Sending hugs 🤗 💕 it's the absolute worst!! Totally feel for you.

Sadly no family near by and friends all have their own family but considering hiring help for when my husband goes away to work...

Oh god, this was me with DD. I was so ill from about 5 weeks till 28 weeks and then again from 39 weeks. I took every med, tried all the usual remedies, my GP did acupuncture (which worked but was short lived) and then ended up in hospital 3 times. I was sick usually 30+ times a day, couldn't watch people eating either. Mine was extreme though but it did mean that Dd is an only as I couldn't do all that again. Good luck OP