Positive Stories - symptoms coming and going and no sickness?

[Cafeaulait27]

I’m sure this has been covered loads of times but I’m just looking for reassurance. I’ve had 2 losses and am now 5 weeks pregnant. At first I had sore boobs, tiredness, slight nausea and extreme thirst. Today I feel like none of my symptoms are as obvious. My boobs don’t feel that bad, I don’t really feel sick or thirsty. I’m still getting lots of white CM which is good and no bleeding, and got a strong line on a test this morning.

I’m just worried due to my previous losses - wondered if anyone else found symptoms came and went or were very mild, or they felt totally normal and still went on to have a healthy pregnancy?

Thank you xxx

Sorry I don’t have any answers for you, I’m kind of in a similar boat where my symptoms are very very questionable in comparison to my two successful pregnancies.

I’ve had 3 losses since my successful pregnancies. So I’m worried about this one, I have a scan today and going in with zero expectations x

It’s still very early days. I was similar at 5 weeks, still mostly felt like my period was about to start and now at 7 weeks am having ALL of the symptoms. Which is somewhat reassuring (if impractical) - but plenty of people have no symptoms at all throughout pregnancy. My own mother was “just a bit tired” with me & my sibling. Good luck, it’s such an anxious time.

@FruitLoopzz how far along are you? Hope the scan goes well xxx

@Cafeaulait27 @FruitLoopzz hang in there, it's a long journey and the anxiety (I'm afraid) doesn't ease as you progress. People always talk about the symptoms and certain milestones, but no-one really talks about those of us who have no symptoms at all.

F those who tell us we're luck for having no symptoms, especially after a loss they don't really take into account how the anxiety over this can be crippling. (I said what I said).

I too have had previous losses. With this pregnancy I felt barely anything other than a bit of nausea if I hadn't eaten in a while. I slept a bit more than usual, but otherwise I felt pretty normal all through the first trimester. Whatever symptoms I did have disappeared around week 9, which freaked me out -- but that's apparently when the placenta takes over and is perfectly normal.

Like you both, I worried from the minute I got a BFP to now... and I'm currently 26 weeks. If I didn't have a bump, felt the odd movement, and had scans etc. I'd have NO idea I was pregnant, and I'm only 2 weeks of entering the third trimester!

I thought after the 12 week scan I'd relax into this a bit, but after that there's something else, and then something else after that... and it goes on.

For the last few weeks it's been all about the baby moving, which I thought wasn't happening as much as it should (again, based on unsolicited opinions and what Dr. Google says is "normal") but I'm right where I should be and everything is fine. Prior to this is was "are these cramps normal" (they are, it's round ligament pain), prior to that it was symptoms and taking CB Digitals with the week indicator to make sure I stayed 3+. POAS as often as you want to make sure your lines are getting darker if that's something that will help you. So many judge this, but I say if it helps you feel a little less anxious for that day, do it!

My advice to you is, try your best not to compare your pregnancy with others and take it each mini-milestone at a time. Remember, as long as you're not bleeding, trust that everything should ok -- even just for today.

@Cafeaulait27 congratulations, and I am following this. As I too had 2 miscarriages and I am currently 4+4 (early I know) but I am worried about lack of symptoms. With my DS I had severe sickness from exactly 6 weeks so hoping that will be the case this time. I currently have on and off bloating, tiredness, I did have on off nausea but it seems to have stopped. Such an anxious time, hoping all goes well x

@Aozora13 thank you, yeah I hope it’s all ok in there. I’m so anxious. It felt like this one was going well, but I feel like I’m super aware of my symptoms (or lack of). My boobs still feel pretty sore now actually, I’m very aware of them when I move my arms and they touch them. I know people say ‘you’re lucky’ but I’d love some sickness or something. It is very early days though at just 5 weeks, maybe I felt it more at the beginning because of a surge of hormones and now my body is getting used to it? Who knows. Will just have to wait and see I supposed xxx

@jazzibelle thank you so much for your reassuring post. It gives me hope! I’m glad to hear your pregnancy is going well. And I agree, testing does seem to help if only for a short time. I thought I might do a digital next week as it should show 3+ by then. The first 12 weeks feel very long. Did you have any early scans?

