Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

UK covid restrictions easing & pregnancy, how do you feel?

81 replies

Peachesavent · 22/02/2021 16:55

Hey girls! How is everyone feeling with the news of the COVID restrictions easing in the UK? I am 7+4 so still really early on but I must admit I'm already feeling a little anxious at the thought of normal life returning especially as not many people know I'm pregnant yet... I'm in so many group chats where social events are being discussed already... Same for my other half... Just want to do everything to keep me and baby safe though?! Xx

OP posts:
Inmypjsagain · 23/02/2021 17:02

Oh and interesting to note there might still be rules on mask wearing etc. I took no limits on social restrictions as everything being normal! But I guess it’s early days and we need to see how it progresses.

ThisMammaCat · 23/02/2021 17:09

I'm uneasy about it because the last time they tried it, the shit hit the fan. I have zero trust in the shitshow government, and don't expect it to go smoothly at all.

I hope it will go smoothly though, I'm quite the hermit and the restrictions haven't hurt me at all, but others are having a really hard time with it.

My biggest concern is getting my baby out of the hospital safely after giving birth in May, luckily maternity is right near the entrance so it'll be a short path to flee along! Might see if they'll sneak us out of a side door Grin

Skymum82 · 23/02/2021 17:24

@Inmypjsagain

Oh and interesting to note there might still be rules on mask wearing etc. I took no limits on social restrictions as everything being normal! But I guess it’s early days and we need to see how it progresses.
So did I, I'm a 100% sure it's meant like that too, can you imagine clubbing with face masks on 😂😂😂.
Skymum82 · 23/02/2021 17:27

@MissingCoffeeandWine

I do think it’s worth remembering that the final trimester of pregnancy - the only period for which there is any suggestion at all that women are at increased risk - is 14 weeks max (if overdue etc)

For most of us in the UK or EU, we are so lucky that maternity leave is much longer than that.

I’m not celebrating because I’m due in May. I’m relieved because I had a baby last lockdown. And it sucked: and I’m so relieved that other moms don’t have to do that again!

So are you saying we can use maternity leave the last 12 weeks to shield? What if you have kids, will they have to be off. I'm due in October, remember last year, October is when shit hit the fan again 🤦🏼‍♀️. The vaccine is great and doesn't stop you getting or spreading it, actually people are more likely to show no symptoms. Spread it to people who have not been able to have the vaccine.
Moon12345 · 23/02/2021 18:26

I am over the moon! 21 weeks and haven’t seen my mum since I’ve been pregnant - I want normality back and hate living such a limited existence. I also refuse to live in fear. Alongside teaching yoga (which I’m still doing online) I’m also a waitress and if work let me back tomorrow I’d go.

mum2bin2021 · 23/02/2021 19:07

[quote Fro93]@mum2bin2021 I’m sorry you’re feeling that way :(

I’m not due til October but can imagine my in laws being much the same. Could you speak to them and mention your worries and perhaps say that whilst we are allowed to mix you’re concerned and ask that they are sensible/ wait until after baby is born before going off all over the place?

Before anyone starts I’m not saying the world needs to revolve around pregnant women or those with new borns, I’m very pleased restrictions are being lifted but I do think within families there needs to be consideration/ no judgment/ comments about being over the top If people are still wanting to be cautious.

I agree with @Skymum82 it’s easy to be elated if you’re due before these restrictions are lifted.

but for those of us going into third trimester as everything goes back to normal it is so scary, as we are left vulnerable, with no vaccination and a potential of catching it before going into labour, at the same time as everyone letting their guard down[/quote]
Thank you for your empathy - I think I will relay the message to close family that until we are happy with babies health, there will be no visitors from anyone and we will let them know when we are comfortable.

For those who are happy about the restrictions being lifted, I'm really happy for you. For those who are not, I'm right there with you. These are bloody hard times to be pregnant, whatever stage you're at. Sending positivity to everyone Thanks

rhowton · 23/02/2021 19:48

If you were seriously worried about COVID, why get pregnant during a pandemic?? I understand that accidents happen, but the pregnant women I know have chosen to be pregnant during a pandemic!

