Dad apps/info?

[Karinengland]

Can anyone recommend any dad info and/or app please?

I'm 18 + 2 and can feel the baby moving, he can't yet and it seems he feels quite disconnected with the whole pregnancy. Not being help by not being allowed at any appt. Super supportive and looked after me first months of total fatigue etc but now I'm generally better he does not seem interested. No questions regarding baby, movements... How can I help him feel interested/involved?

Thanks in advance

Following as I'd quite like to suggest an app for my partner too! He's quite excited and I think it would be lovely for him to see what's happening each week through an app that's not designed for the mum!

I used to email my husband the little week by week updates you get from things like bounty, Emma's diary etc etc when pregnant with our eldest.
He was deployed from when I was 3mth to 8mth so couldn't be involved much.

Not tried any of the apps for dads but if you go to the app store and search "pregnancy apps for dads" there are loads. Have a browse of the reviews on there, some seem a bit more comical where others are just informative.

My husband read "the expectant dads handbook" and it was brilliant, probably more informative than many of the books aimed at mums. I'd definitely recommend.

Men can also register to receive the NHS weekly email which they tailor towards the dad:

www.nhs.uk/start4life/signups/new

Thanks guys. We did have a search on the app store but couldn't find anything "serious" or "not too taxing". He's not a great book reader unfortunately.

I feel as if I am making him feeling involved where I think an app would make him involved anyway instead of me trying to throw facts/info at him.

He saw the pregnancy notes yesterday and said "oh, yeah do we need to fill them out?!" They have been visible since the beginning and couldn't help but feel a little hurt at nearly half way he suddenly thought about it especially as they have been out in the open/visible all this time!

Try not to worry too much. My counsellor said it's not unusual for men to be quite surprised when the baby is born! It isn't as real for them.

If you can feel baby now it won't be long before Dad can. My DP was absolutely in awe the first time he felt a kick (now he's over the novelty... but the look on his face first time was priceless).

Also DP is far more practical than me - think that's often the case with men! An app wouldn't have helped us as he's not a big reader and anything I showed him about baby development wouldn't feel real. However, he loves gadgets. I hadn't thought about but he actually got really into choosing the pram - which is essentially a baby gadget. He's actually mega proud of our travel system and tells all of his mates about it. I've seen him doing a demo on WhatsApp with the lads (sure they loved seeing that)! I'm not saying it will be the same for you and it might be a bit early but maybe think about what he's into that could relate to the baby? If he's into fashion get him looking at some designer baby clothes, if it's music get him to choose something to play to the baby (because they can hear now), if it's DIY maybe think about what the nursery will be like... clutching at straws a bit and it might not work but you get the idea!

Also when we got the first baby clothes it started to sink in for real. I was so uncomfortable doing that after previous losses but DP was suddenly really excited once he could physically see stuff associated with the baby and how tiny they will be.

Honestly though, I still struggle to get him to engage with anything about what's going on physically for me/baby. That will never be real for him I don't think and he's not interested in any facts etc because there's nothing he can do about any of it - I doubt he even knows what my pregnancy notes are. I've just had to accept that and it's OK as he's excited about what to do once baby is here!

We haven’t tried any apps as such but my husband has taken charge of our weekly baby/mum update, he found a website he likes with this (not sure what but similar to Emma’s Diary/ Bounty type updates mentioned above) & he reads that to me every week, I find he is taking in so much more that way & being interested in both me & the baby.

PP has also mentioned about gadgets & travel system, if there is something like that he is interested in can you ask him to take the lead on looking at the specs/ reviews for those type of items? My husband really got into the whole travel system & baby monitor research & I was more than happy to let him & then come back to him with my input when he had narrowed down the options, so that might be worth a go?

Good luck & hopefully won’t be long until he can feel baby movements too which I found a big help as well

There's an app on play store called hi daddy but it's not a free one, it's £1.39