40+3 no labour as yet

[1990fran]

Hi all

This is my first baby
I am 40+3 3days passed due date
I've had no labour signs only Braxton hicks but had them for ages, I'm going on walks, bouncing on a ball, no sex because OH said it creeps him out knowing a baby is inside me which I respect, is there anything else I should be doing?I am so worried right now about needing to be induced what point do they do this? My friend had to have forceps used which caused issues I just read a lot more intervention needs to happen in this case if induced.. People that were due after me have laboured already and home with thier new additions I feel like I am doing something wrong?! I am just an anxious ball right now I have enjoyed being pregnant but I am so uncomfortable now I just would like it all to happen, my MW has booked in a sweep for this Thursday I don't hold out much hope some people said they dont always work, now thats booked in im hoping I labour beforehand, Just looking for some friendly advice really as feeling very overwhelmed!
Thank you x

Feeling anxious may well be a sign

The average first pregnancy goes over 4 days I believe? My baby wasn't even engaged at 40+4, I was very fed up. 12 hours later I went into labour and 22 hours later had baby.

I didn't have an induction but had ventouse and forceps so it doesn't guarantee you'll avoid intervention so gear yourself up for anything happening.

Hi OP. Sorry it's frustrating. I'm a FTM so I'm only going off what I have read or been told.

Probably annoying but...! In France your due date is 41 weeks! Our course taught us to see it as a from date. If you are calm and feel safe more likely to go into labour. So if you feel worried about it all can you pretend to relax - have a nice candle lit bath, what a laugh out loud movie so try and calm yourself down.

Not magical suggestions I know! Things can change so quickly as PP said for fingers crossed for you.

I'm 37 weeks so I'm sure I won't be a positive Polly for much longer!

Unfortunately you could still have another week and half. Who knows.

My first was born at 42+1. Eventually went into labour at 42 weeks exactly, on my own.

My second was induced but due to waters leaking.
Didn't have no interventions though.
You don't have to have an induction if you don't want to. You don't have to say yes to anything at all.

My first was born at 42+1 after pessary induction, I had done all the sex, nipple stimulation, pineapple eating, curry eating, bouncing on a ball, going for a bumpy car ride stuff people say worked for them. It didn't work for me! The induction was fine though. Had the pessary lunchtimeish, went into labour in the early hours and he was born 2.5 hours after that with no intervention required at all.

Hello

@1990fran I'm in a similar position, 40 weeks and trying everything. Walking, eating dates and pineapple, raspberry tea, bathing in clary sage and even having sex (hubby doesn't like it but my MW said that is the best thing) and nothing. I don't want an induction and would rather I went naturally too. MW has booked me for a sweep on Wednesday but going to decline it and see if my body goes naturally.

Keep your walking up and I'm sure it will happen for us when we least expect it. 🤍 xx

I know we call it a 'due date' but it really isn't. Its just an estimate. Totally normal to get to 41 or even 42 weeks.

Such a frustrating time! I think you are usually induced at 42 weeks, if you need to be.

I went into labour at 40+1 with no signs at all beforehand. Literally woken by a contraction at 6.30am! Baby will come when the time is right.

Hello OP, I know it's hard and frustrating to hear but you really do just need to relax and baby will come when ready, I don't believe in all the old wives tales!
I remember will my second going to bed feeling deflated that I was still pregnant, I went into labour that night and baby was here by the morning! Also please don't worry if it does come to induction, you only hear the negative stories! Good luck, you will forget all about the nerves once you are holding your little baby x

Thank you all so much for your replies really helped put my mind at ease! Going to keep distracted and keep my fingers crossed! I have a sweep booked this Thursday midwife called me earlier so shall see if that does anything! Been getting a lot of lightning crotch yesterday and twinges not sure if thats anything, little man is just being very stubborn haha! Thanks again Xx