MissingCoffeeandWine · 23/02/2021 19:50

@Skymum82
This is where I find the media coverage infuriating. No evidence or limited evidence is not the same as meaning “it doesn’t do something” just means “we haven’t proven it does yet”. Science is conservative. Evidence for stopping spread can only be gathered as large groups of people have been vaccinated and spend time interacting. We couldn’t do that until a certain proportions had been vaccinated. That’s recent! The data emerging is very positive that the vaccine does reduce spread - significantly.

The estimates for AZ is “about a two-thirds” reduction after one dose - link: www.google.ie/amp/s/www.express.co.uk/life-style/health/1400974/astrazeneca-vaccine-does-covid-vaccine-prevent-spread-coronavirus-transmission-evg/amp

We know that MRNA vaccines lower the viral load effectively. Those with lower viral loads pass the virus to less people. That’s the known. The evidence of the exact reduction of spread is being calculated in Israel at the moment - www.google.ie/amp/s/www.sciencenews.org/article/coronavirus-covid-19-pfizer-vaccine-may-reduce-transmission/amp

But some of this is academic. As the difficultly with covid is not that we could all get it (we all get colds etc). but that some of those who got it, were very ill very quickly. The vaccine protects those people and prevents deaths.

As I posted above: women of pregnancy age are highly unlikely to be vulnerable to death, the ECV category has always been in place as it was unknown what risk covid would have on mum and baby (especially given the physical demands of pregnancy at late stage). Initial evidence was not great (I was terrified in work) BUT there is emerging evidence that actually it’s less harmful than we thought especially for baby. There is also increasing evidence that women are delaying access to treatment due to fears around covid, which is harmful for mom and baby. And that lockdowns are harmful for new moms and babies. Hence I said - it’s a balance.

The UK has one of the most conservative approaches to vaccinating pregnant women. Again, they cannot ethically conduct clinical trials, but cohort data is beginning to suggest that there is little to no risk to the pregnancy and possible benefits - www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/should-you-get-covid19-vaccine-while-pregnant-heres-what-experts-say?cmpid=int_org=ngp::int_mc=website::int_src=ngp::int_cmp=amp::int_add=amp_readtherest
So pregnant women may be vaccinated by October. But the evidence takes a long time to collect. And for now. It rightly won’t be recommended until we know more.

I never said that shielding should be enforced via early maternity leave - I said I would like to see the government support women (if they are still found to be at a higher risk in late pregnancy and continue to be unable to or want to access vaccines) to shield at home. Extend furlough, wfh guidance, support companies. However it is done, it should be done. I believe until at least the end of June this is in the guidance.

It is the uncertainty that is difficult: but this is all so new, it is hard to predict. Again all of the guidance about opening up has ‘caveats’. If the vaccine evidence doesn’t emerge, decisions will be looked at again.
So far, it’s looking hopeful - less and less like last October could happen again - but no one is making any promises.

@fro98 is right: these are really hard times to be pregnant. I don’t think there is an easy solution to this. It’s a shite situation. And I agree that families - and friends - and we all - should respect each other’s choices to protect our own families.

It’s completely understandable to be scared about restrictions lifting. But being allowed to do something doesn’t meant you have to do it. I hope families will listen. I think right now people are just over excited, and making lots of plans, and I suspect there will be many that act more cautiously when asked to, then they are suggesting now.

I’m not responding to try to fight with anyone. It bothers me that there is so much misinformation out there. I’ve found the media coverage terrifying, but the actual data much more hopeful. Hence the long posts and links. Sorry all x

captainnoir · 23/02/2021 22:15

I'll be honest, Im due early may. and I was sort of hoping for no indoor mixing until June at least because I won't be able to get rid of the inlaws who have one school aged child.

but on the other hand I'm happy because at least my toddler can enjoy a normal summer.

I'm just pissed off that I won't be able to use the excuse of no household mixing to keep people away.

