Can I ask how long it took to conceive after an ERPC?

[secondorange]

I had an ERPC on Feb 3rd (MC at 7 weeks) and I'm a bit anxious to get pregnant again. Both my DC and this one I lost were conceived the first month trying after lots of OPKs and tracking and ahem...baby making so hoping for similar luck but want to hear from those who've been through it. To those of you who really tried after an ERPC, I mean really tried in a sort of type A manner with opks and the whole lot (like us, DTD every 2 days since I was cleared after the surgery in hopes of catching the egg, after my cycle got messed up by the MC/ERPC) how long did it take to get pregnant again? Thank you

I had my surgery 27th July 2020, got a negative test on 5th august, & a bfp on 28 august 2020.

I’m not 29+5wks pregnant.

I am beyond in love with this baby, but my god, mentally it almost broke me. I think being pregnant with a rainbow baby is hard enough with the anxiety, but it being so quickly after a loss is very tough. I ended up in EPU twice as the period like cramps & some spotting made me think something was wrong. Despite doing opk’s and knowing exactly when I ovulated, the doctors obviously couldn’t take my word for it so could never quite tell me until 12 weeks I was safe regarding dating purposes.

Since bleeding at 9 weeks I think I’ve had it straightforward the last 20 weeks, but not on a mental health level. It’s tough & I’d really advise everyone wait at least one cycle, but that does make me a hypocrite, & I ignored every piece of advice that told me the same when I wanted to know how soon I could try again.

@Sansa87 thank you! Perhaps I should wait. A bit late now though if it were to happen, oops part of the healing process for me I think is to be pregnant again. I so desperately wanted this baby and it was quite a journey to deciding whether or not to go for another child after an awful pregnancy with my first. Its so hard not to be impatient after all the work I put in to get to this point. I completely understand what you're saying. I think in a way I'd love a smoother ride after my first experience then a MC - hope it all works out but if it hasn't happened yet I think once my cycle comes back and I fall pregnant I'd feel more calm

@secondorange like I said, I was you. Getting pregnant ASAP was my healing process too. I needed it, & I am crazy excited for this baby, but it is hard. I was fortunate oh was the most supportive human in the world, & my midwife from the baby we lost was a text away even though it was a new pregnancy

It was also a weird experience getting that bfp. I cried with happiness and excitement first time. This time I was very level headed. No crying, no excitement, just a sense of “this does not mean we are having a baby”

Sorry for your loss OP.

I had an erpc at 8 weeks a couple years ago.

I fell pregnant 4 months later, now have a healthy little boy.

Good luck with it all - like a PP I don't think I truly 'got over it' (if you ever do I suppose) until I got pregnant again and it does take some of the excitement out of it too sadly. I never told myself this was going to happen for me - it was more of a every milestone we hit is a step closer. Even when I was a few days before my scheduled c section (breech baby) I didn't think it was going to happen for me.

Take every day as it comes would be my advice and believe it will happen.

@Sansa87 its just crap how MC sucks the joy out of everything. Every day now I'm so irate and impatient and the days just crawl by My DH was very level headed when we got our BFP this time (knowing a BFP doesn't equal baby) and so did I deep down but thought oh, once I get past 6 weeks or so, the chances are better etc and I got SO excited and happy that this was finally happening. I felt like such a fool! I don't know if anyone can get happy/relaxed about TTC or a new pregnancy truly after a MC. So happy that you got your rainbow and wishing you the best for the rest of your pregnancy and beyond! Such great news.

Hi. I am so sorry you are going through this - it's very hard. I was advised that having had the ERPC (mmc at 12 weeks) that I ought to leave at least one full cycle and preferably three before trying to get pregnant again. It might have been because I had two consecutive MCs and the GP advised that falling pg in the cycle following a MC isn't a good plan. I waited and conceived in month 4 - said dc is now 13 :) I didn't realise just how stressful it was until I had the 12 week scan and just sobbed and sobbed when she confirmed the heartbeat - that midwife could not have been kinder or nicer. Fingers crossed for you.

Hi OP, I’m sorry for your loss

My ERPC was back in 2019 and the MMC was so tough, I was desperate to be pg too. It took me till the 4th cycle to fall again (about 6 months), weirdly I did actually get a BFP on all 3 cycles in between but they all turned out to be chemicals, maybe the uterus just needed some extra time to heal, who knows. I did ovulate about 3 weeks after the op though so it didn’t take long to recover in that way.

I have to agree with @Sansa87 the 🌈 pregnancy was not particularly enjoyable as I was so anxious the whole time, scans were a nightmare and I nearly ran away from the 12 week scan as I couldn’t bear it in case it happened again. That’s before giving birth during lockdown. It was however a perfectly heathy pg and I had a lovely scan at 8 weeks at EPU which made all the difference. Make sure you’re in a good place mentally and be kind to yourself x

Best of luck x