Give me some positive stories after a missed miscarriage...

[EllieRosesMammy]

Exactly what the title says :) I'm 5 weeks pregnant and every little twinge or cramp I'm worrying I'm going to have another MMC. It's all I can think about all day and I feel like I cant even get excited about this pregnancy. Tell me your positive pregnancy stories after missed miscarriges because I'm going insane with worry here ❤

I'm currently 38+1 after a missed miscarriage! I'm afraid there's probably nothing anyone can say that will ease your anxiety, but try not to fret over every little twinge, or even lack of symptoms. I had crazy period pain like cramps till 9 weeks then suddenly it all stopped and I was sure I was going through a missed miscarriage again. But nope, baby boy has looked perfect on every scan! Good luck, fingers crossed for you!

I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks in 2019, and went in to have twins in 2020.
I was prescribed progesterone and aspirin daily, which can help prevent miscarriage. Since you're so worried, perhaps you could talk to your GP?
Wishing you very best of luck

I had a MMC a couple of years ago which completely destroyed me. I’m now 18 weeks and trying to stay positive. One of my biggest regrets after my MMC was that I had not enjoyed my pregnancy(despite the outcome) and that I spent the whole time worried. I have still been incredibly anxious this pregnancy but think it’s so important to try and keep a positive frame of mind. Easier said than done I know! Best of luck xx

I just tucked my positive story to bed. She's 10 now and an absolute wonder. I got pregnant three months after my missed miscarriage.

It's horrible. My sympathy is with you. I had five miscarriages but only one missed one and it was so brutal and sad. When it came to the scan with DD I couldn't look and then the sonography every gently said, I think you should open your eyes, and there she was!

I had a missed miscarriage in 2014 at fifteen weeks, I was devastated and terrified that it would happen again in future pregnancies.
To cut a very long obstetric history short; I have since had five healthy children and no further miscarriages.

I really do hope that all of the positive stories you receive make you feel a lot better, I remember the utter shock and devastation of my MMC well, it doesn't mean a thing for future pregnancies and I wish you all the very best for your future.

ah congrats @EllieRosesMammy! in a very similar place as u right now after a MMC few months back, and now 9 weeks and been so anxious and stressed. its really hard isnt it. We got to nearly 8 weeks and went for a private scan and saw a HB which has given me some comfort - i know its early days but feel more positive. at 5 weeks i was definitely finding it hard as so crampy but it did ease by 6 :)
keeping everything crossed for u, and lets just take it a day at a time! x

I can relate so much to your anxiety!
I'm 5+6 but had a MMC at the end of Sept at 10+4 discovered the week prior at a private scan (no concerning symptoms, just wanted to see how things were ) so just cant get my hopes up at all. If I make it to 8 weeks then I will have a private scan just to see how things are then. It's so awful. People say "well if you're not having any bleeding then that's good" but when you've had a MMC then you realise sadly that isnt actually reassuring.

My positive story is in his second year at uni.

I had a mmc in 2016 (it had happened at 9 weeks and picked up at 11.5 weeks). I was pregnant again 3 months later and had a healthy DD (we already had a toddler DS). She is fabulous.

The mc was very very sad, although for me something had felt different and ‘off’ from the start - I’d felt extremely unwell and strange since I’d found I was pregnant - very unlike when I was pregnant with DS. The shock for me was finding out how many other people it had happened to when I told them - my MIL, friends, colleagues, so many people go through it.

Sending you the best of luck and positive vibes

I am lying beside my positive story, aged 5, and I'm rubbing her back to help her sleep. I had a MMC in 2014 at 12+4 and I never believed my arms would be filled, months of trying post MMC and 41 weeks of pregnancy. I haven't been relaxed or chilled out since December 2013 and the night #1 was conceived. We're so completely happy with our blessing and we've completed our family with a stinky dog. Don't worry about worrying, it's your role as a mother. Some of us start worrying earlier than others ♥️ I used to talk to myself, it can only go 2 ways, either everything will be okay, or it won't, and if it isn't, I will get through it. I have got through everything else this far ♥️