MoscowMuse · 23/02/2021 22:27

@MissingCoffeeandWine thanks so much for your really detailed and helpful posts! These are great. :)

Im due in July and am a FTM. I'm so pleased that i am going to be able to see my mum before i give birth. She lives 200miles away from me and this is her first grandchild. I haven't seen her since August and i feel so sad that she is missing out on seeing my bump grow in person. Im also lucky that my employer has said noone will be forced back into the office and can continue WFH until at least September and then longer in certain circumstances.

However i am also worried about my third trimester and my newborn. I agree with those who are saying that the 21st June doesnt mean everything will go back to pre-covid. Anyone who has ever been to Asia knows that masks are the norm. I will continue to stay at home as much as possible, wear a mask when out and about or on the tube even after I'm vaccinated i think, and will avoid having too many visitors in my house, cuddling my baby etc until we see how the next few months pan out. As with the past 12months, it's all a bit of wait and see!

In the end, I don't begrudge anyone who is looking forward to the end of restrictions - i feel like the country needs a bit of hope to take us into the summer. Stay safe everyone!

WeavingWandering · 23/02/2021 22:35

I desperately want to see people - I’ve been alone for most of my pregnancy as my partner is deployed overseas and now is stuck there and I just moved so know no one local. But with all the children going back at once, i think we’ll be back in lockdown or at least tier 4 by end of March - which will mean no chance to see anyone, my partner not able to get home for the birth and little support after. Selfishly - I’m devastated.

While I’m thrilled children can go back to school , I just wished they’d open the schools gradually and that we might actually get a chance at a bit of sustainable normality.

Fro93 · 23/02/2021 23:12

@rhowton
I’m possibly only speaking for myself here but infertility doesn’t hold off when there is a pandemic unfortunately. I was trying for a year before covid, and wasn’t willing to stop trying because of it.
I’m sure I’m not the only one though who suffers infertility who wasn’t willing to hold off or pause treatment because of covid.

Though I do appreciate this is of my own making and I don’t want the world to dance around me because I’m pregnant- just for the government to acknowledge there’s a group of women in our country who aren’t vaccinated and are therefore vulnerable, and as PP summarised my earlier post, for my friends and family to have some consideration when arranging to see me/ not be offended if I say no/ take relevant precautions and respect my decisions

I guess time will tell- it’s very early to be thinking about June really isn’t it

NinaMimi · 24/02/2021 05:35

I'm just pissed off that I won't be able to use the excuse of no household mixing to keep people away.

That’s one thing that I think is good about restrictions. I would like at least a week to settle in with baby but I’m due in June so I think I’ll be entertaining in-laws and family.

crispychicken12 · 24/02/2021 05:46

I'm extremely nervous. I've been working as a student nurse so I'm aware of the risks and luckily I get tested twice a week, the further I get into my pregnancy the more I'm worried about the effect covid will have on me.

Then, I'm glad my husband will hopefully be allowed to attend our csection.

I can't even describe the feeling, I thought I'd be excited that life is returning to normal and we can spend some time as a 3 doing activities with our son before we become a 4 but honesty I'm filled with dread and anxiety and I can't get to the bottom of why

Skymum82 · 24/02/2021 07:20

[quote MissingCoffeeandWine]@Skymum82
This is where I find the media coverage infuriating. No evidence or limited evidence is not the same as meaning “it doesn’t do something” just means “we haven’t proven it does yet”. Science is conservative. Evidence for stopping spread can only be gathered as large groups of people have been vaccinated and spend time interacting. We couldn’t do that until a certain proportions had been vaccinated. That’s recent! The data emerging is very positive that the vaccine does reduce spread - significantly.

The estimates for AZ is “about a two-thirds” reduction after one dose - link: www.google.ie/amp/s/www.express.co.uk/life-style/health/1400974/astrazeneca-vaccine-does-covid-vaccine-prevent-spread-coronavirus-transmission-evg/amp

We know that MRNA vaccines lower the viral load effectively. Those with lower viral loads pass the virus to less people. That’s the known. The evidence of the exact reduction of spread is being calculated in Israel at the moment - www.google.ie/amp/s/www.sciencenews.org/article/coronavirus-covid-19-pfizer-vaccine-may-reduce-transmission/amp

But some of this is academic. As the difficultly with covid is not that we could all get it (we all get colds etc). but that some of those who got it, were very ill very quickly. The vaccine protects those people and prevents deaths.

