First pregnancy with no issues?

[Firstbabyforme]

I'm pregnant with my first baby, around 5 weeks and I can't get the worry out my head that something is going to go wrong because all the threads and groups I'm in of people around the same time as me, the majority of people have had a miscarriage previously or eptopic or something else going wrong meaning the pregnancy has ended.

Is this really that common to happen? Really sorry if this comes off as insensitive as I'm just trying to calm my brain down x

It's perfectly normal to worry,whether it is your first or 5th pregnancy.
My first pregnancy was uneventful apart from feeling sick at the beginnig and my DS was born bang on due date.I was worried a bit as I was preterm myself and quite skinny but no,everything was fine,even his weight (7lb7oz).I was working/studying until 2 weeks before his birth.
Please,relax and enjoy your pregancy

I felt the same way. I have two children, both conceived first month of trying and both totally healthy pregnancies and straightforward labours. I’ve never had the awful experience of miscarriage or struggling to conceive, though I’ve seen lots of friends go through it. I didn’t let myself feel any joy at all in the first trimester because of worries like yours and I regret that.

My mum (who has a very sad history of pregnancy losses) kept telling me that letting myself feel happiness and excitement wouldn’t make the loss worse if it did happen, because I was just suppressing those emotions that were there anyway. I don’t know if that helps. It helped me a bit second time round. Congratulations OP!

I’m exactly the same - I’m 4+4 today and really concerned about the risk of something going wrong. I fell pregnant on the first month trying and keep thinking something is just waiting to happen to destroy this happy time for us. I’m trying to avoid reading too many threads on here and Googling too much which does help a bit but I’m struggling to shake the anxieties at the moment.

My first two pregnancies were perfectly healthy and without any issues. I lost my third pregnancy at 9 weeks and had a chemical pregnancy/very early loss just a few weeks ago. So there's no rhyme or reason to who/why/when they happen

@Firstbabyforme it’s a perfectly normal worry to have, and one that I think every single woman feels whether it’s her 1st or 10th pregnancy. I think it’s mother natures way of getting us used to the constant worry we’ll feel about our babies/children!

My first 3 pregnancies were so straightforward, I didn’t even ever think about negative things. I think because back then I wasn’t a member on boards like MN and so I wasn’t aware of the things that could go wrong.

It’s only now, years later, having ttc for 16 months, hours spent googling things, and browsing on here, that is fully aware of the things that can go wrong. It doesn’t mean that it will, but I’m certainly more aware of how lucky I was with my first 3.

It’s hard but you have to try and relax, stress is no good for you, and no matter how much you worry or stress you can’t change the outcome. The fate of the pregnancy was sealed from the second the sperm met the egg so what will be will be.

Try to enjoy it, and many congratulations!

I felt exactly like this with our first but other than some nausea which then became indigestion I had a straightforward first pregnancy. People generally want to talk more about difficult and traumatic things than when it is the normal level of grotty and uncomfortable so you get exposed to a lot more heartache I think.

All you can do is follow NHS guidelines for keeping well, and try to enjoy it as much as you can 😊

Hi OP - congratulations! I'm the same as you, first ever pregnancy and it felt as though it's too good to be true, so I prepared myself for something awful to happen. I'm now 33 weeks and baby is kicking the crap out of me as I type this message. Miscarriage is common but having a baby is more common... chances are you're going to be absolutely fine. Try and relax - book private scans for reassurance if you're worried. I had one at 7 weeks and seeing the little blob with a heartbeat was worth it

My 1st pregnancy resulted in a healthy girl. Other than a bit of high blood pressure later on the pregnancy was pretty easy.
I've had 10 pregnancies get past 6wk, 4 resulted in my 5 children and current one is 12wk atm.

Thanks so much, this really has helped!

My partner is so excited but I feel like I just can't join in with the excitement yet cause the anxiety is over taking :( x

Just remember people who have went through a bad time or having current issues are the ones more likely to voice it and seek advice in baby and mum groups and places like mumsnet, whereas people that have a healthy pregnancy dont need to, If you get me. People arnt going to write up my pregnancy is going great whats you advice lol! Stay positive

@Firstbabyforme Im almost 31 weeks with my first ever pregnancy ☺️ nothing gone wrong so far, I even did a lot of bike racing/ triathlons during my 1st trimester.
I didn't have an early private scan. Don't get me wrong until you feel them kicking everyday you do worry, but stressing isn't healthy for baby so try and stay happy through hobbies and distractions (which is hard with lockdown)

No it's not normal for the majority of pregnancies to end in loss. I believe the official stat is 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss but this includes early pregnancies that the mother doesn't even know about yet. The odds are in your favour and generally increase as time progresses. It's natural to worry especially if you've experienced a loss or read others's stories.

I felt the exact same so stopped reading things and this is the first time back on in a white! Feeling a lot better for it! Xx

I’ve had 3 pregnancies, 3 healthy babies. Miscarriage is common but it doesn’t happen to everyone. Try to stay calm (easier said than done).

The odds are really in favour of everything working out well. Obviously age makes a big difference. I think I read that there is a MC risk of 1 in 10 in 20s and then 1 in 5 in 30s, which is positive. That includes chemical pregnancies too I believe (could be wrong on that). How old are you?

I'm 27! I'm overweight so I know that goes against me but I know it's still possible cause my sister had a baby when she was older and heavier than me!

Your odds at 27 will be great OP! Everything is stacked in your favour. Obviously no guarantees but please try to enjoy your pregnancy and you will cope with whatever happens in any case.