My positive story is ten years old. Wishing you the best of luck OP💐

Thank you everyone for your lovely stories! They've made me feel a lot better and not-so-crazy for being worried. I think after having a missed misscarrige it makes me a lot more worried because I had absolutely no symptoms I'd miscarried then suddenly started bleeding and passing huge clots (Tmi sorry), to be rushed to hospital and to then be told my pregnancy had ended at around 10 weeks but my body didnt do anything till almost 13 weeks:(
I think if it was going to happen id rather know straight away than have to believe everything was fine for so long and then all of a sudden after I was past the "safe" zone for that to happen. I know I'm gonna keep worrying till I'm atleast at the stage where I'm showing but then I'm worrying more that the stress of worrying is gonna cause another misscarrige 😭🤣 never ending circle of worry haha x

I had a mmc a year ago and a previous mc before that in Aug 2019. My rainbow baby is 16 days old.

Pregnancy after loss is one big mind game. It's completely natural to feel that your pregnancy will have the same outcome as before as you've only got that experience to draw upon.

My anxiety got very overwhelming when I hit 16 weeks. To the point where I knew I needed some help. I self referred for CBT therapy which helped massively and once I started feeling DS kicking from 18 weeks I actually really started to enjoy my pregnancy and felt significantly less anxious from that point.

Wishing you all the best in your pregnancy, take it a step at a time and celebrate all the small milestones on your journey

I recently had a MMC (lovely scan 10+2, baby passed away 10+5, discovered 12wks). These stories are just lovely to read. I particularly love @TripleSeptic's statement that some mums just start worrying earlier.

I agree @EllieRosesMammy that I will worry the whole way (hopefully) through my next pregnancy!

My 8 year old was conceived the first proper cycle after a MMC. I took aspirin with his pregnancy (convinced myself I had sticky blood). MMC's are particularly brutal to be pregnant after, I found getting a doppler helped me immensely, as I'm naturally a worrier.

If you decide to get a doppler- A: Watch youtube vids on how to angle the probe to pick up the HB early (otherwise you'll be there all day trying to find it!). B: NEVER use the doppler for reassurance after movement can be felt- the midwife drummed that into me and it makes sense.

I use a Hi Bebe doppler and swear by the thing. I still use it at 26 weeks with my current pregnancy, albeit not for reassurance but because I like to be aware of what my baby's "normal" is regarding their HB, and I like to record the sound. It's pretty funny when he or she lands a kick right on the probe!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I had a MMC in March of last year and am now 35 weeks pregnant with our rainbow. I won’t lie, the anxiety throughout the pregnancy has been through the roof and I don’t think I’ll relax until she’s safely in my arms but for me it did get easier once past 12 weeks, then past 20 - it’s only gotten really hard again over the last few weeks as we get close to the finish line. I wish you all the best with your pregnancy - try to enjoy it as much as you can and remind yourself that the odds of everything being ok are in your favour xx

Update for you lovely lot. Had a private scan today and saw the baby. Perfectly healthy, nice strong heartbeat and super active. To say we are over the moon is an understatement. I was sooo nervous before the appointment but it was so worth it and an amazing experience going private and getting to see baby on a huge screen, then getting loads of pics and videos ❤❤

Congratulations!! What a lovely update and now you have your own positive story to pass on! ☺️

congrats @EllieRosesMammy thats fab news! now just gotta stay positive :) xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP!!

I conceived again in the first cycle I had after a MMC. At around 5 weeks, I had some cramping and bleeding and I was utterly convinced I was going to lose the pregnancy. The midwifes were fab. They did an early scan which showed not very much and did blood tests to monitor my HCG levels. They were going up, but not doubling as they would have liked and told me to prepare for the worst. However I needn't have worried. At 7 weeks I got another scan and saw an amazing little heartbeat.
My DS is now 5, nearly 6 years old and has just proudly presented me with a beautiful illustrated copy of Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban that he chose himself to give me as a Mother's Day present and harangued my DP to help him to buy, knowing that I would absolutely love it. (He was dead right!)
He's the sweetest, most caring boy and although the MMC was one of the hardest things to bare at the time - I was days away from my 12 week scan when the bleeding started and it was discovered - but it's very hard to be sad about it now as I know I wouldn't have my DS if it hadn't all happened the way that it did.
Wishing you all the best and I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly from here 💐