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Anyone else feel like there’s nothing in there in early pregnancy?

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Cafeaulait27 · 13/02/2021 11:03

I’m hoping this is just my body/brain trying to cope after previous losses (one mc at 9 weeks first pregnancy and second pregnancy was very early mc/chemical) but I just don’t feel like there is anything in there.

My mcs were last autumn, so not that long ago and I don’t know if this is just my brain trying to protect me from the pain if it all goes wrong, or if it just because it’s not my first pregnancy anymore. I’m only just 5 weeks so it’s still early, but there’s something about it that makes me feel like it’s not in there. Symptoms have come and gone - mostly sore boobs and tiredness in the afternoon/evening with some slight nausea. It’s all really confusing. With my first pregnancy I felt very ‘aware’ that there was something in there all the time, but with this one I almost forget sometimes, is that normal? Maybe I’m losing my mind?

I don’t know whether I’m just so terrified of things going wrong again that I just can’t process it, but part of me is feeling that I’m going to go to my 12 week scan and there’ll be nothing there and this has all been a ‘phantom’ pregnancy. I don’t know whether previous mcs just affect psychologically this badly. Xxx

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EllieRosesMammy · 13/02/2021 11:06

That's how I keep feeling and I'm 7 weeks pregnant. When I was pregnant with my daughter I "felt" pregnant all day, every day. Like I was very aware. Then after I had my daughter I had a MMC at almost 13 weeks. Now with this one I dont know if it's because I've been pregnant a few times before or if I dont want to get my hopes up incase it's bad news but I also keep forgetting I'm pregnant. It's only the sickness that keeps reminding me but that didnt start till I hit 6 weeks (with my daughter I had it from 4 weeks and it was really bad)

Try not to stress, I'm sure everything will be fine with both our pregnancies :) xx

EllieRosesMammy · 13/02/2021 11:06

That's how I keep feeling and I'm 7 weeks pregnant. When I was pregnant with my daughter I "felt" pregnant all day, every day. Like I was very aware. Then after I had my daughter I had a MMC at almost 13 weeks. Now with this one I dont know if it's because I've been pregnant a few times before or if I dont want to get my hopes up incase it's bad news but I also keep forgetting I'm pregnant. It's only the sickness that keeps reminding me but that didnt start till I hit 6 weeks (with my daughter I had it from 4 weeks and it was really bad)

Try not to stress, I'm sure everything will be fine with both our pregnancies :) xx

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Cafeaulait27 · 13/02/2021 11:18

@EllieRosesMammy it’s weird isn’t it? I wonder if it’s because when it’s your first pregnancy it’s like this huge, amazing thing that’s never happened before so you can’t stop thinking about it inside there, but when you have future pregnancies you just don’t find it as strange as it’s not the first time? I really do wonder if my brain is doing this as like a defence mechanism.

I don’t know if it’s also because I haven’t booked an early private scan - last time I booked one straight away and had it at 6 weeks which I suppose made it feel more real. I’m trying not to book one this time and have just told myself what will be will be. I haven’t had a date yet for my booking appointment so I guess it just doesn’t feel real xxx

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EllieRosesMammy · 13/02/2021 14:41

I think that's it tbf, I'll probably feel pregnant again when I'm dragging around a huge baby in my belly but right now I just feel a bit run down 😭

I'm also resisting the urge to book an early scan! I had an "early bird" appointment about a week ago which I've never had before and it was literally a 30 min appointment where they went through basic health questions and did my height and weight. Got my first midwife app on the 10th of March and then I should get my scan appointment after that 😊 xxxx

Pol96 · 13/02/2021 15:22

First, sorry for your mc/cps.. But.. I felt like this, I had zero symptoms and even took another test the day of my 12 week scan, was so sure they'd say there wasn't a baby in there.. I had my baby 3 weeks 2 days ago. Good luck! X

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Cafeaulait27 · 13/02/2021 15:45

@EllieRosesMammy totally! I I’ve just been for a walk and now I’ve come back I feel realllllyyy tired, hope that’s a good sign. That’s great that you have your first appointment, I think I’ll probably get mine next week and it’ll probably be for the end of Feb I think. Good luck!

@Pol96 thank you - that is reassuring! How was your pregnancy and how does it feel to now have your baby? Xx

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squeekums · 13/02/2021 15:51

Anyone else feel like there’s nothing in there in early pregnancy?

Yep, so much so i didnt find out till 27 weeks
Not a single symptom you've ever heard of.

Pol96 · 13/02/2021 16:25

@Cafeaulait27 my pregnancy was good, tired in first trimester (but was unsure whether pregnancy or lockdown related) second trimester was good, third trimester developed Spd but was bareable. Had a tricky birth so the first week or so was uncomfortable but we're getting there now and I can't imagine not having my little boy! I really miss my bump and being pregnant though.

sofia87 · 17/02/2021 15:57

I feel the same. I'm 3w+5d today, did had a blood pregrancy test on Monday at my IVF clinic, which came back positive (plus 4 pee stick tests, all positive). Last week I had very mild symptoms, mainly light nausea every few hours, and body temperature all over the place. However since the blood test on Monday, all the symptoms have disappeared this week. I didn't get any bleeding or anything, but still slightly worried, as I can't feel anything for the last few days. Have a 6w scan booked on 4th March, so have 2 weeks of concerned waiting now. So much waiting in trying to have a baby!

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Cafeaulait27 · 17/02/2021 17:17

@sofia87 there really is so much waiting! From what a gather symptoms do come and go, I haven’t felt pregnant all day but now I suddenly feel pretty tired. I think we must get a surge of hormones and then they level off, and then another surge and so on but I’m just guessing. I had sore boobs this morning but not so much now.

I think I might actually do a test in the morning (I’ll be 6 weeks) even though I haven’t had any bleeding... I’m just so worried in case it’s somehow disappeared?!

Such an anxious time isn’t it! Xx

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sofia87 · 04/03/2021 11:26

@Cafeaulait27, How did you get on, with your 6 week test?

I have a scan today (also 6 weeks). This time last year I was in a similar situation, but the 6-week scan showed the embryo was developing very slowly, it was too small for what it should have been. And after a couple of more scans I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage. So a bit nervous this time, as hoping to get past this point with some good news this time.

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Cafeaulait27 · 04/03/2021 11:32

Ooh hello! I tested and got a 3+ which was nice 🙂

I totally understand your anxieties, same thing happened to me with a private scan where baby was small but had a HB but then I still miscarried. Good luck for your scan and let me know how it goes!

I’m now 8 weeks, haven’t had a scan yet and I think I might wait til 12’weeks this time. I keep telling myself as I haven’t had any bleeding chances are things are ok xxx

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Cafeaulait27 · 01/04/2021 19:35

Thought I should update here in case anyone looks in future - Really pleased to say it all went well today! Measuring 1 day ahead and everything looking normal so far. Amazing so see and hear the heartbeat and see it moving around xxx

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