Possible miscarriage/dates are so wrong?

[buffalowing]

Hi so I went to the early pregnancy unit today expecting to be told I'd miscarried. I last had a period 18th December and last had sex 2nd jan.

I thought I was 7+4 based on those dates but have been bleeding since Friday so got internal scan today. There is a sac measuring 4-5 weeks and Iv to go back in 2 weeks to check viability.

Id totally prepared myself to be told I'd miscarried and have now come away confused and with more hope than I want.

Can someone just tell me straight what the chances of being 4-5 weeks pregnant based on possible conception dates as above?

I don't need it sugar coated, I just need someone who can understand the dates coz I am lost!! Thanks

Hi @buffalowing, unfortunately no it doesn’t look good. If just going by the last date you had sex and if you ovulated pretty soon after that then in fact yes you would be around 7 and a half weeks. Maximum sperm can survive is 5-7 day’s so even if you have long cycles and ovulated late, 6 & a half weeks is the earliest you could be.
Scans can be out by a few days to a week but very unlikely to be out 2+ weeks.
If you had sex at a later stage in January then it is possible.
I haven’t had this happen to me, However unfortunately I’m sure there’s many that have been in the position you are in now and will be able to offer their own experience.

Hope you are ok xx

Hi honey, I'm so sorry you're going through this. My LMP was 21.12.20 and we conceived 03.01.21 so I'm 7+1. I went to EPU when I was 5+3 and measured exactly that and then sent on my way without follow ups. Don't want to cause you unnecessary worry or upset as I really hope its good news for you, but thought this might give you an idea as we are so similar in dates xx

Thank you both. I just couldn't see how the dates could work out as I know you're usually 2 weeks pregnant without being pregnant so would be very unusual for me to be 4/5 weeks at this stage.

I really didn't want the 2 week wait today, going to go and buy a pile of pregnancy tests here - not sure they will actually show me a negative but I need to see something to get rid of this hope I have.

I suppose there's nothing else she could have done today but it would have been nice to have it finalised without the wait.

The next 2 weeks are going to drag in!

Hi OP, this is pretty similar to what happened to me with my first PG and sadly it was a MC. There are miracle stories out there but they are rare and like you I didn't want any false hope. I agree with a PP that it is likely that this isn't progressing given how far behind your dates are but the hospital will never confirm until they see it for themselves.

If you haven't MC yet it is likely that even this early on you will carry on getting positive tests so maybe think about whether you want to do that? With my MC I measured about 5 wks and MC at 7+5. Tests got fainter after I passed the sac and were negative after about a week.

The waiting is awful, especially with that little sliver of hope - I do feel for you and hope you get answers soon. Good luck.

Thank you. I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve with the test as I know they will stay positive until everything has passed. I just feel like it's some sort of control over the next two weeks and I'm looking for them getting fainter or being negative.

I think in my head I'm pretty sure and prepared for them to confirm miscarriage but that tiny sliver of hope won't go.

Today I heard her say to her colleague so you see there's nothing there and I was like right come on get this probe out of me and confirm it and she's sent me away with a scan picture and hope 🙈

I was totally amazed today as I 100% thought that was it. Didnt expect this outcome at all - it's just delayed the inevitable by 2 weeks.

Contemplating phoning my doc to do blood tests over a few days to confirm but I'm not sure if they will, if that works and if that is something I should be requesting during covid.

I was going to suggest that @buffalowing a good indicator would be BETA HCG tests 48 hours apart to see if levels are still doubling appropriately. I had these done in the early pregnancy unit in the hospital. Could you ring and ask them if it’s possible to do that? If not call your GP and see can they.

I was in EPU today for the scan and they didn't offer blood tests just the scan again in 2 weeks. I suppose I feel like a bit of a nuisance contacting them again and I know how busy the docs are just now.

@buffalowing I'm so sorry you are going though this. I am having almost the same experience. My LMP was 19th December and last week I had some bleeding so went to EPU for a scan. They said there was a gestational sac abs yolk sac but that I was measuring more like 5 weeks which put my around 10 days behind in dates. This has happened to me twice and not ended well so it's been a long week of hoping for a miracle. My follow up scan is on Thursday. I just wanted you to know you are not alone, it's totally pants waiting and hard to think about anything else. I really hope you are ok

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been in your position too many times before and that awful waiting and limbo is the worst.

