Pregnant after a miscarriage

[Hmm1272]

Hi, I’ve just found out I’m pregnant after miscarrying at 12 weeks September just gone. My anxiety is through the rough and I’m constantly checking if I’m bleeding every 20 minutes. I can’t sleep properly because I’m so worried. Does anyone have anything that will help ease my mind?? I feel like I’m going crazy

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm nearly 34 weeks pregnant after 2 consecutive early miscarriages so I completely get where you're coming from....I can't lie it doesn't ever leave you. My only advice would be tick off every passing day that's a day further into your pregnancy. Eventually you'll get to different milestones. For me it was getting further than 8 weeks, then 12 week scan, then 16 week private gender scan, then 20 week etc. The early weeks are the longest and worst!! But you have to try and allow yourself to be positive or you'll not be able to look forward and enjoy it. Best of luck for a very healthy happy pregnancy x

Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I had two MC last year, felt really anxious through my second preg (ended at 6 weeks) and through the first 12 weeks of this one.
I started acupuncture after my second MC and it's been amazing - lots of positive visualisations and calming breathing techniques, and lovely to have someone to talk to as well about what you're feeling and going through. As it's fertility/grief/mental health mine has kept going through lockdown, so hopefully a clinic would be open near you if you wanted to try it.
Felt like I could relax a bit after the 12 week scan, so hopefully you'll find that reassuring.
Sorry you've been through a MC - it's a club where no-one wants to be a member

Nothing eases it unfortunately. You just have to celebrate each day that passes and hope they keep clocking up. Congrats & good luck.

I had a mc at 9wk in July. I'd had a private scan that confirmed a heartbeat but I still felt uneasy about it, the following week I held our tiny baby in my hand. I'm currently 10+3wk, dating scan is in 2 weeks. I still check for blood at every loo trip too. Symptoms are much stronger and I do feel better about this one but I just can't relax yet. I think once I see what's going on in there I will feel much better, then it's every milestone that makes it more exciting.

Congratulations! Anxiety is totally normal. I had 2MC last yr at 8wks and 9wks. It gets easier with time but the 1st trimester was really hard and I was running to the loo to check the whole time for at least 2 months! Like another poster said having milestones helps and it gets easier with each one. 9 weeks when I had my MC, then 12 week scan, then hearing HB at 16 weeks, 20 week scan, 24 weeks when baby is viable, 28weeks starting 3rd trimester... I still check if I'm bleeding at 30 weeks - although I think it's just habit now! Good luck and hang in there for now. Know that it will get easier.

@Hmm1272 firstly - congratulations and fingers crossed this time it all goes well.
I totally agree with all the previous posts - while there's not much you can do about anxiety, it helps to have milestones. Also, it helped me personally to go for private scans (especially before week 12 as a reassurance. Sure, anything can still happen, but with a history of MMC I just couldn't manage the wait) a few times, since you're only getting 2 on the NHS. Also, I was obsessively checking MC statistics week by week, although I'm not sure this was particularly helpful.
But yes, I didn't tell anyone (apart from work - I had no choice) about the pregnancy until around week 24 when I started feeling more secure. More secure, but never sure really. Still checking for blood every time I go to the bathroom though.
I've been trying to explain this anxiety to some friends, but none of them understood it, unless they've been through MC.
Big hugs for you, I do hope it will get a bif easier once you've done your scans. Best of luck!

It's weird, thought I was doing much better this time but the last week I've been really struggling with that awful panicked feeling and just wanting to hibernate til it's over.. So just booked in for a last minute reassurance scan tomorrow afternoon to check in at 16 weeks.
12 weeks to 20 weeks doesn't sound that long until you think it's 2 whole months of not knowing how things are going!
So think just do what you need to do to get through - never thought this whole thing would be so stressful!!

Thank you all for your messages, I’ve stopped being as anxious and stopped googling everything! I’m still checking for blood every time I go the toilet, but I’m much calmer the past few days I’m confident that this time is different, I’ll probably try and get an early scan somewhere just to put my mind at ease. Thank you all it means so much sometimes you feel so alone. Xx

I’ve just been epu as I started bleeding, couldn’t find a heartbeat but pregnancy still there... I’m so upset

Oh that is terrible news, condolences.
Take good care of yourself through this tough time