Concept of a rainbow baby

[Crazylemon86]

I had a late miscarriage last July to identical twin girls. I am ok talking about them and what happened. I am now nearly 12 weeks pregnant with a single pregnancy.
Yesterday I met my consultant and had a scan, all is going well. On the front of my notes there is a sticker which refers to my twins. I am pleased about this as I like them to be acknowledged. However the consultant has now also attached a note with a rainbow to the front of my notes that says "this is my rainbow pregnancy, things I want you to know" and then I'm meant to write something. Firstly I have no idea what I am meant to write and secondly I find the term rainbow pregnancy/baby uncomfortable (I realise this is very much a personal thing). Has anyone else had this rainbow sheet, what sort of things did you write?

I've never had that before. This pregnancy is the 3rd which follows 1 or 2 mc's, all my mc's were in the 1st trimester though. Maybe it's just something that is done for later loss.

If you can't think of anything to write just leave it blank, if something along the way causes you upset you can then add that to the sheet so it is not repeated. Condolences on your twin loss
Congratulations on current pregnancy and best of luck with this one.

Just remove it if you don’t feel it’s going to be of any use or benefit to you.
Sorry for your loss and congratulations on the new pregnancy

I think it's great you have medical staff who acknowledge the pain caused by miscarriage - too often it's dismissed as it's statistically so common and if you work in ob/gyn fields you see it on a daily basis. But don't feel you have to write anything, and if it continues to bother you then remove it or stick something over it.

I had 2 miscarriages before my pregnancies and I've never even heard of that

You can write exactly that:

"I had a late miscarriage last July to identical twin girls. I am ok talking about them and what happened, in fact I like them to be acknowledged. I prefer not to use the term 'rainbow baby / pregnancy'."

You sound very thoughtful and straightforward – trust your instincts here, and congratulations

So sorry for your loss and congratulations on this pregnancy. I also don't like the term 'rainbow baby' I think it kinda minimises your lost babies, like it's a replacement. I refuse to buy anything with rainbows this pregnancy.

Never heard of this sheet, I'd just remove it and explain if asked that your not comfortable with that term.

Thanks for all your thoughts. I am going to leave it blank at the moment and see how things go. I appreciate I am very lucky that the medical team I am working with are so aware of the importance of acknowledging what happened. I am getting an extra scan around the time when the twins would have passed and the consultant has said my husband can attend which we are massively grateful for.