Unplanned pregnancy threating relationship

[Hyannis]

Hi all.
Partner and I found out three days ago that I am pregnant with an unplanned child, about 3 weeks. We have been together 2 1/2 years and live apart and have our own kids - me 2, he 3. He has always made it clear he doesn't want any more kids and was trying to book a vasectomy but Covid got in the way. I'm scared this will break the relationship: I don't want to get rid of it but I will if he asks me, but he doesn't want the responsibility of making me terminate. I can't help feeling that any decision we make will cause resentment towards the other. Should I go with his wishes? I've always known he doesn't want more kids. I didn't plan on having more but I'm happy to go through with this. He's 50 I'm 39. Am I being selfish? Sorry, head is messed up! x

If you don't want to terminate I don't see why you would do that just for him.
You have a bit of time to decide. Maybe get an appointment with a Councillor to help you figure out what is best for you as an individual before making decisions as a couple.
I don't think any woman should terminate a pregnancy if she has any doubt that that is what SHE wants.

No, you are not selfish. Having a termination is not for everyone so you need to go by what works for you. But you need also to accept that is also his prerogative to be an involved parent or one that only pays CM.

You also need to consider whether you can cope with a third child on your own. I don’t think he will ask you to get rid of it, that is only for you to decide, he has made it clear he doesn’t want another one over the time you have been together so the decision is only yours.