Supportive groups for lgbt parents eg nct

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Hello,

My friend had a bit of difficulty with her local birth class not being set out for family set ups out side of the norm.

Has anyone had more luck with daisy or any experience of the other groups currently running?

I’m surprised at that. I used NCT 20+ years ago and they were certainly very lesbian friendly!

@Soontobe60

Sorry that wasn't clear, it wasn't nct that was the issue, it was a local group so just wondered if there were any that were less "mum and dad" heavy

What does “not set up” mean OP?

I went alone and was fine

In that case try NCT!

@Chewit2022

It was just very mums come over here, dad's over there and lots of "and the dads will..."

This is just the beginning

They need to find a way to carve out a place for their family in situations that don’t neatly accommodate them

As a single parent, I have to do it all the time

Surely the non pregnant woman takes the 'dad' role here and uses her initiative to join the dads without getting offended by the non inclusive terminology!?

It was pre covid and there were a lot of dads and mums doing seperate nights out, jokes about dads being useless etc.

It wasn't horrendous but definately not somewhere I would choose, especially if other groups are better set up as birthing partners for example and someone has said about nct being quite good

Is it you or your friend OP?

Sorry so friend had the iffy experience previously so I was wondering (for me), if this was just how it was or if there are groups that have a slightly better set ups to look out for (for myself and partner)

OP - I’m a same sex couple, I’m 30 weeks and everyone I’ve seen assumes my wife is my husband or we get paperwork tailored for dads.
It’s just how it is, and I don’t think things should change for a minority. We just laugh about it and get on with things.

Your partner should just assume the role of dad and that’s the end of it.

Im not asking about a revolution, just if there were certain groups that are more inclusive in that way or if there are ones that are particularly known for being very traditional.

There was a group for lesbian parents in Brighton when I did mine and one for single mums but that's probably not common everywhere. It was a private course run by a couple of midwives.

I looked at some nct literature that said birthpartner so was hopeful that was the way it was formatted