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SCARED baby isn't going to make it - anyone lost all symptoms and been ok?

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 16:37

I posted last week about blood in mucus etc but I'll explain everything to make more clear.

Monday last week - overwhelming feel that someone wasn't right (intuition) and all symptoms stopped (I had very strong metal taste in mouth, boobs tingled from time to time, cried lots about silly things & waves of nausea in evenings)

Tuesday night - dark red blood in mucus

Wed onwards - pinky blood when wiping on toilet but no spotting. More so when I strained, not really had any for last couple of days.

Friday - had a scan and measured 5+5 with gestational sac and yolk sac but no baby. I'd had a blood test on Tuesday which put me at 6+3 on Friday however Dr at EPU said that I should ignore the blood test as not always accurate plus the scan dates tied in with my period, the blood test didn't. Told to come for another scan after a week (booked in for Friday morning).

So the scan didn't confirm anything but I can't help but think all is over. The bleeding was never much and wasn't like last time I MC, it's not the bleeding that's made me think it's over - it's the symptoms just going like that and then the bleeding started soon after plus cramping. No cramping anymore, just worry as it's a week of no longer FEELING pregnant. I know it's only early days and some people don't even feel the slightest bit different til further gone but because I had this overwhelming taste in my mouth etc, I can't help but worry. This week wait is AGONY!!!

Anyone had similar and been ok - any hope???

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poppette · 29/10/2007 17:12

Not posted before but just wanted to say there is hope.

Lost first pregancy at 9 weeks which started with a bleed with clots, four months later got BFP. However, at 6 weeks same thing dark red blood, spotting when wiping, lost all pregancy symptoms and thought it was all over. Went through a week in solid tears thinking I was MC'ing again. Finally picked up the courage to go to EPU only to find a little heart beating away. As soon as we got home all symptoms were back with a vengance.

The wait is a nightmare, but please don't lose hope.

Will be thinking of you Friday.

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 17:20

I'm now in tears just because someone's given me my first bit of hope I thought I'd drained myself of all tears last week but no, they keep coming back. Today I've felt the odd tingle in my boobs but was worried I was getting my hopes up. I've been so up and down. Last week I didn't work due to half term but this week I'm back with my 4 under 5 yr olds (I'm a childminder) so keeping very busy which is sort of helping but then I hold gorgeous little baby mindee and I just want mine to be ok!!!

I'm praying so hard for a heartbeat on Friday!! Wish me luck

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Bellie · 29/10/2007 17:21

ooh looney - I can't think of anything else to say to you except ((((hugs)))))

thinking of you this week and keeping fingers crossed
xx

kd73 · 29/10/2007 17:26

Hi Looney, although I lost all symptons and subsequently had a m/c, my sister assured me that she too suffered a loss of symptons periodically and now has a baby girl!

Keep hopeful

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 17:26

Thanks Bellie. I keep having flashbacks of last ERPC, I HATED it. I hated the contractions (I was forgotten for a bit!) and then they trollied me into surgery when I wasn't asleep yet and I saw all the tools laid out - that was the last time I was put to sleep and it scares me. But the worse thing for me is I want THIS baby soooooo much and can't stand the thought of loosing it.

Anyway, thanks for your support, it means such a lot x

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 17:28

kd73 - thanks

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ClaphamLauren · 29/10/2007 17:54

I lost all of my symptoms (the very few I had to start with) when I had bleeding. My opinion - probably a load of poppycock, but here goes - is that a certain amount of symptoms are psychosomatic (before anyone jumps on me I know lots of people have very real and very bad morning sickness etc). It's very easy to convince yourself your having loads of pregnancy symptoms I think, in my case, constipation, bloating, not liking the smell of coffee and nausea in the mornings and to be honest I've never like the smell of coffee really, I've always had a useless digestive system and the northern line can make ANYONE feel nauseous of a morning.

When I started bleeding I worked on a worst case scenario basis and therefore I think I mentally stopped feeling any symptoms or attributing feelings to the pregnancy anyway.

That and I was so worried that I put nausea down to being anxious and didn't have time to concerntrate on anything else I might be feeling about anything other than the baby/worrying/being scared. I'm now 22 weeks pregnant so there is hope. Good luck

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 17:59

ClaphamLauren - I know what you are saying and it's possible however the metal mouth was terrible, I was moaning lots so that wasn't something I had in my head, it was truly unbearable, I couldn't quench my thirst!! I bloated very quickly like with ds and then it went down towards the end of last week but guess what....it's back again today!! I suppose it's very possible that I stopped feeling so bad due to resting as usually rushed of my feet with all the little ones, toddler groups, school runs etc. I'm so pleased everything was ok with you. I hope and pray the same goes for me! Doesn't help when you fear the worse, maybe my feeling on Monday made all my symptoms go away?

God, I wish it was Friday!!!!

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fawkeoff · 29/10/2007 18:03

i know i shouldnt really tell you this but when i pg with dd i phoned the epau and told them i had horrid stomache pains(i didnt)....i had suffered 2 previous miscarriages and was at my wits ends.they scanned me the same day, and all was well.why dont you rin g them in the morning????

poppette · 29/10/2007 18:10

Great my first post and I make someone cry.

