Nervous about 12 week scan

[Ivyleaf72]

Hi all,

Has anyone else struggled with feeling really nervous for the 12 week scan? I’ll be 9 weeks tomorrow and have just received my scan date for the 17th of March, which feels ages away! This is my first pregnancy, and I’m terrified that something will be wrong or the possibility of a mmc. I keep hearing about mmc stories and it sounds like they’re so common. I feel a bit guilty that I worry about this so much. I’ve been trying really hard to keep my nerves under control, but getting the scan letter through the door has worked me up a bit! I just really want the baby to be healthy in there (as we all do). If any one can offer any reassurance I’d be really grateful.
Thank you

I've never known anyone not scared about getting bad news at their scan. It's natural. Good luck

Hi @Ivyleaf72

I was so scared for my scan, it's my first pregnancy too! I ended up getting a private one at 8 weeks for some peace of mind and it did help for the first few days then I was back to worrying. I don't think I'll stop either until baby is here! I cry at every single scan too because I have so much anxiety built up as soon as they say everything's ok I just breakdown with relief 🙈 It's normal don't worry. Everyone goes through things differently but I'm with you on being nervous.

I also had cramps at 11 weeks and was certain I was having a MC but then everything was fine it's just my body changing.

It's hard not to worry but you do over think in these situations. I'm 14 weeks on Friday and feel like it felt a lifetime away when I found out on Christmas Eve. It does really fly by! Sending lots of love to you xx

They're really not that common. You may see many stories about them these days but there are far more dating scans that show a happy active baby.
Just stay hopeful and good luck.

Yeah I’ve got mine in ten days!
So nervous. I have had a miscarriage endure though not a missed one. I’ve scared myself to death reading horror stories about people going into their scan and finding out the baby has died, and it did actually happen to my friend last year. I’ve been too chicken to go and get a private scan.

I TRY and be rational and the fact is that MOST scans (like the overwhelming majority) tend to be absolutely fine. I might relax when I’ve had it but I’m not so sure, I’ll probably start worrying about something else.

I worked myself up so much about my 12 week scan. I remember sitting in the waiting room convinced we were about to get bad news. I think most women feel this way, that first 8 weeks between finding out and then the scan feels like a lifetime.

There was about 30 seconds between lying down on the couch and the sonographer saying “congratulations”. I was so focussed on MMC that I thought she meant congratulations, your baby is alive.

She didn’t - she quickly clarified it was twins.

Bit of an emotional roller coaster of a day!

I'm very very anxious myself too and for this reason booked a private scan. But I also repeat to myself that approx 90% scans show a healthy baby!! ( according to some website I read) And 90% is a lot! It helps me to think about this number, not the remaining 10%. Good luck xx

Yes, I’ve got my “12 week scan” this Sunday although I’ll actually be 13+3! My last pregnancy was found to be ectopic at 5 weeks so this is the first time I’ve got this far and I’m so nervous!!
Had a scan at 6 weeks with EPU given my history, plus we paid for a private scan at 9 weeks and all was Ok at both, but I think it’s quite normal to be anxious the whole time!!!
If you want reassurance I would definitely recommend and early scan (plus the company I used allowed partners to come unlike nhs scan so it gave my husband the chance to see bubba on screen).

I'm 10+5 and I've not had my scan date yet. I'm so anxious for it too. I have days where I think it'll be okay and days where I just feel it's going to be bad news. I'm taking it a day at a time. Good luck x

Try not to think about it. MMC aren’t that common and the only reason you do see it a lot is because people look to forums like this for comfort and advice (speaking from experience).
It’s highly likely that everything will be fine. If you want reassurance before then, you can always book in privately with a reputable company.
Just try to relax and keep busy until then when you get to see baby jumping around x

I feel the same as you. I had a mc at 9 weeks last year, I had some bleeding at 8 weeks and went to EPU and was told there was no heartbeat, after going to a private scan at 6+6 and seeing a heartbeat 😞 it was tough.

I’m now 6+6 again and so nervous for my scan which will probably be beginning of April. I’m too scared to book a private scan, but I might ask at my booking appointment if I could have a scan at EPU before the 12 week one (if I make it that far).

I’m just trying to remind myself that both mcs and mmcs are very rare.

Hope it goes well for you xxx