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Am I hormonal?? LONG RANT

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Spagbolpls · 25/01/2021 23:48

Heyyy ladies, I'm currently 27 weeks + 1 day.

Feeling exhausted, drained and cranky than usual. Little things seem to irritate me and set me off. I don't know if that's normal at this stage? Or if this is more so being cooped indoors and not getting any fresh air since second lockdown.

It was okay during the first lockdown as I was able to keep myself busy with gardening and working from home. But I'm currently redundant from work and gardening is impossible given the British weather.

I'm currently diagnosed with VTE and preeclampsia and so resting is what I've been recommended (getting annoying now)

I'm also living with my husband and his family; all of whom are very nice but lack common sense when it comes to understanding what's convenient/inconvenient for others besides themselves.

For eg. MIL and FIL went to stay at their daughters house who recently had a baby for a few days (yes they broke the lockdown rules which I oppose... I would do anything to visit my own family but I won't as I'm not selfish)

I was left with my husband's elderly grandma ON MY OWN (husband is key worker and often has to stay overnight)

She can be quite demanding when it comes to eating and preparing her meals as well as fetching odd bits and bob for her. Basically I can't be sat for 5 minutes without her telling me to get up for something.

I get she's old but she is able to do her daily activities with no help when in laws are present. However I feel like whenever they're not there she's constantly pestering me. I can't go bathroom without her asking where I'm off to.

I feel extremely mad at the fact that I'm heavily pregnant and left alone to look after an elderly. I mean is that fair? Or am I being mean?

Husband said he will talk to his parents as he isn't happy I was left alone and he had no prior knowledge of this either. And he isn't happy being a key worker and knowing his parents are compromising other people's health to be out gallivanting.

Yes, they should know better but I feel like I am constantly the last person they'd think about when it comes to making decisions. I feel horrible for saying this but they have ruined what was supposed to be a relaxing pregnancy.

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Wherethereshope · 26/01/2021 06:02

Hormones are probably part of it but not the only thing. I really feel for you in the situation you're in, but given you are all living together sounds like you all could do with communicating together better. Can you not speak to them yourself rather than your husband being the go between? It's only going to get more stressful if the plan is to live with the baby there too

Oneandabean · 26/01/2021 09:41

They are allowed to create a support bubble with another household if they have a child under one so it doesn’t sound like they’re necessarily doing anything wrong there. Hormones probably play a part. However it does seem very unfair that they left you with an elderly lady without asking you first especially as you should be resting. Try not to dwell on it too much and ruin the rest of your pregnancy.

luxxlisbon · 26/01/2021 11:15

If the grandma is able to to do daily activities herself then I don't see the issue with MIL and SIL going out.

Plus when it comes to visiting the other SIL right after birth they are allowed to form a support bubble with her so they aren't actually breaking any rules. Since they live close I'm sure the daughter has chosen her mother's household to be the bubble. I don't really think it is fair to call that selfish or "out gallivanting" to support the daughter who just gave birth.

Spagbolpls · 26/01/2021 17:33

Thank you for the responses greatly appreciate it.

I understand the rule on support bubble. I just don't think it's a part of the rules to have multiple support bubbles. And then it becomes a full blown family gathering just to see a baby?

For eg. SIL has her own support bubble with her in-laws who live 5 minutes away from her house.

We (my in-laws and I) live 1 hour 30 minutes away from SIL.

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Spagbolpls · 26/01/2021 17:36

@luxxlisbon she's able to do her daily activities when she is around my in laws. As soon as they're out of the door, I am given a list of things she needs done. She has tried to do the same thing with in-laws but they don't put up with it.

I sort of deal with it since she's not my grandma that I can easily tell off. I do let her know that I'm pregnant and I need rest but it's in one ear and out the other

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