As I posted above: women of pregnancy age are highly unlikely to be vulnerable to death, the ECV category has always been in place as it was unknown what risk covid would have on mum and baby (especially given the physical demands of pregnancy at late stage). Initial evidence was not great (I was terrified in work) BUT there is emerging evidence that actually it’s less harmful than we thought especially for baby. There is also increasing evidence that women are delaying access to treatment due to fears around covid, which is harmful for mom and baby. And that lockdowns are harmful for new moms and babies. Hence I said - it’s a balance.

The UK has one of the most conservative approaches to vaccinating pregnant women. Again, they cannot ethically conduct clinical trials, but cohort data is beginning to suggest that there is little to no risk to the pregnancy and possible benefits - www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/should-you-get-covid19-vaccine-while-pregnant-heres-what-experts-say?cmpid=int_org=ngp::int_mc=website::int_src=ngp::int_cmp=amp::int_add=amp_readtherest
So pregnant women may be vaccinated by October. But the evidence takes a long time to collect. And for now. It rightly won’t be recommended until we know more.

I never said that shielding should be enforced via early maternity leave - I said I would like to see the government support women (if they are still found to be at a higher risk in late pregnancy and continue to be unable to or want to access vaccines) to shield at home. Extend furlough, wfh guidance, support companies. However it is done, it should be done. I believe until at least the end of June this is in the guidance.

It is the uncertainty that is difficult: but this is all so new, it is hard to predict. Again all of the guidance about opening up has ‘caveats’. If the vaccine evidence doesn’t emerge, decisions will be looked at again.
So far, it’s looking hopeful - less and less like last October could happen again - but no one is making any promises.

@fro98 is right: these are really hard times to be pregnant. I don’t think there is an easy solution to this. It’s a shite situation. And I agree that families - and friends - and we all - should respect each other’s choices to protect our own families.

It’s completely understandable to be scared about restrictions lifting. But being allowed to do something doesn’t meant you have to do it. I hope families will listen. I think right now people are just over excited, and making lots of plans, and I suspect there will be many that act more cautiously when asked to, then they are suggesting now.

I’m not responding to try to fight with anyone. It bothers me that there is so much misinformation out there. I’ve found the media coverage terrifying, but the actual data much more hopeful. Hence the long posts and links. Sorry all x[/quote]
So the last 2 years pregnant women in the third trimester have been "looked after" and now it's ok to say sod it. There had been quite a few women really poorly in there last trimester with covid, actually a story today about turning of life support on one women who court it in her last trimester.
This was very much a surprise baby.
I don't think I'm more scared due to the media, I'm worried due to having asthma, being in my third trimester when people won't just be mixing but they will be making up for mixing.
I also have no faith in the govement.
The lockdown would of decreased covid deaths and numbers not the vaccine esp as we would of only seen the effects it had in the other 70s at the minute, you know the group that was shielding and staying in...

Skymum82 · 24/02/2021 07:27

A big issue is I don't trust this government. Like they wanted the kids to go back after Xmas, is the school union hadn't kicked off they would of sent them back. We had worse deaths than the first lockdown!!!
Also sending the kids back before vaccinating the teachers 🤦🏼‍♀️.. There is no sense in their madness.
Giving a date where no social restrictions will be in place, for a month before they wil think they will give every one their first vaccination (you still have people not bothering getting a second vaccination yet which will be over winter. Already have no many people I know saying they won't as had bad side effects.

THATbasicSNOWFLAKE · 24/02/2021 08:13

Fully agree @Skymum82, a full school return now is ridiculous. Yes i know the kids need to be in school but bloody hell this isn't gonna go well is it? They will be in and out with bubble bursts, and we will probably end up in another lockdown! We unlocked too fast the first time and he is just repeating mistakes.