Unfortunately as others have said I think you should prepare yourself for the worst, and it sounds like you are. My lmp was 21-12-20 and I am 7+2 today. I had a scan at 5+4 and measured exactly that with a heartbeat.

Unfortunately as for tests showing negative you may still have a while to wait. Even after I’d fully miscarried and passed the sac and everything it took 5 weeks from that date for my hcg to drop low enough for a test to not pick it up.

Sending you some hugs. It really does suck.

@kdd1980 I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this too, especially after having to go through this before. Life is cruel at times.

Thanks @Moominmiss, if you don't mind sharing, will I know when the sac passes? If there is nothing in it at this stage I'm wondering if I will know.

I am very fortunate to have a 3 year old, when I had him I bled for 13 weeks then started having a period 4 weeks after that despite breastfeeding so I feel like I take ages to clear my womb and bleed for a long time and at this stage I'd rather get back to normal quickly so I suppose I'm dreading this dragging out even longer than these 2 weeks.

You're all very kind, thanks for the support

It's appalling they are making you wait for another scan when blood tests would get you an answer so much sooner. I'm sorry that you're having to go through this.

I had two miscarriages at 6 weeks, I was aware of one sac passing but the other not.

@buffalowing of course I don’t mind sharing, this is obviously my own experience of it and I know everyone’s will be different.

But for me, I had been spotting on and off but on the day the miscarriage actually happened I had what I can only describe as contraction like pains, it would feel crampy but then every few minutes would be super painful and I’d rock on all fours. After that going on for 2 hours I just felt the need to sit on the toilet, I gave a very small push (as though I was having a poo) and I felt myself pass something tennis ball sized through my vagina.
Immediately after I’d passed that the pain was gone. The bleeding then stopped the very next day. Then it was 5 weeks before my hcg dropped.

I was supposed to be 9 weeks, but scans showed the fetal pole measured 6 weeks.

I will keep everything crossed for a more positive outcome for you. X

I know @BertieBotts I'm wondering that myself and then sending me away with a scan pic. I'm sure she meant really well but it's just made it all so much worse to prolong it and we didn't even discuss the bleeding I'm having which isn't mega heavy but is fresh blood and is constant when I wipe.... I left on a high for about an hour then brought myself back down to Earth.

Thank you @Moominmiss that sounds awful I'm sorry you had to go through that. If I'm measuring 4/5 weeks then at least I should know when it passes if it's a decent size.

I am now loaded with the cold and have a blocked nose and really sore throat so I'm fed up, snapping at everyone and really just want to sleep but my minds working overtime! Roll on a bit of normality

I’m kind of in the same situation as you, LMP 8/12/20 which would have made me 9 weeks today, started light bleeding yesterday, went to the EPU expecting to confirm a miscarraige . They did both type of scans and she said I’m definitely only about 5 weeks. Officially, yolk sac is there but not in a favourable position so she couldn’t officially confirm that I’m miscarrying. She did take bloods and rang me to say they’re 1700 ( over 1500 was good for 5 weeks) but I’m back Thursday for bloods again and she expects it to drop dramatically. If I’m in pain or bleeding too much she will scan me again otherwise she’ll scan in a week from thurs. So I understand what your going through, hard to carry on with day to day things or to grieve without closure .

I'm so sorry @Lollipop25. It really is hard to carry on, Iv not been able to sleep and I'm wide awake googling everything I shouldn't be and thinking of every possible outcome.

That's good they took bloods for you so you don't have as long to wait to find out. Hope you're doing ok

@buffalowing I’ve been through it before so knowing what to expect makes it a little less difficult. Googling a lot myself, suppose it’s just natural to try find answers. Thankfully, I have two healthy children keeping me distracted through it. It’s really surprising that they didn’t do your bloods. Having to wait so long is just cruel. Just look after yourself xxx