No sex or kissing for 9 months-herpes

[BettyBo33]

Does anyone have any experience falling pregnant when your partner has herpes but you don’t? Everything I read says that if you already had it then pregnancy should be straight forward, perhaps with a Csection if you are showing symptoms. But if you didn’t have it and DP passes it on during the pregnancy, than this can cause serious complications and the only way to avoid this is to not kiss or have sex etc all the way thorough- regardless of him showing symptoms or not. Anyone in a similar position?

Do you mean he gets cold sores or genital herpes?
My dh gets cold sores but I've never had one and neither have my 2 children. I never avoided kissing or sex unless he had an active cold sore

Same as dementedpixie

He gets both unfortunately

I might be wrong so apologies if I am, I have no experience with either, but I would have thought it was only an issue if he was having an outbreak?

In that situation I would avoid sex.

I do get coldsores so not the same situation, but I did read that a lot of adults have the dormant virus, just no outbreaks... I would think it possible that you already have the virus, but regardless, I would just avoid contact (including sharing towels/pillows/cutlery etc) when he has an outbreak.

Does he do anything to reduce the likelihood of an outbreak? I never have but a friend of mine who gets them very badly takes some supplements which she feels do reduce the frequency, so perhaps your DP could look into that to minimise the risk? Mine only flare up when I am stressed/run down physically - difficult to avoid those at the moment!

Yes it’s more likely for him to pass it to me whilst symptoms are obvious but unfortunately it can shed and be passed on anytime, even if he is not showing any symptoms. I had a blood test to determine If I had caught it already and I hadn’t (always possible to get a false negative)