Over sensitive and emotional

[Jade97]

I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance. I'm 12 weeks and lately I feel SO emotional and sensitive over a lot of things. Not many people know yet and I feel like the really close family that do know, aren't really taking an interest. They were so excited when we told them but haven't seen them since because of lockdown. Yet no ones really asked how we are getting on, whenever I message about scans or just things in general it feels like it gets ignored or overlooked. Am I just being over sensitive? Anyone else feel like this

I think a lot of people are struggling at the moment, but do your messages get sent to a group chat, or to people invidivually?

My groups are;

My immediate family (Mum, Dad, Bro)
My grandparents (Grandad, Gran)
My partners family (Mum, Dad, Sis)

Whenever I send to the groups, I never get a reply from my Dad, brother, Grandad or partners Dad... notice the trend here? Haha!

If you are sending to individuals, perhaps you could give them a ring instead, as sometimes people forget to look at their phones, or purposefully don't spend much time on them (I know a lot of people have recently started a social media/phone restriction) so could be why? To add, emails, messages and texts can be interpreted in many ways by many people, so unless they literally never reply, I wouldn't read too much into it xx

@CheshireeeCattt

I think a lot of people are struggling at the moment, but do your messages get sent to a group chat, or to people invidivually?

My groups are;

My immediate family (Mum, Dad, Bro)
My grandparents (Grandad, Gran)
My partners family (Mum, Dad, Sis)

Whenever I send to the groups, I never get a reply from my Dad, brother, Grandad or partners Dad... notice the trend here? Haha!

If you are sending to individuals, perhaps you could give them a ring instead, as sometimes people forget to look at their phones, or purposefully don't spend much time on them (I know a lot of people have recently started a social media/phone restriction) so could be why? To add, emails, messages and texts can be interpreted in many ways by many people, so unless they literally never reply, I wouldn't read too much into it xx

Yeah it's mostly a small group chat, it's just where we all share a lot of things. I know I'm being silly I just find some days really tough and I'm not very good at saying how I feel because I feel silly so sharing things is my way of reaching out to people and then when you don't get a response it's like you've been shut down! Why did no one tell me how hard being pregnant was going to be on your mental health ):

I’m a complete emotional wreck when pregnant, bloody hormones. I will say that in my experience honestly most people aren’t that excited about the details of other people’s pregnancies. That doesn’t take away from them being overall excited and happy for you, but particularly with COVID everyone is quite caught up in their own thing at the moment.

During my first pregnancy I had a couple of other friends who were also pregnant and that was great as we would happily spend hours debating every twinge and flutter, detailing appointments, comparing stretch marks etc. Way beyond what any non-pregnant person could stand. If you don’t have that irl then mumsnet is ideal!

I think you are being a bit oversensitive.

As Aozora said, lots of people don't get that excited about the finer details of pregnancy. It's early days and apart from breaking the news, and then your first scan picture (have you actually had a scan yet?) there's little for people to get excited about so far.

I had a family member who broke her pregnancy news at 6 weeks and posted in our WhatsApp group and on Facebook almost daily, or at a minimum 3 times a week with updates, and it was a loooooooong pregnancy for the rest of us. It was very difficult for us all to maintain a level of engagement and excitement that she was happy with.

I feel your pain! I’m 23 weeks pregnant and feel the same way. No one in my family has bothered to see how I’m doing since Christmas. I think as people have said, everyone has a lot in their plate currently. I’d love them to want to see my growing bump and get excited with me, but instead the thought of a new baby seems to worry them. I’m overly hormonal as many pregnant women get ... and my poor husband has no one to share this hormonal me with, to deflect some of the impact of the hormones!

Haha! @BornIn78 people like that are a bit much!! Wow, yes some people do not know where to draw the line on sharing personal info. I have a cousin who was like that with her pregnancy and we still get a completely blow by blow update on everything she does in her day (not the fun stuff) on Facebook, delivered with no irony or humour!

The only things I really share with my groups now, after the 2 scan updates and their respective photos, plus the results of our NCT (in terms of risk, not gender as we don't know )...

• Weekly app update, which shows the cm measurement/weight in the form of a vegetable or fruit/most interesting milestone facts about baby

• Occasional videos of when baby very visibly kicks my belly and I manage to record it

People find it hard to know what to say if you say things like "today baby kicked loads!" or "I'm feeling rough today" or "I peed 6 times last night!" however with visual stimulus, like the app screen shots or kick videos, I normally find responses are more forthcoming.

You manged to join any baby groups on Discord or threads on here? Expecting Mums are the only ones I've found have anything to say in response to the sort of messaged above, non-pregnant people really don't seem to care, and I used to be one of them