Positive rainbow baby stories please

[Kona84]

I had a miscarriage at 8+1 January 2020. (Pregnancy actually stopped at 6 weeks)
On feb 6th 2021 -10dpo I got a faint positive.
11-13dpo continued positives on cheap tests. Today 14dpo digital showed 2-3 weeks which fits conception date.

I am so anxious that I am going to lose this pregnancy too, I’m 36.
Every time I go to the loo I’m dreading seeing blood.

For those whose first pregnancy was successful after a miscarriage how did you cope with the anxiety? At what stage did you feel things were going to be okay?

Hi!
Sorry you're feeling this way.
It is completely normal to have all the anxieties.
I had a miscarriage with my first.
I can't give you any advice as I never found a way to calm myself.
I'm now on my 4th pregnancy, only the first was a miscarriage but even now in this pregnancy, I'm 32 weeks and still check for blood every time I go to the bathroom.

Had an MMC in 2019, about 8 weeks or so, same as you.

Pregnant again the next month and now have a beautiful 8 month old. I worried like mad for the first 12 weeks, and then it got easier bit by bit. I won't lie, the first few weeks are hard and very anxiety inducing especially after a MC. But my anxiety diminished slightly at a private scan at 8 weeks, where I could see baby's heartbeat, then improved at every scan. When I could feel movement I was much less anxious too.

I'm sorry for your loss OP and wishing you lots of luck for this pregnancy

I had a mc at 12 weeks with my first pregnancy. I was 39. Thought I would never have kids.

On my 40th birthday I discovered I was pregnant. Well every single bathroom trip was awful, the dreaded toilet paper wipe and any hint of red would send me into a panic.

The worry was terrible, I booked a load of private scans and went to the hospital twice worrying about pains. I only told people at 28 weeks as I was so scared. But my DD was born and is a healthy 2 year old.

It's completely understandable to be scared, I know I was terrified. Just know the worry does ease with time. Come here for a handhold if needed.

I was thinking of booking a private scan for 8 weeks - not sure if the doctors will send me for one due to age and previous miscarriage.

Just to add the 12 week scan was a bit of a relief but each week from then made me feel a bit better. At 20 weeks after the anomaly scan, I was much more relieved.

They didn't send me for a scan at 40 years old but the worrier I am, I booked a private one at 7 weeks.

The sonographer told me to come back after the 9 week mark as she said if I had a good heartbeat after 9 weeks it was a very strong indicator that it was a viable pregnancy. Anything earlier she said would waste my time and money.

That was just her advice to me but I ended up getting a private NIPT test at 9 weeks so had a scan anyways.

I'm 34, had 3 MCs in a row in the last 2 years, no reason for it, DH and I were tested. Currently 14 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy who I hope is my rainbow baby 🌈💙 Don't give up and have faith, OP xxx

Also, no, you will not have additional scans after 1 MC and you are still young. I had 2 MMCs and an early MC, I understand your anxiety, but you have every chance of being successful this time. Literally every pregnancy is different and fresh and the story may not repeat itself just because it's happened before. You do get extra scans if you are referred to a Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic after 3 consecutive losses (I had them). Otherwise you can always consider a private scan, 8 weeks is a sensible time for it. EPUs aren't likely to scan you with no pain or bleeding, especially not now so if you're very worried, book a private scan with a reputable clinic. Good luck 🍀

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in October 2019, conceived again 2 months later and now have a 5 month old. Miscarriages are so difficult, especially when it's your first pregnancy. I was so anxious too but it became easier at 12 weeks, and better again after the 20 week anomaly scan. I had an 8 week private scan showing a strong heartbeat with the pregnancy I miscarried which made the whole thing a lot harder. I avoided an early scan when I became pregnant again because I just wanted to stay as chilled as possible, not obsess about it all too much and not get my hopes up. Everyone is different though, and lots of people do find early scans reassuring.

The worry never stops but it does get overtaken by excitement the further along you get.
I'm the same age as you. I'm on pregnancy number 10, had 5 children from the 1st, 4th, 6th & 7th. Current pregnancy is 13+1wk.
My most recent mc was in July, I had a private scan at 8+3 which confirmed a hb, lost it at 9+3. I decided to wait for my dating scan this time, I'm glad I did. It did feel like a lifetime of a wait but seeing baby having a little boogie in there made me a little less anxious and more excited. My anomaly scan is in 7 weeks time but I can't wait that long to see how baby is doing so I have booked a private well-being and gender scan in 3.5 weeks. I can feel the 1st movements now, I think I'll feel better when those get stronger and more frequent.

