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I can't quite believe it but I've found out today I'm pregnant again approximately 5 weeks!
This will be my 4th baby. I have a 13yo, 9yo and the scary part is...a 12 week old.
This means the baby will be due before my youngest is 1.
I'm sure loads of you have been in this situation and I'm just hoping someone can give me abit of support and advice.
So many things running around my head at the minute. We haven't told the children yet but I know they will be absolutely fine and excited.
Me and my husband both work from home so I'd have lots of help and he's absolutely ecstatic about it but I'm really worried.
I'm a big believer in everything happens for a reason so I'm just going with that at the minute.
Just need some reassurance I think that everything will be ok.
To also add I'm not breastfeeding and we have 4 bedrooms and financially we are fine (we'd just need a bigger car) it's more the emotional and logistic side of things I'm worried about.

TIA xxx

I have 2 teens who are the same age for 9 days every year. I won't lie, its hard when they are small but I was able to potty train them together and generally growing up they have always loved doing the same things as one another and are pretty close (they do also fight like cat and dog)

I honestly wouldn't change it for the world.

My oldest two children are 10 months apart so the same age for a small part of the year. They are very close, like twins. It was very hard to begin with and every year gets nicer and nicer.

Thank you @yellowbeaker and @ItStartedWithAKiss241
I know it's going to be hard but it's so nice to hear the positive sides to it too xx

Slightly different as mine are twins - but your a mum of 3 already so you know your stuff. Over the years I think the positives have outweighed the negatives. Having two non walking dc can be back breaking (I used a sling alot even in the house). And the first couple of years was physically exhausting but not mentally stimulating. Organisation, same routines as far as possible and you'll be fine.
They'll have a play mate and you'll be redundant at times!
You may want to look at going back to work so you'll be able to get full maternity leave entitlement but remember you could use accumulated annual leave for some of this.
Best of luck.

We have twins, they were our 4th & 5th.
Totally unexpected as they were conceived despite having a copper coil. Tbh they slot in to family life really easily. It can be tiring but it's manageable. I do alright despite hubby working away most of the time and expecting #6 now, very busy household.

I was born in October '86 and my Brother in Aug '87. There is 10 months between us and we were in the same year at school. From the perspective of the 'child' I can say it was great! A built-in best friend but very much our own individuals with two separate birthdays! We ended up attending the same college and uni together, sharing the same friendship groups and interests. To this day we have to explain to some friends that we aren't twins, we are just the same age for 2 months out of the year. Our parents must have coped ok as they had our younger sibling not long after bringing them to 3 children under the age of 4

And good luck OP! You'll be fine x

Thanks everyone, I feel a lot more positive about it all now I'm over the initial shock!
Xx

13 months between my two so not quite the same gap. it was hard but when I brought dc2 home and it was just me and the children I felt the happiest I'd ever felt in my life. they're like twins now. I'm also expecting no.3 so will have 3 under 4. @soworriedaboutspeech would be interested to know if you are also close with your other sibling too? Did anyone ever feel left out?

How can you not quite believe it ?
Surely you’d know that you’d be most fertile and you’d know that you’d had unprotected sex ?

Anyway, congratulations ! But that’s baffling

Are the poster from the thread about the breastfeeding scan?!

@fillyraglen congratulations on baby number 3! Our younger sibling has never felt left out as far as I know. My brother and I have always had a special bond but we have a special bond with our younger sister too! She was the 'baby' and as children we would 'mother' her lol. Over the years there have been times where I have been closer to my younger sister (sharing clothes and make-up in our teens) and times when my brother and sister were closer too (they loved their game consoles which I was never very good at!)
We are all in our 30s now and its so lovely being so close in age. Don't get me wrong, we can argue with the best of them but as a general rule we are more like 3 best mates than anything. Good luck