I know exactly how you feel about trying not to get your hopes up. We had gone away for our first wedding anniversary on the day I started with the bleeding and I was so sure that I drank alotof red wine, took far too many hot baths and had a soft egg every morning for breakfast. It was like I was so determined NOT to get my hopes up.

I too am praying for that little fluttering heartbeat on friday.

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 18:16

fawkeoff - I did think of doing that but I'm booked in for Friday because it was too early and they said it's best to wait a week. If I thought it would help then somehow I'd get there (would involve letting parents down and questions etc) but I honestly believe that they'll keep me there 2 hrs again just to scan and say they can't see yet. I like the idea though (and don't blame you as I've only had 1 mc so far and it's terrifying being pregnant after!). I hated being pregnant with ds, wouldn't let myself get attached. IF this little one is ok, I'm determined to not be like that again!

poppette - I know how you feel, I've been so convinced that I've eaten what I want (i.e. runny eggs) and had about 4 cans of stella over the weekend

Thanks for all your support people, I was convinced I KNEW all was over.....now I'm just going to wait and see what happens on Friday.

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daisynova · 29/10/2007 18:22

I had some bleeding at 9 weeks and after a very evasive internal exam, a doctor told me that I was miscarrying. There was no access to a scan machine as it was the weekend. I spent the full weekend in tears and was devastated. On the Monday I was then knocked down by a car that made the bleeding worse but got to the hopital where they scanned me and the baby was waving away quite the thing!

Have a little bit of hope honey and good luck for Friday xxx

daisynova · 29/10/2007 18:24

I forgot to mention that I lost all my symptoms too yet they came back with a vengence about a week later x

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 29/10/2007 18:25

OMG at being told that when they couldn't possibly know and at the hit by a car!!! I'm so glad all was ok, you must have been so scared!!!

Well.....this could be in my head??? But I feel a TINT BIT queezy. This is the time of day I was feeling this way until last Monday but of course all last week I was not rushing about like I have been today. It's probably all in my head but it's helping to give me hope

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ninedragons · 30/10/2007 10:14

I don't think it's all that uncommon to abruptly lose all symptoms and be fine. My cousin's terrible morning sickness, weepiness etc stopped in an instant, she freaked out and had a scan, healthy lovely girl is coming up to a year old.

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 15:18

Fingers crossed all is ok then, this gives me hope but I'm scared of getting my hopes up too high to be more disappointed iyswim.

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daisynova · 30/10/2007 20:22

I was rather upset with the doc to be honest and the accident wasn't too bad - I went straight to work where I spent the next few hours crying until I could get to the hospital to be checked out. Think this baby is determined to come along.

I am hope everything is ok for you honey x

Screaminglips · 30/10/2007 20:27

aww looney

Giving you some good luck vibes for FRIDAY {{{{{{{{{{{good luck}}}}}}}}}}

Roll on Friday!

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:34

Thanks, it really is the waiting that's the killer. I'm still working Friday (I'm a childminder), taking baby mindee in with me, have someone taking ds to school and obviously dh is coming with me. I just don't know how I'll get through til 6pm with mindees if it's bad news. Reckon it will be a MacDonalds for ds that night if it is. At least I don't have any mindees to cook for on a Friday!! And if it's bad news, I'm going to get SOOOO bloomin drunk to numb my brain!! That's what I planned for last Friday (convinced all was over) and then they told me I had to wait a week . I just don't see why they couldn't do blood tests?

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DumbledoresGirl · 30/10/2007 20:42

If it is any consolation to you, I had a sudden loss of symptoms in my fourth pregnancy followed by quite a fair bit of bleeding (like a period but compressed into a few hours). I was totally convinced I had lost my baby, but it turned out I had lost an undeveloped twin and my single baby was fine (now aged 4). That was at 9 weeks.

There is hope for you. Best of luck.

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2007 20:47

I sort of wondered if this was possible because I have STRONG family history of twins. But when they scanned they could only see one sac so I ruled that out. Fingers crossed I'm one of those that have JUST lost my symptoms and it means nothing

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elvisgirl · 31/10/2007 03:00

I had bleeding every week up until 16 weeks then nothing for weeks & even though I had the bump I wasn't sure if I still felt pregnant & wasn't convinced baby was still there until I saw for myself at the 20 week scan cos I was so paranoid from the earlier experiences. I think your body can fool you or your psychological feelings of worry & anxiety etc can take over. In a way it is a self-defence mechanism, trying to prepare for the worst, but if something happens it is going to be awful whether you are prepared for it or not. The only benefit is that you may have some idea of what medical stuff needs to be done. But you can't stop the worrying I know & it's a strange kind of limbo until you know one for sure one way or the other. Just gotta wait it out somehow & hopefully all will be well for you (both).

madamez · 31/10/2007 03:11

Hang on in there andbest ofluck. It's perfectly possible to be pregnant and feel no sypmtoms and have no idea that there's anyone else in your innards - also PG symptoms can stop or change at different stages. I moaned about my sore norks for weeks and blamed them on PMT (didn't know I was PG) and then the soreness just stopped and so did all symptoms but now my DS is 3 years old.

fawkeoff · 01/11/2007 15:14

just wanted to wish you good luck for tomorrow x x x will have fingers crossed for you and the little bean x

hogwarts · 01/11/2007 16:52

Best of luck for tomorrow Looney. I will be thinking of you. I hope and pray that all is well.
(My turn to come with you in your handbag this time) xx

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