At 42 I had three miscarriages in nine months. Now I’m 36 weeks and 43 years old! I have two children. The only thing that helped were the scans and then feeling the baby move.
I’m sorry for your loss. Having had a previous loss really takes from the joy, but you will begin to relax the longer time goes on. Best of luck to you.

I had a dd daughter 2014,dd 2015,Mmc twice in 2015 then etopic aug 2018 I was absolutely devastated and didn't think I would ever have anymore then had my ds aug 2019 my due date was the date I found out I had etopic spent a fortune on private scans for reassurance then hospital scanned me every week until elective section date due to complications. It's hard to say try not to be anxious but I under stand how your feeling every bleed, pain,cramp I was up to hi do phoning hospital etc.

Good luck x

Thank you for starting this thread! I am 5 weeks and had 2 losses last year, no children yet. I am 33.

For my first pregnancy we lost it at 9 weeks, we had a private scan at 6 weeks which showed a heartbeat but the baby was smaller than expected. They were really positive about it and said nothing to worry about - but I now realise things were going wrong even then. They kept telling me maybe my dates were out but I knew they weren’t.

My second mc was really early, at 3 weeks so didn’t get chance to get excited really.

This time I’ve decided not to have any early scans and just wait for the 12 week one, and what will be will be. I don’t really trust private places to ‘give it to you straight’ anymore. If I have any bleeding or cramps I will go to the EPU.

It’s great hearing all these positive stories, and I hope you get your 🌈

This is my experience

M/C triplets at 8 weeks
Chemical
DS 💙
M/C singleton at 7 weeks
DD1 & DD2 Twins 💗💗

You've got this 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

This is my experience

M/C triplets at 8 weeks
Chemical
DS 💙
M/C singleton at 7 weeks
DD1 & DD2 Twins 💗💗

As for feelings, everyone is different but you've got this 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

@hoppityintobed sorry for your losses, but great that you got your 🌈🌈🌈

Thankyou and yes I got my three children that I thank for implanting and choosing to me to their mummy.

I promise you, if this already hasn't been said. Everything is worth it. Honestly a loss and the grief is unbearable and it is just one of those things that finally you find acceptance with - regardless of how long it takes. But when you get that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow it's worth everything. The 4 babies I've loved and lost aren't here but they were mine.

My son is starting school in September and my youngest twin has taken her first steps (big deal as we weren't sure she would survive) and pregnancy seems a lifetime away. I'd love to do it all again but as hubby says we've got lots to look forward to in the future. That's what I tell myself in a little mantra

When I pick my son up from Pre school I say 'hey the love of my life' - I've seen one of the bitchy mums roll her eyes but I don't care. He is one of the loves of my life and I'm not going to stop telling him that! I will say that to him when I pick him up in juniors 😂😂😂

I'm currently 14 weeks after 3 losses all before 7 weeks. The only thing that reassures me are scans. I was offered one extra reassurance scan at 10 weeks because I've had 3 losses, but now I'm further than 12 weeks they won't give me anything extra.

I just keep booking private scans. It's the only thing that reassures me, and even that doesn't last longer than a week. I've already had 5 scans in total, and I've booked another 2 before the 20 week nhs one. If you have the funds to do it, just book as many scans as you need to

@hoppityintobed what a lovely post. It’s so lovely to see you say it was all worth it.

A friend of mine had 3 losses in a row and then had her 🌈 she said she would go through all that pain again 100 times if she knew it would lead to having her healthy baby 🥰

I had a miscarriage last year at 7 weeks. I had my 12 week scan yesterday and everything was fine. I was so worried about missed miscarriage etc. that until I saw the little person on the screen I hadn't let myself believe it. Obviously things can still go wrong, but it feels like such a milestone that my anxiety has mostly subsidised.
Sending good thoughts your way.

@Andthenanothercupoftea wow, you must’ve been so relieved, congratulations 🥳 I too had a mc last year, at 9 weeks (but had been bleeding for 2 weeks) and I’m now 5 weeks. I’m going to hold off going for an early scan this time unless I have bleeding, so I’m hoping to see what you saw at my 12 week scan xxx

Thanks for all the positive stories.
I’m trying to stay calm and relaxed and go with the flow.
I have more symptoms than my last pregnancy I had zero symptoms up to missed period then boobs started hurting and frequent pee. Then the boob soreness went away instantly, it was there in the morning then gone in the afternoon.

My symptoms this pregnancy started really early and sore boobs since 7dpo.

Do symptoms come and go?

Yeah of course they come and go and can be different. Even with triplets and twins I didn't have sickness but with my son it was horrendous

Just look after you, keep relaxed and watch comedy. Lots of laughter and good hormones going on 💪🏻