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Miscarriage and Orgasm

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 18:32

I have had several miscarriages in the last year. I am pregnant agin, early on only 4 weeks. A fried of mine said tonight that I should not have sex or an orgasm because of my miscarriages. The thing is I masturbated before she came over. Should I be worried? Has anyone had a doctor give them this advice? If so why?

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berolina · 30/10/2007 18:36

Congratulations

I think the thought behind this is that orgasm can cause the womb to contract. But these contractions will not disturb a healthy pregnancy.

Similarly, I have had several mcs and breastfed throughout my last, successful pg - the oxytocin produced while bf is known to be able to cause contractions - I had no trouble with it.

Very much wishing you the happiest and healthiest of pgs.

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 18:42

Thanks so much. That helps a bit. I wish she hadn't said because I'll spend the next week running to the bathroom to check for blood

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VoodooLULUmama · 30/10/2007 18:45

sometimes, if you have an irritable uterus, or recurrent miscarriage, you are advised to abstain from sex ( DIY or the other kind! ) as the orgasm etc can trigger contractions

HOWEVER...

i would have thought that if your baby was going to be lost, a baby that would not make it due to not implanted correctly, or non viable, then an orgasm would not cause that loss, and the pregnancy would not continue anyway

i hope that makes sense

and i hope this baby makes it x

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 19:29

Thanks voodoo

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mamazombie · 30/10/2007 19:37

I am sure that you and your baby (congrats) will be fine.

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 19:41

I saw my GP today. I know she isn't an OB but I wish she would have said something

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 19:48

Congrats!

I was wondering the same and last night dh told me he thought it would be fine and silly me let him mess down there. Nothing went in but I must admit I was worried about orgasm too as my pregnancy is being refered to as a threatened miscarriage (2nd scan on Fri). I've MC'd before too so I know how you feel about the worry - I had no blood after and didn't feel anything different - should I be worried now? I sort of like to think that if I was going to MC, it would happen anyway and not because of this.

What did the Dr say?

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 19:52

All she said was to get as much rest as possible. She didn't say anything about sex or masturbation.

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 19:55

Oh....I thought you might have asked? I think I'll leave it now until I've had my 2nd scan on Friday and then ask the Dr there (although if it's a bloke I might leave it )

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 19:56

See I saw the doctor this AM and was masturbationg around 4pm. My friend said she had been told not to by her doctor

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:03

Oh, I see. I really wouldn't worry too much, sure it will be fine.

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 20:03

Congrats to you Bloodsucking how far along?

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:05

Well I had a scan on Friday which measured 5+5 so early days however the blood test I had done on the Tues made me 6+3 on Friday. They've tried to reassure me not to worry and that the blood test was probably wrong, I just have to wait until Friday to see if it's grown or stopped.

How far are you?

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 20:32

4 weeks. They said nothing to you about sex?

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:35

No - I asked the nice male Dr about 'bedroom business' and he just said some people feel more comfortable not doing so but it's down to choice.

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 20:42

hmm maybe its not so bad then. My OB appointment is on WED so hopefully I'll last till then

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:45

Well dh and I were pretty desperate last night due to having left it for over a week. Tbh, I hadn't felt like it with all going on but we were having a cuddle and I had an overwhelming need for some normality if that makes sense.

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 20:46

It does absolutly. I guess theres nothing we can do about it now

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:48

Yep. I'll just wait til Friday and see how things are. Let us know if you do get told whether or not it's ok.

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 20:50

I will absolutly, My Dh will be very disappointed with the news

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:53

Crap isn't it!!!

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paulaplumpbottom · 30/10/2007 20:55

You said it. I know some people enjoy the break but I actually enjoy it. I just hope that this won't be the case for us the whole nine months. I couldn't stick it

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 21:01

Oh same here. We didn't stop with ds and that was 3 months after my MC. Think I'm just worried because this time it's threatened MC again and last time we lost the baby so we're being extra careful. Hard though as if anything, I want it MORE than usual and no, I couldn't stand a 9 month break!!!

ejt1764 · 30/10/2007 21:14

The reason many people are warned off sex (and masturbation) is that if a mc happens after you've had sex, it can seriously affect your sex life in the future - there's more often than not no link whatsoever, but it tends to make people worried about having sex in the future.

I had 2 MCs last year, and asked about the no sex thing (we had sex during the pg for the 1st mc, and no sex during the pg for the 2nd) ... but when pressed, that's what the doc at the epau said to me ...

Incidentally, I had a baby girl 4 weeks ago - and we had lots of sex during this pg ... and, although I had an irritable uterus, I was reassured about that too ... if you're concerned that you have an irritable uterus, it's suggested that you use condoms to stop the semen (and the hormones in it) getting to your cervix.

Congratulations on this pg ... I really hope it works out for you this time ...

bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 21:16

Can I just ask what a irritable uterus is? I.e. what symptoms? Clutching at straws as been bleeding and have to wait til Friday for scan (sorry to hijack)