Going private for missed miscarriages, what do people think?

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Basically I've had two missed miscarriages since TTC.

One in August at 7 weeks, had medical management and it was over quickly.

This time it's been threatended since December. Medical management didn't fully work and they had to remove the baby from my cervix. I then had to fight for a scan because I was still in pain but told because my pregnancy test was negative it was very rare for any to be left. You guessed it, there was and I then tried a local anesthetic, failed and today had a general.

Feeling very traumatised, let down and every emotion I could.

I know I won't be referred on the NHS until I've had 3 miscarriages but I don't think I can go through it again without knowing I'm trying to seek help.

Has anyone experience of this? What should I expect?

Please, anyone?

I’m so sorry for your losses. I had two mmc and was referred by my GP on the nhs to the recurrent miscarriage clinic with Dr Shehata, who is an expert. My GP said it didn’t matter that it was 2 rather than 3, he was happy to refer. I was over 35 at the time and with existing fertility issues, so this might be why I was referred before I encountered a 3rd loss. I did end up being diagnosed with an issue but by that time I was 15 weeks pregnant, and now have a 10 month old DD. I would recommend you speak to your GP first who may refer you, but there are also private options.

This is just the hardest time and of course you feel traumatised. Rest up now and when you feel ready, speak to your GP. There are some threads in the Conception section of women who are going through similar, I’m sure someone there could help you with private options.

Lots of love x

I paid for some basic tests at a private clinic after 3 mc, last two were missed and also involved traumatic surgical management. We already had a 6 year old who we had conceived and carried easily.

The clinic said they’d recommend ivf as my egg reserves were very low. I was 40. We didn’t want to do that. We just wanted to know if there was an obvious reason for the mc so we could decide whether to call it a day.

They said to hurry if we wanted to try naturally, and when I next had a positive test to ask the gp to prescribe 3 things which the GP did without too many questions, I just showed them a letter. I think that one was aspirin, one was a blood thinner which I injected, and one was progesterone.

This was in early 2018. Alba will be two years old next week. I’ll never know if she would have “stuck” anyway.. but for £400 I’m glad we went private.

Hi, sorry to hear didnt want to read and run but I have no experience of this. Understandable you dont want to go through that again, you would expect better care in a private setting. I find some departments can be quite heartless, ibhad early issues with this pregnancy with bleeding and pain and my EPU wouldnt see me. Hope someone can give you experienced advice!

Hi Op, I'm so sorry for your losses.

I had three miscarriages in total but only two documented so I couldn't get an NHS referral. I did go private as I was terrified it was going to happen again and I didn't want to wait months for an appointment.

It was expensive but reassuring to have a lot of things ruled out. I got diagnosed with natural killer cells, which is something the NHS wouldn't have tested for anyway. I followed the treatment plan for that and had my DD.

The jury is out on if NK cells actually cause miscarriages though so I'm not sure if it helped or not. I'm now pregnant with my third child and haven't followed the NK treatment plan this time or with my second child as I become a bit unsure of it.

If you can afford it, I would recommend it so you have some answers. There could be nothing or it could be as simple as taking baby aspirin or progesterone supplements.

One thing I'd really recommend is looking in to the sperm DNA fragmentation test for your DP. The NHS don't test for it and all my DP's usual test were fine. I strongly believe his high fragmentation levels were causing my miscarriages. After this was fixed, I didn't miscarry again.

Thanks so much for all your messages and kinds words. I definitely need to just rest for now and be kind to myself and then I think will look into it.

It's just heartbreaking as you all know and upsetting to think of going through another one before being offered any help. Will contact my GP in a month or so maybe and see what they can suggest.

Thanks again x

I'm really sorry you've had to go through all of this. I had 2 early losses and always had a niggling feeling that there was something more to it. As soon as I found out I was miscarrying again for the 3rd time in under a year, I booked an appointment with Dr Shehata (same as a previous poster). I had lots of blood tests and was diagnosed with borderline very high NK cells and placed on his complex treatment plan. The treatment plan worked for me and I just had my 20 week scan. I know that everyone is different...but in my case, I don't believe I would ever have carried a baby to term without his intervention. Not accepting "it's just bad luck" as an answer was the best thing I ever did. Wishing you strength as you move forward.

Hi OP - hope you are doing well. I am in the same position now so would be really interested to hear how you got on. I hope all worked out for you. I’m two MC down and still no living child. It’s tough to see light at the end of the tunnel xx