I think I’m going to hold off this time, with my first pregnancy I had a private scan at 6 weeks which showed a heartbeat but measuring small, they were very reassuring and not worried telling me that I might have my dates wrong (but I knew I didn’t) and I miscarried a few weeks later xxx

@Cafeaulait27 I did, I had one at 6 weeks due some brown spotting. Went in expecting the worst, only to find I had a little bean with a heartbeat!

I also paid for a private one at 9 weeks to make sure there was growth and a heartbeat still. The rest have been the usual NHS ones.

The whole pregnancy feels very long! Ha ha, I feel like weeks 18-24 were the loooooongest.

This was my experience: no symptoms other than tiredness and slightly sore boobs, and cramping, until end of week 6, then minor nausea and food aversions until week 10, some days I felt totally normal and other days I couldn't eat, but I never threw up. All symptoms went away by week 11, and I feel pretty much normal other than waking up in the night to pee and being more tired! Now 13 weeks 3 days, had my first scan, baby is healthy all is fine.

Everyone is different, try not to worry and trust your body! Best of luck to you xx

I was much the same. My symptoms were mild at best, and did seem to come and go in the first trimester. I had really mild waves of nausea but I’m hard pushed to even describe it as that, it was so short lived and I was never sick. My symptoms actually pretty much completely stopped at around 9 weeks and I was in such a state. I’d had 2 early scans by this point due to anxiety from a previous misdiagnosed blighted ovum, and I was still convinced something was wrong. I settled a little after my 12 week scan, but from that point I felt pretty much normal which had me even more worried. I’m now 23 weeks and everything is okay. I still worry but not nearly so much as I did in the first trimester. Sending you lots of luck with this pregnancy x

Thank you @WolfMother326 @swiftt that is reassuring. It’s such a worrying time and I feel like we’re constantly told we should be throwing up every day.

I’ve actually had the nausea come back this afternoon which is reassuring, it’s just very mild really. And I feel quite tired now. I’m always like ‘is this just because I’ve been looking at a screen too long?’ (I work 9-5 in an office job from home at the mo due to covid). Best of luck with your pregnancies, I hope they go well Xxx

Hi @Cafeaulait27 - wait and see how you feel. I was nervous until my nausea really set in later, and then I wanted it to go away, even though it was mild. But some women just don't have symptoms and it's completely normal and fine xx

I never had very strong symptoms (bit of nausea, occasional sleep boobs - that was about it) and they came and went the whole time. I had days at a time of feeing totally normal and not pregnant at all. My baby is now 10 weeks old, totally textbook pregnancy

Sore boobs not sleep!

I’m 25 weeks and the only symptoms I had were feeling terribly tired at 8 - 10 weeks, headaches at 16 - 18 week. I was so worried that I didn’t have any sickness/nausea/food aversions/sore boobs! Hope all turns out well for you ladies and make the most of feeling okay ☺️

I had surgery for a mmc on 27th July. I was pregnant again by 27th august
I had sore boobs, nausea, awful fatigue... then nothing. Just period like cramps.

I was convinced it was another mmc. I had a scan at epau & there was a heartbeat. Symptoms still stayed away and I was slightly bleeding at 8 weeks which meant another rush to epau and still a heartbeat.

The fatigue came back. I was sick twice, & odd bit of nausea around 15 weeks.

I’m not 28 weeks and apart from heartburn, bump, & movement I wouldn’t really think I was pregnant at all.

In hindsight I was just very “lucky” symptoms come and go, & mine were mild and were gone more than they were present.

That doesn’t take into account the anxiety from a previous loss. I’d have taken horrendous symptoms over the panic I was losing this one too.

I had a 4d scan on Wednesday and she is just perfect, & everything looking healthy.

