Anyone else struggle with pregnancy

[nellly]

I'm feeling really low, pregnant with first dc1, very much wanted. Dh is absolutely thrilled and can't wait to be a dad. I'm only just coming up 8 weeks and I hate it, I feel miserable all the time. I'm nauseous from the moment I wake up until when I go to sleep, my boobs hurt, I have head aches and I'm constipated.

I feel so guilty, I have friends who have struggled with infertility and my own sister is desperate to fall pregnant after years of trying and a miscarriage. Here I am lucky enough to get pregnant and can't stop crying. Everytime I think of how long I have left until the baby's here I feel like I can't breathe

Hi all

I just wanted to say I completely understand how you all feel. My pregnancy was a bit of a shock and I felt I couldn’t get on board with it as quickly as other people. It took a good 6-7 weeks to fully get my head round it. I didn’t experience what others feel like, and I felt guilty for that like I wasn’t celebrating with others at the news.
I was really ill with sickness, had all the symptoms you have said OP and it really can alter your mindset.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, give yourself time. It’s not a race and there’s no right or wrong way to feel no matter what we see or read.
I read blogs about people who went through the same thing as me and they made me feel better. You’ll get there in time. I’m now 20 weeks and feel totally different, but don’t put a timescale on it, you’ll get there

I hate the first trimester. I feel like I have a two month bout of flu. Plus miscarriage worry plus fat and bloated plus you can't even tell anyone.

I always felt much better by 14 weeks and in the second trimester you start to show and can worry less and it's much nicer.

All of my pregnancies have been difficult/enjoyable at different stages for different reasons. I think its purely physical, hormonal crap! I always appreciated that I was going to have a baby but I certainly didn't appreciate the nausea/vomiting, hip/back/arse cheek pain, fatigue, mood swings, diabetes, dizziness, c section or 2nd degree tears! I'm not some mad martyr!

Just really take as much time for yourself as you need and ignore other people playing it down. X

I am 7+4 and the nausea has subsided a bit which is good but I am so tired! like nothing I have felt before.
I have had moments where I have thought what the hell am i doing? Why have I done this to myself. then I feel guilty and worry something will happen to the baby who is very much wanted.

I have no words of advice but thank you for starting this thread and getting others to share their feelings. It has really made me feel a lot better and less of a horrible mum! I really want this baby- we had been trying for years but I genuinely didn't think I would feel this shit all the time.

I’m so glad to read this thread!
I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my second and I’m miserable. I hate being pregnant so much, but all my friends talk about how much they loved it. I’m glad to know I’m not alone!
I’m counting down the days until I never have to be pregnant again!!

2 of my pregnancies were desperate hard. I was EXHAUSTED but couldn't sleep with insomnia, like some cruel evil trick the works is playing on u. So that didn't help, then I had breathlessness, nausea for hours on end and endless trips to the loo at night. I hated every minute but couldn't wait to meet my baby also. Just hang in there day by day and u will b surprised how fast the weeks go. If your firsts trimesters bad, it usually means that you will fly through the other 2 trimester so best. Of luck..you are nearly close to second trimester

Totally feel your pain.
I'm nearly 12 weeks and I'm finding it very tough. The couple of people I have confided in had easy and enjoyable pregnancies so they don't understand.
I had a mc last year so I feel guilty for moaning about it but I am hating feeling so crap every day. I had covid last month so that's at least given me an excuse at work as to why I look like death most of the time.
I'm sick, sore boobs, headaches, insomnia, eating everything in sight as it helps the nauseous feeling. Feel like it's going to be a long pregnancy!! I'm hoping it was get better around 14 to 16 weeks as that's what I keep reading but have a horrible feeling I will be one of those to hate it all!

I normally hate this phrase but I really feel like I have found my people you've all really cheered me up, had to go to a funeral today and it was hard to cover up how bad I was feeling.
I'm excited for baby and will love them I'm sure but pregnancy really suck and like someone else said the women I've confided in in my family have had annoyingly easy pregnancies!

Hi, you are not alone! I'm also due in October and struggling with nausea and exhaustion! My appetite is just gone as well. I honestly don't get out of bed until 4pm on my days off.

Its hard having people at work not knowing too, I work as a nurse on a busy hospital ward and I'm ducking in to the toilets to get sick between caring for patients! Also, I've called in sick a couple times and they always ask if I'm sure its not covid related . I really can't wait to tell people after my first scan so I can stop suffering in silence.

The first trimester was absolutely awful. I felt like such a drama queen because if I’m being honest I felt like I was being poisoned and dying. Some days I couldn’t even lift my head.

Found out at 12 weeks it was twins which explained it. I felt much better from about 17 weeks - hang in there.

Omg @SinkGirl was that a shock? Good luck with your pregnancy!
If this is any help to anyone who's struggling with dehydration, I bought a watermelon yesterday and it's going down really well, finding it much easier to eat it than actually drink

I'm feeling a bit down today, totally fed up of feeling so rubbish. 6 weeks now of throwing up at least twice daily and feeling like death

So sorry you’re feeling crap but also so glad I’m not the only one! Anyone else feel like screaming when someone says ‘have you tried ginger biscuits?’

I absolutely HATED being pregnant. The nausea was worse than the labour. I was utterly miserable every waking minute from week 5 to 17 on both my DDs, and then again from week 30 onwards with sleep deprivation and pelvic pain. Having a newborn was a piece of cake in comparison. You are definitely not alone, and it does not make you ungrateful. Even someone who has waited years to get pregnant can be grateful to be pregnant but also hate morning sickness. You will get through it, it will be worth it, you will be a great mom regardless of how much you hate being pregnant 💜

32 weeks pregnant and hate it.
Hyperemesis weeks 6-18 and signed off work sick, hospitalised twice. Vomiting 10 times per day with blood.
Bleeding gums, rhinitis that means I wake myself up snoring, pelvic girdle pain, indigestion, insomnia, breathlessness, constipation from the iron tablets for anaemia.

Being pregnant, especially early days (and very late on) absolutely sucks.

After I finally birthed DD, almost three weeks late, after a two day labour, and in a dramatic and surgical manner... My first thought was thank f*ck I'm not pregnant anymore.

The second trimester is usually a lot better, hold tight!!

First pregnancy I breeeeezed - no joke I was Mother Nature herself wafting around in maxi dresses everyone must have thought I was such a dick

Baby 2 - holy fucking moly. I HATE PREGNANCY. Hate it. I had severe morning sickness weeks 6-21, pre natal depression and anxiety (not unexpected due to my history), had extreme fatigue until 21 weeks also, had a few weeks of feeling ok, then hit third trimester - headaches, swelling, heartburn, trapped wind but somehow I am constantly burping and farting- can’t even hold it in. Bump is massive and kicks hurt, previous section scar hurts, have PGP, vivid nightmares - the whole shebang this time 😭😭😭

Baby is measuring small and likely born at 37 weeks, I’m trying to feel worried but I’m just so fucking glad it’s only 4 weeks to go and it’ll be over 🙈🙈

So no, you’re totally normal

I also really hate the newborn stage, really enjoy 6 months on!

And if it’s any help, I can honestly say that though pregnancy feels likes it’s draaaaaaaaggged on, now I’m nearly done it does feel like it’s gone fast.