Adancewithdragons · 24/02/2021 08:36

I’m so happy! There have been loads of studies that show pre and post depression are on the rise with new mums and this will help loads of people.

There isn’t any increased risk to me or baby, my sister is a midwife and the reason they were telling people to be careful in the 3rd trimester is to protect the nhs and midwifes. If it spreads through a maternity unit you could have half the staff off and no one to deliver babies. Atleast that’s what I was told.

There’s no increased risk currently to pregnant ladies, there hasn’t been any data to suggest, so if I wasn’t pregnant I would mingle then I should be able to when pregnant. I’m excited to see friends and family again, we haven’t seen parents in law in over a year

physicskate · 24/02/2021 09:16

I fell pregnant (unexpectedly) last July. Things were looking on the up. This last lockdown started as I headed into 3rd trimester. It's really sent me round the bend.

Anxiety levels at an all time high for me. No one knows what support I will be able to have during the birth (currently 35 weeks). No one is able to tell me what support I will have if I have to stay in hospital again or once I get home. I'm struggling massively with the uncertainty and lack of support.

People need hope, sure. But setting all these dates is stupidly irresponsible when we don't meet the targets. When we shouldn't be opening up on these dates, what happens then??

They can't tell me if my husband will be allowed to help me in hospital at the end of March, but they've said fucking hairdressers can open on April 12. Makes me more livid than I've been in awhile!!

My gp doesn't give a shit about my concerns over complications repeating (refused a repeat blood test to see how/if I'm anaemic because I will pph regardless??). Spoke to me about anxiety and she said, 'what do you want me to tell you? We're all in the same boat.'

I'm anxious and PISSED off that we're in this situation at least in part because of very very selfish actions of a large minority of people.

physicskate · 24/02/2021 09:19

@Adancewithdragons - the Rcog disagree with your assessment that risks aren't increased during the third trimester to pregnant women:

www.rcog.org.uk/en/guidelines-research-services/guidelines/coronavirus-pregnancy/covid-19-virus-infection-and-pregnancy/

Adancewithdragons · 24/02/2021 10:31

@physicskate can you point to the right part that states that? I can only see the below which is a maybe / precaution as we don’t have enough data, is there any peer reviewed data that’s more concrete?

Pregnant women who catch COVID-19 may be at increased risk of becoming severely unwell compared to non-pregnant women, particularly in the third trimester. Pregnant women have been included in the list of people at moderate risk (clinically vulnerable) as a precaution.

Skymum82 · 24/02/2021 11:01

Data from this study of 427 pregnant women in May 2020 found the majority of women who have become severely ill were in their third trimester of pregnancy. Therefore, it's important to pay particular attention to social distancing from 28 weeks of pregnancy. www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/blogs-and-stories/im-pregnant/pregnancy-news-and-blogs/pregnancy-and-coronavirus-information-pregnant-women

I will be 35 too in my third trimester. I think what has me in this whole covid is how un caring others are and the attitude "I'm young and healthy so should be able to live my life", not caring about others that are not so lucky with their health and older generation.
Unless your going to be in the third trimester once social restrictions finish maybe you just can't understand the worry. As the whole country have been protecting pregnant women and high risk people for the last year....

physicskate · 24/02/2021 12:03

@Adancewithdragons - you've stated it. Women in third trimester may very well be at increased risk of severe illness, it's NOT just about protecting midwives from catching it, as you'd been told. Not more likely to catch it in third trimester, but more likely to become seriously unwell.

Adancewithdragons · 24/02/2021 12:59

@physicskate no maybe it’s not just about the midwifes but it is a might be rather than completely fact at the moment, women in the 3rd trimester might also not be at increased risk. I’m not high risk in any of the areas they mentioned. I will still be under 35 in my 3rd trimester etc so I am not worried.

Guess it’s down to personal circumstances etc. Not everyone has the same risk facts during the 3rd trimester or during any pregnancy.