I would say don’t panic but I know that words aren’t going to help you. Just make sure you have a good support network. I’d have been lost with my oh being there to hug me every night and never make me feel like I was being Silly for panicking.

@Sansa87 I think I remember you - are you due in June? I think we may have been in the June thread (but I miscarried at 9 weeks) I might be mistaken but I’m sure I recognise your name.

Glad to hear it’s all going well for you, and thank you so much for the reassurance xxx

I’m due may 🙂

Private scans have definitely helped my nerves on top of the nhs ones. I think once I reached 24 weeks and viability I relaxed a hell of a lot.

Hey, I had this in both my pregnacies.

First one I lost all my symptoms overnight at 7 weeks AND had bleeding. Dark red (a lot of it) and bright red. No symptoms for about a week then they started coming back off and on.

All was fine and he's now a manic 3 year old!

This time I lost all symptoms at 5 weeks - no more sickness, boob soreness, etc. And I had weird cramping so bad I couldn't stand up straight. I had a gut feeling that it was all over - I was 100% certain, even thinking about when to try again. All was fine and I'm now 14 weeks :)

It's so nervewracking, I've had losses as well and the early days are the worst. Good luck, I would see if I could get booked for a scan at the EPU if you're really worried x

@sansa87 oh yes sorry - I think I was in the May thread and was due late May, but obviously as I miscarried so early I haven’t seen who is still on it. I’m so pleased for you! I think it was such a traumatic time I kind of blanked it all out.

I hope I can make it to my 12 week scan, that’ll be a good milestone which I think will help although I know I’ll just worry about the next milestones!

@georgarina wow, that’s amazing that everything was ok with your now 3 year old and your current pregnancy. I know if I get any bleeding I’ll think it’s all over, as that’s what happened with my loss. Did you ever find out why the bleeding happened?

It does seem to be that symptoms are not always this constant, severe thing that people say they are, and they can come and go and be mild and everything still be fine. I think it doesn’t help that in films and TV it always shows all pregnant women throwing up all the time, so you sort of think something must be wrong if you don’t xxx

@Cafeaulait27 it was a subchorionc haemorrhage x

*subchorionic

Hi there
Just thought I'd ask for other people's experiences.
I had a private scan a week ago which showed a 6.3mm fatal pole but no heart beat and that I was roughly six weeks pregnant. The sonographer was quite optimistic but said I should go for another scan in 2 weeks time and keep taking pregnancy bits as it was too early to say whether the pregnancy was viable. I left the clinic feeling quite hopeful but have since seen multiple studies saying that the chances of a successful pregnancy with a fetal pole of over 6mm and no heartbeat is very low. I spoke to the EPU who said I should come in for another scan early next week. But I'm confused why the original sonographer, at a v, good clinic would be so optimistic, when the chances of failure are so high. Is there any hope? My gut feeling is that it is all over.

Hey @runningpram how many weeks are you according to your last period? If you’re over 6 weeks and have fairly regular periods, there should be a heartbeat by now I think, but it’s definitely good to have another scan to make sure.

Unfortunately in my experience from my private scan which I had at 6+6 weeks, the baby had a heartbeat but was small, only measuring 5+4. The sonographer was really positive and not worried at all, saying maybe my dates were wrong but I really didn’t think they were. A few weeks later I miscarried. It was a Window to the Womb clinic which does have good links with the local hospital and they say they will refer you if they are worried, but in my experience I felt that they don’t like to give bad news or tell it like it is, and tend to sugar coat things. I felt that they should’ve been straight with me and said that if I’m sure of my dates then the baby is too small and it doesn’t look good. I felt that they gave me false hope and have read similar about other private scan clinics.

But that’s just my experience, try not to worry too much until you’ve been scanned again. I have seen many women on mumsnet where scans have looked not so good and then it’s been fine by the time they get to 12 weeks xxx

Apologies - I have accidentally hijacked this thread. I have set up my own, which is what I meant to do! Not sure how I posted here.
Thank you for your response though!