Partner seeking abortion

[Sam78985]

Hello Ladies,
My partner of 7 months got pregnant which was not planned. It was a complete shock but both of us was extremely excited. We both have kids of similar ages but living separately. She is currently 10 weeks pregnant. She sent me a message over a week ago that she does not feel ready to have a new baby anymore even though the last 2 months had us planning everything and going through names dependent on the sex.
It was heart breaking to here this even though the baby was conceived on or around my birthday. My main issue now is she has refused to speak to me via phone or text since she told me this over a week ago. I know her emotions are running high but i would imagine at this time we should be there for each other but she has completely shut me off.
I love her and i have offered her my support but there is a wall there now which i cannot get through. I have no idea what is on her mind and what she is thinking. She has her phone consultation in 4days then an appointment will be booked for the procedure. At that time she will be 11 weeks plus.

Ladies can you advise on why she has completely shut me off and this has increased the pain even more and what could possibly be going through her mind? Our relationship was perfect but now i am confused.

Only she can tell you what is going through her head. Odd for a woman to do a complete u-turn like that imo but she must have reasons as losing/terminating pregnancy at that stage is not a pleasant experience. You need to keep trying to find out what her worries are without pushing too hard just simply so you can understand why the decision has been made. If she has made her mind up you just need to be there for her as much as she will allow you to be.
Sorry you are struggling, I hope you can get through it together.

Thank you for you response. When she told me initially she did not want to go through with it anymore, she gave me her reasons i.e work, travelling etc. I respected her views and gave my support. After this she has completely shut me off that is what am struggling with presently.

As PP say, only she can tell you what is going on for her. She undoubtedly has her reasons. All you can do is say that you are gutted but want to understand what is going on for her and want the two of you to get through this together (assuming that is what you do want).

I'm sorry for what you're going through.