Cant imagine being a mum

[Lissie1986]

Hi ladies,
I dont know if it's normal but km 26.4 pregnant, and I have waited and wanted this pregnancy/baby for years, I've had 2 losses ferrility issues and failed ivf... and I just cant imagine myself going into labour giving birth having a baby or even being a mother and it scares me j think this way, has anyone else thought like this? Is this normal?

Thank u

Definitely normal feelings OP. There's a whole new other level of anxiety that comes with pregnancy.

I feel exactly the same. I'm almost 12 weeks after 3 losses and I still feel like I'm lying when I think or say I'm pregnant

I have a 5YO son and and girl on the way. I find myself even now thinking OMG i cant believe ive actually had a baby and im a mum, never mind mum to 2 soon. Its understandable your more anxious and a bit more in disbelief due to your issues trying to concieve. But at 26 weeks your well on your way, im due May time too and its going to fly in. Enjoy the process, you'll never be prepared for what a newborn brings but thats all part of it.

It's completely normal. My DS is 11 days old and he is my third time lucky baby after 2 consecutive losses.
As I got closer and closer to my due date I just couldn't imagine going into labour and having a Baby at the end of it that I got to take home. Its a very surreal experience but so lovely at the same time. Everyday I wake up and still the realisation that I'm a mum and have a little baby just takes a moment to register. Prepare for what is within your control and go with the flow for the rest of it.

Totally normal.

In many ways it's good that you can't picture yourself giving birth or parenting, because you're not setting yourself unreasonable expectations.

Also, I found I almost distanced myself from the reality of actually having a baby. It didn't feel 'safe' to succumb and really BELIEVE she was was going to arrive until I had DD in my arms. Though I knew that the odds were on my side, I couldn't allow myself to fully trust that everything would be okay, until I knew it was okay. I think that's relatively normal, but even more so when you've experienced losses

Thank you so much for your replies ladies, I was getting quite worried that if I couldnt imagine it it wasnt going to happen if u get me, I suppose at the beginning of my pregnancy I couldnt imagine being nearly 27 weeks pregnant lol I appreciate all of your replies and it has put my mind at ease thatnk you again everyone xx