How long is polite to announce

[Starstella21]

So we had our nuchal Saturday and all good for our third baby so far 🤞 we have told my in laws and partners brothers but not the extended family that are quite close on my other half's side as his cousin had her third on Wednesday, this family has a lot going on as her husband's mother is terminally ill and the baby was induced due to the bad news and getting results today (she had the baby privately so they could be quite choosy on when he came). So we decided to wait until baby was here so as not to steal any thunder.

My question is how long do you think is polite to wait to announce our pregnancy?
I am fairly close with the mum of the new baby and we have been texting quite a bit but I feel like I'm keeping the news from her.

Thanks 😊

I'd give it another two weeks. Congratulations x

I dont think you need to wait any longer than you have. IMO announcing a pregnancy and actually having the baby are quite different events, so I don't see this as stealing any thunder. Sounds like some more happy news would be welcome.

Why wouldn't you tell her, if you are close?
Just as long as you don't make it all about your baby and are excited about hers, it should be fine.

BTW, I found out I was pregnant shortly after a close friend announced she was. She was 3-4 months along then.
I really just couldn't talk to her about pregnancy without discussing mine too, so I told her in confidence. So, no thunder steal, for sure. And I really didn't want anyone else to know, but it just ensured there was no awkwardness between us.

Why would you need to wait? Her baby is here and healthy. People are just going to congratulate you and then leave you be, surely. It won’t detract from her baby. And it’s hardly her previous first baby, she’s an old hand at it by now.

I told my friend I was pregnant while she wasnin Labour mainly due to me having infertility issues and hoped the excitement for me might speed things along for her. I think its ok to tell her :)

Maybe tell her first, kind of slip in like.. hardly anyone knows but im pregnant, im going to tell extended family later. Might make her feel a little special she knew before others plus youve given her the heads up! Personally i dont think your doing anything wrong, a baby should be celabrated so she should be nothing but happy for you. Its also her third, its not like its her first. But you know her and you obviously have a feeling she may not br pleased so maybe try involve her in it a bit.

Thanks for all your replies I really appreciate it xx