Trying for baby

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Hi all, I am 36 and been trying for a baby for a year now. I have had all the basic tests at the doctors and all is OK, next stage is fertility clinic. My husband has a young boy so we have automatically assumed (rightly or wrongly) he is OK. My periods are normally every 28 days but v she appeared early last month and the last few days my boobs have been killing me, peeing a little more and slight pain in my back so now really confused. Starting to think it's never going to happen!

I would say try to relax and not stress about it. Stress can cause all sorts of problems, one of them ttc! Try to take your mind off it for a while. Good luck!

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Not safe to assume he is "O.K." quick deposit in a pot to get those swimmers checked.
If all is well then it should happen eventually. The more you stress about it the more you will throw off your hormone balance making it harder. I think making a baby should be fun, don't get overly wrapped up in all this ovulation windows etc etc.
I got bfp with current one when we'd only dtd once that month, I couldn't quite believe it lol.

Good luck

Sending lots of love. I'm 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow- we conceived naturally but had been dealing with unexplained infertility. We had been trying 24 months and were just about to start cycle 2 of IVF. I have no idea why it took so long, but I do know I'd mentally given up of it happening naturally when it happened. I know how frustrating it is so sending love x

I was infertile for years (over a decade) then when I had a miscarriage early on (first time conceiving) they did a hysteroscopy (went in with a camera under anaesthetic) and found a fibroid and some endometriosis. Both of these things had prevented me falling pregnant up until that point and had put an end to the pregnancy that I did eventually have. They cut out the fibroid and scraped the endometriosis and voila I was pregnant again 6 weeks later. Now I’m at 24 weeks and it’s kicking me merrily!
Maybe ask for a hysteroscopy if things go on too many months. I wish they had done this sooner. These problems didn’t show up on a scan or through any other test.
Good luck OP.

Thank you all. Its just so frustrating, I am fit, healthy, eat really well and we are very active so it's like wtf at times!

What if your partner was just lucky to have a child? Or he may have been fine and developed fertility issues later. Lots of people have the first child easily but struggle with subsequent pregnancies. Going through checks alone is just 50% of the job. He has to get checked as well. It is very straightforward. He needs to get checked too OP, he's not a sultan who sired 4000 kids to assume great fertility.

Definitely get DH checked. Someone I know had a kid then got married soon after, wanted another child and they were struggling. Turned out something had happened on his stag do which had involved some kind of "impact" down there... when they tested his swimmers were going in circles because of the damage! Obviously not saying that's the answer and I know from experience that all too often you get a diagnosis that there's nothing wrong with either of you (even though there clearly is!) but male fertility can change.

Another thing we learned was that hot baths and hot tubs can drastically reduce male fertility. There was a study that showed after an hour in a hot tub male fertility can go to zero and it can take a long time to get back to normal as all of the sperm are affected not just the mature ones. DH used to love a hot bath before we found that out. Not something I would've even considered before TTC!

Thank you all, will get him to phone the doctors first thing on Monday. Its just so frustrating at times x