Telling people

[Katiehill135]

Hey, did anyone else fell close friends and family before the 12th week scan?

With our 1st I told my mum and 1 friend before dating scan.
2 & 3 all after dating scan. 4&5 (twins) my parents at 7wk as we needed them to look after older ones for appointments, others after dating scan. Current once only close family after dating scan at 13wk, will wait to tell other people.

It's personal preference.
Mainly down to who you'd want there as a support if something went wrong.
There is no right or wrong thing to do.

We told immediate family when we found out and then others after 12 week scan. All personal preference x

Yes, I don't really agree about a set rule for when to tell people. If someone wants to wait because they prefer that then thats great but so many people feel like this is a rule forced on them.
I told my mum basically as soon as I peed on the stick, told inlaws 2/3 weeks later and told 4 close friends at 8 weeks.

Whatever you prefer is the right option.

We both told our parents and our sisters. If anything had happened pre 12 week scan, we would have wanted them there for support. We obviously have each other, but also having outside support if anything did happen was quite important to us. Luckily we've had a lovely 12 week scan and have now told other family and friends.
Do what you feel is right, there isn't a set answer that fits all ❤️

With my last pregnancy I told my mum and one friend. My friend encouraged me not to tell anyone until after my 12 week scan. Unfortunately I found out at the scan I’d had a MMC and found it so hard having to tell people that I had been pregnant but had lost it. I wished I’d told more people about the pregnancy before the scan. But it’s all personal choice xx

I told people whenever it came up in conversation. So when I was at a wedding at 10 weeks and a few people asked why I wasn't drinking I didn't bother making up on of those antibiotics/cystitis/randomly decided to drive excuses that nobody believes anyway.

Parents I told about 5 weeks.

Lots of other people didn't know till much later because I hadn't seen them so it never really came up.

I told family and close friends. Like people have said it is personal preference. And personally I would have liked people’s support had anything been wrong, I couldn't imagine getting through any tough times without my friends and family xx

Had to tell family a but earlier and felt horrible!!

For some reason I was very scared of first trimester miscarriage and family just wouldn't shut up about the baby!!! They wanted to buy clothes and bottle warmer (!!!!!! Yes you read correctly) adn wtv. I felt so uncomfortable......

If something happened (and has happened before ) I want the support of DH, not of everyone else. But it's a super personal choice. Don't feel forced to tell before you feel comfortable about it

Yes. First time told close family abd friends obv told the wrong people tho as everyone ended up knowing. This time round told only our families but im pretty sure more people than what they let on. Had a bit of a scare with this one and really regretted having told anyone. Thankfully all was well but having to come out and tell people something bad had happened would of been awful and something I prob would of wanted to keep really private.

I told my parents at 9 weeks with DS1. They lived a distance away and it was the only time we could fit in a visit. I'm glad I had my DC before the days of ubiquitous mobile phones and social media, it made life so much easier and less stressful in some ways.

Im waiting for my 12 week scan, we haven't even told our parents yet. My last pregnancy was ectopic so we want to make sure everything is fine this time before telling anyone

I told my mum, sister and best friend as soon as I found out. OH was so excited and his family are close so he told his siblings and mum. I’m nearly 8 weeks now and told a couple of close friends and my manager (for work reasons). Really nervous of something happening as I’ve had a tiny bit of spotting and almost like I don’t want to talk about future yet incase something happens, I suppose that’s natural though. I suppose it’s a bit easier in lockdown as you don’t have to hide not drinking etc!

I told my parents and OH parents, brothers and sisters ect and a few close friends as soon as i found out, i had to tell my boss at 5 weeks as i work in retail so had to change my working duties, the rest of the world knew after my 12 week scan xx

@Katiehill135 we told my family (parents are in the medical field) and DH’s mum and brother when we found out at ~7 weeks but told them it was early days. We had a private scan at 10+5 which confirmed all was looking good so at that point we felt comfortable sharing with the rest of our immediate family and close friends. I figured if anything were to go wrong I would want a support system around me. Now 13+3 and telling people as and when we chat to them.

Personal preference of course!

I told my mum at 8 weeks because I was exhausted, moody, feeling sick and fed up and I wanted another person to moan to.
She told my dad but no-one else, and then I told the rest of the family and friends after 12 week scan.

There's really no right and wrong on this. Think about who's going to make you feel good about it and support you through your PG.

PG 1: told mum at 7 weeks. Lost baby at 8. Great that she knew. I hid it from everyone else. Wish I'd told more people - it shouldn't be a shameful thing but keeping it secret makes it feel that way.

PG 2: told mum, boss and close friend at 5 weeks. Lost baby at 9 weeks. Told most of my friends and family about both losses as wasn't myself and a close friend was PG. Easier that a few people knew beforehand and much better being open (for me at least).

PG 3: told mum and boss at 3 weeks. A couple of close friends I needed support from at 7 weeks (1st scan) after that kept to myself as didn't want anyone getting too excited until I felt more confident. Told other close family at 22 weeks. Everyone else as we speak to them after that. There are still some friends and family who don't know and I'm 33 weeks now. I'm not hiding it, just don't really want to advertise!

We told my inlaws straight after I got the positive with dd ( we lived with them and my fil cried). We then told my own mum and dad on the same day.

We told both sets of parents at 5 weeks with ds. I am currently pregnant (10+5) with our 3rd and have told a good friend and work colleague but neither set of parents or siblings yet. I want to tell them in person so hoping I will be able to do so after my 12 week scan, if lockdown restrictions are not eased will tell them on mothers day. Everyone else I will tell after we have told family.

There is no right or wrong answer.

Sister of a friend only told people beyond her very close family when the baby was born

With my first I told family at 10 weeks and everyone else after scan at 12 weeks.

Second I told family at 6 weeks due to awful sickness and had a mc 2 days later

Now pregnant again and will be keeping it between me and dh until the scan.

We told my mum as soon as we found out, and DP's mum and sister a couple of weeks later.
I am waiting for my 12 week scan to tell other close family (dad and aunts) as they will be unbelievably excited and straight out to m and s to buy baby clothes, so want to make sure all is well first!!!

Will probably be open with everyone after my 12 week scan next week. Social media announcements when I have a decent bump hehe.

23 weeks...it was nice to have my privacy, a happy secret & honestly I think I'm glad not to have had to do ALL the pregnancy chat before that point. Still plenty of time for people to ask what you've bought for baby and remark on a bump. Next time i might try for longer.