Surprise! 43 and pregnant!

[Robanne]

Hi there!
I am 43 yrs old and expecting fourth child-complete surprise. My three precious daughters are now 10, 9 and 8. Also had a miscarriage around this time last year so my anxiety levels regarding this pregnancy are at an all time high and haven’t allowed myself to get excited/bond with this little one in case it all gets ripped away again. Going for first scan next Friday and counting down the days, but quite concerned that the news won’t be good. Lockdown has helped however, as showing considerably and don’t want to be explaining to all my colleagues that I’m pregnant in case it goes wrong again. Have been totally wiped! Scared of it all going wrong and also scared about starting all over again. Feelings are all over the place! Is there anyone else out there in a similar position? xx

Congrats! Not sure what you question or concern is other than covid, being older etc? Have you considered paying for the NIPT?

After 11yrs TTC, 3mc and no kids, I'd be happy to be pregnant! Best of luck x

I’m not but wanted to wish you best of luck. I’ve got three as well, and had miscarriages and infertility along the way, so know a little how the anxiety feels. Really hope it works out for you!! xx

Thanks to both of you, but don’t have a question so much as looking for someone else who is walking or has walked a similar journey for a little support.xxx

Congratulations!!!

I’m expecting number 4 at 38.

After 4 miscarriages while trying I didn’t think it would happen. Was like you, so nervous following my previous losses, but all early scans so far have been great. I have another one tomorrow.

How many weeks are you now? X

Congratulations! I had my 4th when I was 42, a surprise baby too.
My elder 3 at the time were in their 20's, so it was a huge surprise to find myself pregnant at 41.
I was very nervous throughout the pregnancy and had a couple of scares, but he arrived strong and healthy.

That baby is now 20 and an absolute joy. It was the best thing I ever did have another child.

Congratulations!

I am similar to you, am 41 and 7 weeks today. I have a reassurance scan next Wednesday as was feeling anxious too, pregnancy is a worrying time without the added worry of age etc.

Hope all goes well and here to chat if needed x

We're ttc no 4! I'm 39 and dp is 43. I have 3 girls, 13,11 and 2!

I'm overweight this time which is worrying me, bmi is 28. I've lost 12lbs so far so I'm trying.

Really hope we are successful. Covid is also a big worry but I don't want to wait any longer x

Hi OK, congratulations! I conceived my 4th (surprise) baby at 43 too. I'll be 44 next month and he's 6 weeks old now and fast asleep on my chest! My consultant had some concerns along the way (possible medical problems with baby) but none turned out to be true. Actually, he was my easiest pregnancy physically by far. The birth (c section) was straightforward too and a quick and easy recovery.
How are you feeling?

Not entirely sure but around 11/12 weeks. First scan next Friday. Just praying it all goes smoothly!

Just feeling really nervous about scan next week. If that goes well, hopefully I’ll be able to settle myself a bit. Wasn’t offered a reassurance scan due to CoVid so first scan will be next week...approx 12 weeks I think!!!! 😂 Wasn’t paying any attention to last period cos had no intention of this even happening!!!! Thanks for the encouragement @Londonnight and @Somethingsnappy-just what I needed to hear! @Missreginafalange hope your scan goes well too-keep me updated. Will be thinking of u 2. It mite seem silly but just knowing that there are others out there who have been in or are in a similar position even though we are complete strangers, is strangely comforting.xxx

Good luck with your scan next week! Keep us posted. It definitely helps being able to speak to others in similar positions.

@Robanne good luck with the scan next week.

The one I have next week is private, paid for it for peace of mind

Thanks guys-will do!x