just found out I am pregnant.....what do i need to do? Please calm me down.

[yellowbeaker]

I am in a state of shock. We have been trying for a long time (years) without any luck so came to the conclusion it wasn't meant to be.
I have had an ectopic in the past and my tube removed so I know I need to have a scan soon to check that the little bean is in the right place.

I am totally freaking out. We didn't even really have sex this month- we got disturbed by my teenagers whilst in the act so had to stop half way through and then didn't manage to do it again so how I have managed to conceive is quite miraculous!

i've literally just bought a house and it only has 2 bedrooms. Me and DP don't even live together. My mind is going at a million miles per hour. I have also put loads of weight on recently so I know I need to address this asap.

Where do I start? Who do I call?

I haven't even told DP yet - he is going to freak out! I am not sure if I should wait until the weekend so he has time to process everything without having the stress of work. I always had these really romantic ideas in my head about how I would tell him. Now I am just desperate for him to wake up so I can blurt it in his face. OMG are we too old for another child.......so many questions.
I thought i would cry with joy and I am really happy about it but I am also a bit numb.....like OMG this is really happening.

Aaaand breath!!! It's a natural reaction. Trust me, I was right where you are 4 weeks ago. Teenage son, bad medical history, just bought a new house, been trying for a year but assumed it wouldn't happen after my chemo 3 years ago.... then find out I'm pregnant at 38. Feels like both a blessing and a "wtf am I doing" moment!!

But it will be fine. We are older, and wiser!! You have a partner who loves you, and once the shock wears off... you'll be fine

Ring the midwives in your area. If you dont have their number, ring your GPs and ask reception for the midwives number. (GP doesnt need to see you and will just refer you to them) Ring the midwives, tell them you have just found out your pregnant and then answer their questions and explain your history.

Congratulations 👶

thank you. That has just made me cry (in a good way)

It's so crazy. My DP is the most amazing dad to my kids and all I have ever wanted was to give him a child of his own but we thought it wasn't possible. I guess the next hurdle I need to get past is to have a scan to check its in the right place. I have seen online you can have them from 6 weeks. I did a clear blue digital test which has shown I am 2-3 weeks.

I am in 2 minds if I should tell DP yet- he is a massive worrier and if I have another ectopic he will only blame himself. My local early pregnancy clinic isn't letting partners attend either so maybe I will wait till I have had the first scan to tell him. It's only 3 weeks away......but then again I don't know if I will be able to keep it to myself for that long.
It feels like a really weird dream!

Congratulations! It is a shocker but as the poster above said: “breathe!” I don’t think it was possible to get pregnant and have done so six months ago! Nearly there now! In my 40s and sometimes wonder ‘what have we done!?’ But all will be well!
Locally to me you register for a booking appointment with the online. Maybe ring the gp to see what happens in your location. Take it a day at a time. Xx

Sorry... so many typos 🤦‍♀️

thank you for calming me down. I have told DP and he was speechless but adorable. He is cautiously happy and said he never thought he would have a baby of his own. He is a right chatter box usually but is totally stunned but he gave me a massive hug and kiss and told me he loves me and the little ball of cells
I told him he can tell his best friend if he needs someone to talk to. I might talk to my sister too- she is the only one I really trust to tell right now but she has had awful fertility issues so I don't know if thats really insensitive.

I said to DP what will we do about the house (Its way too small) and he said we will muddle through and that we will make it work.

I have filled in the online booking form so they will get back to me and book me in for a scan in about 2 weeks time so I guess I just need to hold my breath and hope it sticks/that its in the right place.

I am quite crampy today but I think thats maybe me being a bit paranoid. Deffo got very sore boobs and terrible acid reflux.

I am really happy but so shocked! I am trying to not get too excited as I know its very early days but its so hard.

Crampy is normal. I was crampy for weeks at first. Good luck OP and congratulations again