Just need to tell someone

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Partner and I are in our early 40s, been together 2 years. I have older children from a previous marriage. He can't have kids.

Or so we thought. Missed my period and have massively heavy boobs, light cramps. Done a few years and they're positive.

I don't know how to tell him or how he will react. I'm shell shocked.

Wow that must be a massive shock for you! Miracles do happen when it comes to infertility. How long has it been since your period was due to start?

My period was due to start 3 days ago and I've always been very regular. It's a huge shock and I'm trying to wonder if it's a mistake. Two tests were faint yesterday and today they're darker.

I honestly don't know how to prepare him for the shock. I keep wondering if it could be a mistake but my boobs are huge and I already have a funny taste in my mouth

In what way can he not have kids? I always wonder when people say this how they know 100%?

What a shock for you OP! It’s unlikely to be a mistake.

I bet it was a shock.

What made him think he can't have kids?

Best think to do is just be honest with him.
He'll be just as shocked as you but at least you can deal with it together

Something personal I won't put on here that made it very unlikely and it's never happened for him and caused issues in his past relationships.

Unlikely isn’t the same as never though. However I hope you’re ok, will he be happy do you think? What are your initial thoughts about what you would want to do?

It depends what he would like to do. If he has always wanted to be a Father, an abortion would not be taken lightly- it wouldn't anyway...whatever happens and whatever we decide it will be news for him.

I think he will be emotional but we will have to discuss a way forward rationally as it will change the relationship for better or for worse.

Well hw was happy. But level and said we need to talk, process and think for a few days so we can decide what to do together.